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I cant do this anymore
Sorry its another thread about not liking uni, i really dont like it im countin down the days till christmas and this isnt what its meant to be like
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Reply 1
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you haven't really put much information about what you don't like, so I'm not sure how to help...but why don't you check out some of the other threads for advice?
Reply 2
Who ISN'T counting down the days until Christmas?!
Reply 3
thats what this thing is for right 
its ok im not very found of it either! lol
its ok im not very found of it either! lolReply 4
I cant do uni any more i feel so down, im cryin all the time, im makin myself sick aswell im havin such a horrible time.
Im tryin everyfin 2 succeed aswell i cnt do it
i dnt even fink i can cry n e more tears
Im tryin everyfin 2 succeed aswell i cnt do it
i dnt even fink i can cry n e more tears
Reply 5
it happens to everyone darling! i just cant wait till its over - well i can
i cant even count the number of times iv just sat down to study and instead of an hour of productive, independent learning i just cried! but your not alone tho there are like 1000000000000 other people! we all experiance it..itll pass!
smile
i cant even count the number of times iv just sat down to study and instead of an hour of productive, independent learning i just cried! but your not alone tho there are like 1000000000000 other people! we all experiance it..itll pass!
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Cowards
Who ISN'T counting down the days until Christmas?!
muslims.
Reply 7
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Bubbly_blonde
I cant do uni any more i feel so down, im cryin all the time, im makin myself sick aswell im havin such a horrible time.
Im tryin everyfin 2 succeed aswell i cnt do it
i dnt even fink i can cry n e more tears
Im tryin everyfin 2 succeed aswell i cnt do it
i dnt even fink i can cry n e more tears
i think you just need to find someone at your uni who you can really talk to. You've probably met people who you can, you just need to arrange a night in with ice cream, maybe a film and lotsa girly chat, put the world to rights.
I know it's hard cause once you feel so **** you dont want to see anyone, but I guess it has to be done
Reply 8
Bubbly_blonde
I cant do uni any more i feel so down, im cryin all the time, im makin myself sick aswell im havin such a horrible time.
Im tryin everyfin 2 succeed aswell i cnt do it
i dnt even fink i can cry n e more tears
Im tryin everyfin 2 succeed aswell i cnt do it
i dnt even fink i can cry n e more tears
How long have you been at uni? What don't you like about it? Is it the actual university life you don't like or do you just feel crap and horrible for no reason? Trust me Ive been through it but I decided to quit and am now doing the same course at the Open University whilst working and I don't regret it one bit because Ive not lost anything apart from a few hundred pounds. Im not saying this is the answer as its up to you and if you can be happy at uni even if it takes months then try and stick at it. Im just trying to make the point that even if you feel its too much and do end up quiting then its not the end of the world, there are lots of options open to you and you can achieve your goal in life in several ways
Im just wondering though why you hate christmas and why you can't stop crying etc?
Reply 9
Are you homesick?
Reply 10
negated enigma
muslims.
Haha!
Reply 11
What is it supposed to be like? It's not like one giant party with jelly beans and rainbows and all your childhood pets, most of the time it's lonely, it's hard work and it sucks. But you get to be in debt and have a degree at the end. Wooo.
Reply 12
I new it wasnt going to be like a huge party but i thought it would be a lot different and its not i rli h8 it, ive been down to the accomodation place see if i can move and they wont move me. So yeh im quittin after this 1st year and going home.
Reply 13
There is absolutely no point in finishing the first year and then leaving. It is honestly a waste of a year. Part of a degree means nothing whatsoever. Its all or nothing, baby 
Do you have an independant advice unit at your Uni? I had a place called Learning Support, who were basically there to support you. They really helped me when I switched course and my boyfriend when he got kicked out about 4 times.
Why do you want to move accomodation? Housemate problems? If this is what is making you upset try and get into a private house. There mucst be signs up around your uni for people looking for housemates.
But as Riddy says, dropping out isn't the end of the world. Not everyone is cut out for uni. It doesn't mean you've failed. What do you want to do in the long-term, careerwise? Is a degree a necessity?
Do you have an independant advice unit at your Uni? I had a place called Learning Support, who were basically there to support you. They really helped me when I switched course and my boyfriend when he got kicked out about 4 times.
