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What to do?

Hi - posting this as anon because the girl I'm talking about reads these pages and knows my username... If you plan on "de-anonning" this thread, please just delete it instead.

So basically, theres this girl I've known now for a few years (as a result of our families being friends). Shes only ever been a friend though really, until lately. Other than some infrequent meetings or if our families meet somewhere, I don't really see her (she also goes to a different school etc). However, we do talk quite a bit on msn etc and though I think she may like me, I don't really know for sure. [As a measure for how well I know her, I probably don't know her well enough to randomly call her or something.]

I'm supposing the thing to do would be to just ask her if she wants to see a movie or do something sometime, but well, I firstly don't know how the context would arise for this (bear in mind we only really ever chat online); secondly I don't know whether she would just be freaked out and stop being a friend either...Well I've never had a girlfriend or anything so don't really know much about how these things work :redface:

...so erm, what am i meant to do?

lol, i suppose most replies are going to be along the lines of "grow some balls and just ask"...well obviously its easier said than done. Once again though mods, if you plan on de-anonning this - please just delete it!

Reply 1

fallen_acorns

I gues, you just have to ask yourself, is she worth the risk?,
see what the answer is...then decide what to do :smile:

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

and if i decide that she is, what do i do? just ask her on msn? isnt that a bit..well, "tacky"?

or do i make it sound like just a one-off informal kind of thing?

Reply 3

HacklyFracture

If you don't know her all that well I would suggest you ask her if she wants to do something like go to a gig, a film or something. Anything really where you can get to know her better and take it from there.

Reply 4

laureleana

Ask her what she's been up to - when she asks you, say you've been watching [enter name of film here]. Then start talking about something you want to see at the cinema cause it looks good (go for something you think she'd like to see too) and if she says 'yeah that looks really good' or something, ask if she fancies going to see it with you.

Reply 5

noodles!

Work out a (possibly uncommon) interest you both have, and get talking about it, then say "noone else is interested in doing ______ (whatever), do you want to ______?"

That, however, is potentially rubbish advice if there isn't one of those interests. So just ask her.