Relationships with cousins family

Basically I just wanted to rant if you like. My family and I live far away from my cousins family so I don't really ever speak to them unless I do visit them. I've always been very shy, so when I see them like at best once a year or sometimes for 2 years then I just feel really awkward around them, in particular when I first see them and that first day. I don't know why and I generally just feel a lot of stress when/if I do see them and it shouldn't be like this! I always stress on the thought of seeing them! But it's ifne after a while but at first it's just a bitakward for me and it's coming to the stage where I don't really want to conitnue like this. I can't be myself sometimes around them, I've always felt like there's a bridge between us and I just hate it, anyways I was just checking if this was the same with other people if you haven't seen them in ages or what? Thanks.

Reply 1

TKnightrider

Hi
My cousins live miles away too and i can safely say, i do feel a bit akward around them, bcause its like well urm how are you. But dont get me wrong were all great pals and we all like each other but it can be a bit scary seeing your cousin like once a year!

Reply 2

Bluelight

Im the exact same we live in the same townime but rarely see each other. And its pretty much arkward and formal when we do. Its not we don't like them we just never see them.

Reply 3

huladancingmunchkin

Definitely. I don't see some members of my family very often and when we meet up (usually once a year) it's very awkward for me. I feel I can't relax and be myself (this may also be because there is no one near to my age).
Perhaps you could meet up more often and do something together so you're more relaxed with them? This might not be possible though.
Maybe you should have a word with your parents about it.. they might come up with ideas to make you feel calmer when you first meet.
Let me know how you get on!

Reply 4

Donald Duck

Lol, in contrary to the previous ones, I don't get awkward, even though I only see them a few times a year and live in a different country

Reply 5

FM08

phew, I thought I was the only one. Ye I told my mum but anyways, like I said I can't really see them often at all, and then there's no real need to speak to them on the phone! It's weird I mean I get on with them fine, great, weird though eh?

Reply 6

huladancingmunchkin

I suppose that's just the way it is! Quite a few of us seem to experience it.

Reply 7

Lizzielizard

Yep. I'm going to fly to Italy to see my cousin's family at Christmas, and I just know it's going to be so awkward. The last time I saw them was 6 years ago. :s-smilie:

Reply 8

FM08

Lizzielizard

Yep. I'm going to fly to Italy to see my cousin's family at Christmas, and I just know it's going to be so awkward. The last time I saw them was 6 years ago. :s-smilie:

LMFAO that is actually funny in a good way :eek:

Reply 9

ro-ro

I'm awkward when I see my extended family because they live far away and I only see them every year or so. Plus they all live never each other and are close. However I've just got back and we get on really well no we're a bit older so I might try to see them more often.

I've also got a half brother and that's really awkward. I saw him for the first time in two and a half years on friday and he went I didn't recognise you (how lovely), we really should catch up I lost all your details (but not my mums!) and then he goes I'm too busy to visit. But he came down last christmas and went to our local pub and saw my other half brother (from my mums side) and STILL didn't call. He stayed for 4 days over christmas. I was real off with him because I don't know what to say and it's hard to deal with his rejection if I try.

I think sometimes as you get older relationships get easier, when I was little I felt left out of my family but now I'm older we share universal loves like going out, fashion and travelling!