Why do you want to move accomodation? Housemate problems? If this is what is making you upset try and get into a private house. There mucst be signs up around your uni for people looking for housemates.
But as Riddy says, dropping out isn't the end of the world. Not everyone is cut out for uni. It doesn't mean you've failed. What do you want to do in the long-term, careerwise? Is a degree a necessity?
Reply 14
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Maybe transfer to another institution or course after year 1, I'm sure your credits can be brought forward.
Some uni's are willing to help some more than others unfortunately. We had a study support centre at ours, they didn't do the work for you but gave direction if you misunderstood something then after that we still had our independence to find the answers ourselves.
Even the uni's vary a lot, I transferred from a horrible uni where people were purposely unfriendly for no reason and then got to the new one and everyone was so much more friendly - which makes a big difference as you need to be happy.
OU sounds a good choice too, you can still work too and study.
I'm sure your uni would have a councellor who may be able to help cos - you said your crying a lot so I hope you don't have depression as a result of your worries
Good luck.
Some uni's are willing to help some more than others unfortunately. We had a study support centre at ours, they didn't do the work for you but gave direction if you misunderstood something then after that we still had our independence to find the answers ourselves.
Even the uni's vary a lot, I transferred from a horrible uni where people were purposely unfriendly for no reason and then got to the new one and everyone was so much more friendly - which makes a big difference as you need to be happy.
OU sounds a good choice too, you can still work too and study.
I'm sure your uni would have a councellor who may be able to help cos - you said your crying a lot so I hope you don't have depression as a result of your worries
Good luck.
Reply 15
I'm sorry I didn't want to start a new thread I hope you don't mind me invading on this one.
I can see from having read many threads on this forum that I am not the only one feeling this way about uni.
I have still not settled at all. I am desperately missing my boyfriend, even tho I have seen him quite alot since being away its no better becuase when I am with him I am sad knowing that I have to leave again soon.
This is not helped by the fact that I am very intimidated by my housemates, I feel I cannot be in the kitchen when they are because they are judging me. I have struggled to make friends. I try to spend time with the people in the flat next door but it is very difficult becuase I obviously cannot usually walk straight in without knocking for them to unlock the door. They are very nice but because they are all friends within the flat I am still the outsider and don't really fit in - I am there but it wouldn't really make a difference to them if I wasn't.
The final straw is the course, it is a highly compettitive course and at the moment I don't feel entirely committed to it - my heart isn't really in it. I feel that if I desperately wanted to do this then I wouldn't let all the other things bother me, I would be more positive etc. I haven't really been doing any work becuase of all the other things I am feeling, I cry nearly every night and feel awful so I can't get anything productive done. I know that the advice is to keep sticking it out for as long as possible and things will get better, to join clubs and societies, get a job etc. But if I do any of those things my work will never get done. I am so behind already and have exams in 3 weeks which at the moment I can't see myself passing.
The only thing holding me here is how ashamed I am of wanting to drop out, becuase this really was a huge opportunity that loads of people would like but can't have. I was lucky enough to get it but now I want to give it up and I am so scared of what everyone might think and how I will tell them that I have dropped out. I am also scared that I might not find anything better. I'm scared of being miserable all my life and not knowing what to do with it! But I don't think that either of these are the right reasons to stay on a course.
I'm sorry I hope you don't mind me saying all this it helps to get it off my chest because there isn't really anyone I can tell my whole feelings to. I have spoken to a councillor and I get the impression that they don't think the course is right for me either. My parents are stressed and upset/angry about the whole thing because they have spent so much time and money getting me here. And all I can think now is that the getting here was what mattered to me, and not the actual being here - I obviously didn't think that part through.
thanks for reading
I can see from having read many threads on this forum that I am not the only one feeling this way about uni.
I have still not settled at all. I am desperately missing my boyfriend, even tho I have seen him quite alot since being away its no better becuase when I am with him I am sad knowing that I have to leave again soon.
This is not helped by the fact that I am very intimidated by my housemates, I feel I cannot be in the kitchen when they are because they are judging me. I have struggled to make friends. I try to spend time with the people in the flat next door but it is very difficult becuase I obviously cannot usually walk straight in without knocking for them to unlock the door. They are very nice but because they are all friends within the flat I am still the outsider and don't really fit in - I am there but it wouldn't really make a difference to them if I wasn't.
The final straw is the course, it is a highly compettitive course and at the moment I don't feel entirely committed to it - my heart isn't really in it. I feel that if I desperately wanted to do this then I wouldn't let all the other things bother me, I would be more positive etc. I haven't really been doing any work becuase of all the other things I am feeling, I cry nearly every night and feel awful so I can't get anything productive done. I know that the advice is to keep sticking it out for as long as possible and things will get better, to join clubs and societies, get a job etc. But if I do any of those things my work will never get done. I am so behind already and have exams in 3 weeks which at the moment I can't see myself passing.
The only thing holding me here is how ashamed I am of wanting to drop out, becuase this really was a huge opportunity that loads of people would like but can't have. I was lucky enough to get it but now I want to give it up and I am so scared of what everyone might think and how I will tell them that I have dropped out. I am also scared that I might not find anything better. I'm scared of being miserable all my life and not knowing what to do with it! But I don't think that either of these are the right reasons to stay on a course.
I'm sorry I hope you don't mind me saying all this it helps to get it off my chest because there isn't really anyone I can tell my whole feelings to. I have spoken to a councillor and I get the impression that they don't think the course is right for me either. My parents are stressed and upset/angry about the whole thing because they have spent so much time and money getting me here. And all I can think now is that the getting here was what mattered to me, and not the actual being here - I obviously didn't think that part through.
thanks for reading
Reply 16
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Anon1 I sympathise with you, the choice is yours at the end of the day. Maybe you could 'drop out' and work for the rest of the year and save some money. Reapply for next year and find a course you will enjoy and research the unis as each can vary. I know your parents may be upset about the money but isn't their daughter's happiness more important.
Reply 17
negated enigma
muslims.
Wow is uni really this bad?
*scared*
Reply 18
basically, i felt exactly like you did in my first year.
cried pretty much every night... took everything out on my boyfriend cos i was so desperately unhappy.
i finally met my best friend at uni in about november and we become best buds so quickly, then she decided she didnt like loughborough and left to qmul, now she's happy.
year 2 - i'm still not totally happy... very few friends etc etc but i LOVE my course and its the only thing i'm here for now - i throw myself into my course during the week and go home most weekends - its the only way to make things better!
if you love your course then try n hang around!
or if you still like the idea of uni but not your uni, transfer - seriously, if you really want to transfer start looking into it now - i'm not sure when you can apply but it made me friend so much happier, i can see a real difference in her now!
Don't feel ashamed if you drop out - its not your fault if you didnt 'fit in' with a certain university.
Please think about it first though carefully before making any rash decisions - try talking to a friend or parent or someone, see if they can help you weigh up pros and cons!
p.s. i joined societies in year 1 - made me feel even worse than i felt already so there's nothing wrong with you if societies havent solved your problems!
cried pretty much every night... took everything out on my boyfriend cos i was so desperately unhappy.
i finally met my best friend at uni in about november and we become best buds so quickly, then she decided she didnt like loughborough and left to qmul, now she's happy.
year 2 - i'm still not totally happy... very few friends etc etc but i LOVE my course and its the only thing i'm here for now - i throw myself into my course during the week and go home most weekends - its the only way to make things better!
if you love your course then try n hang around!
or if you still like the idea of uni but not your uni, transfer - seriously, if you really want to transfer start looking into it now - i'm not sure when you can apply but it made me friend so much happier, i can see a real difference in her now!
Don't feel ashamed if you drop out - its not your fault if you didnt 'fit in' with a certain university.
Please think about it first though carefully before making any rash decisions - try talking to a friend or parent or someone, see if they can help you weigh up pros and cons!
p.s. i joined societies in year 1 - made me feel even worse than i felt already so there's nothing wrong with you if societies havent solved your problems!
Reply 19
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Anonymous
I'm sorry I didn't want to start a new thread I hope you don't mind me invading on this one.
I can see from having read many threads on this forum that I am not the only one feeling this way about uni.
I have still not settled at all. I am desperately missing my boyfriend, even tho I have seen him quite alot since being away its no better becuase when I am with him I am sad knowing that I have to leave again soon.
This is not helped by the fact that I am very intimidated by my housemates, I feel I cannot be in the kitchen when they are because they are judging me. I have struggled to make friends. I try to spend time with the people in the flat next door but it is very difficult becuase I obviously cannot usually walk straight in without knocking for them to unlock the door. They are very nice but because they are all friends within the flat I am still the outsider and don't really fit in - I am there but it wouldn't really make a difference to them if I wasn't.
The final straw is the course, it is a highly compettitive course and at the moment I don't feel entirely committed to it - my heart isn't really in it. I feel that if I desperately wanted to do this then I wouldn't let all the other things bother me, I would be more positive etc. I haven't really been doing any work becuase of all the other things I am feeling, I cry nearly every night and feel awful so I can't get anything productive done. I know that the advice is to keep sticking it out for as long as possible and things will get better, to join clubs and societies, get a job etc. But if I do any of those things my work will never get done. I am so behind already and have exams in 3 weeks which at the moment I can't see myself passing.
The only thing holding me here is how ashamed I am of wanting to drop out, becuase this really was a huge opportunity that loads of people would like but can't have. I was lucky enough to get it but now I want to give it up and I am so scared of what everyone might think and how I will tell them that I have dropped out. I am also scared that I might not find anything better. I'm scared of being miserable all my life and not knowing what to do with it! But I don't think that either of these are the right reasons to stay on a course.
I'm sorry I hope you don't mind me saying all this it helps to get it off my chest because there isn't really anyone I can tell my whole feelings to. I have spoken to a councillor and I get the impression that they don't think the course is right for me either. My parents are stressed and upset/angry about the whole thing because they have spent so much time and money getting me here. And all I can think now is that the getting here was what mattered to me, and not the actual being here - I obviously didn't think that part through.
thanks for reading
I can see from having read many threads on this forum that I am not the only one feeling this way about uni.
I have still not settled at all. I am desperately missing my boyfriend, even tho I have seen him quite alot since being away its no better becuase when I am with him I am sad knowing that I have to leave again soon.
This is not helped by the fact that I am very intimidated by my housemates, I feel I cannot be in the kitchen when they are because they are judging me. I have struggled to make friends. I try to spend time with the people in the flat next door but it is very difficult becuase I obviously cannot usually walk straight in without knocking for them to unlock the door. They are very nice but because they are all friends within the flat I am still the outsider and don't really fit in - I am there but it wouldn't really make a difference to them if I wasn't.
The final straw is the course, it is a highly compettitive course and at the moment I don't feel entirely committed to it - my heart isn't really in it. I feel that if I desperately wanted to do this then I wouldn't let all the other things bother me, I would be more positive etc. I haven't really been doing any work becuase of all the other things I am feeling, I cry nearly every night and feel awful so I can't get anything productive done. I know that the advice is to keep sticking it out for as long as possible and things will get better, to join clubs and societies, get a job etc. But if I do any of those things my work will never get done. I am so behind already and have exams in 3 weeks which at the moment I can't see myself passing.
The only thing holding me here is how ashamed I am of wanting to drop out, becuase this really was a huge opportunity that loads of people would like but can't have. I was lucky enough to get it but now I want to give it up and I am so scared of what everyone might think and how I will tell them that I have dropped out. I am also scared that I might not find anything better. I'm scared of being miserable all my life and not knowing what to do with it! But I don't think that either of these are the right reasons to stay on a course.
I'm sorry I hope you don't mind me saying all this it helps to get it off my chest because there isn't really anyone I can tell my whole feelings to. I have spoken to a councillor and I get the impression that they don't think the course is right for me either. My parents are stressed and upset/angry about the whole thing because they have spent so much time and money getting me here. And all I can think now is that the getting here was what mattered to me, and not the actual being here - I obviously didn't think that part through.
thanks for reading
anyway that's besides the point really. This is your life and you only get one shot at it. If you don't like what you're doing, then quit or transfer.
furthermore, i'm sure you DO have time for a society or club (i'm a medical student myself). I spend most of my time at uni being behind with work but I always work hard when I need to and do fine, infact I actually do quite well.
don't just stay there because you're embarrased to leave, life is really too short.
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