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Teenage Marriage

I wanted to get some opinions on this.

I'm 16, my girlfriend is 17. We want to get married.

Now, I'd expect some replies of 'you're too young', etc, etc, so if that's you, please don't bother.

We love each other a lot - this isn't some stupid teen romance. We've not exactly had easy lives, and we're pretty sure we're making the right choice. We're both ready for a serious relationship, and we both believe we can cope with it. We're planning on doing it in the summer.

What options do we have? We need parental permission to get it done here in England, but you don't in Scotland, which is where we'd like to get married.

So yeah, thoughts/opinions? Anything I should know?

Thanks a lot for your time.

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Reply 1

dh00001

i would tell you to wait. i know you think you want to get married but alot of people think like that at your age. things could change very quickly.
stay together, make the most of what you have and if you feel the same in a couple of years go for it

Reply 2

The Bachelor

What's the rush? (honest question, if you feel like answering it.)

Reply 3

Meep!

I would really wait if I were you. People change, situations change, but if you two really love each other, you'll be able to get through that and marry each other when you're a little older. You won't regret waiting, I promise.

How long have you been together?

Reply 4

I_am_the_mob

I know you think you are ready and I don't mean to sound patronising but won't you be just as happy just living together and seeing how things go? I don't think marriage is right for young people, be in a very serious relationships, get enaged if you want but you have your whole lives ahead and marriage is a HUGE decision!

Reply 5

The Strangest Quark

I'm not the same person now that I was when I was 17. I doubt either of you will be unchanged either in a couple of years. There's not much to be gained from getting married at your age, and a lot to lose.

Reply 6

m90

Yeah, wait a couple of years, if you love each other you'll wait for each other... as the others have said things change even if you don't think they will now. In a couple of years time you will have had the commitment of each other for far longer and you will know whether things work in the long run or not.

Reply 7

mollymustard

If you love each other then, go for it. I mean, personally I think you are a bit young but if you know you want to be together then prove me wrong!

Its probably better to try and get married in England with parental consent because if you got married without it you could risk losing the support and trust of your families.

Reply 8

Unregistered

What's the rush? If you love her and plan to be with her forever then you've loads of time for all that. Marriage is just a piece of paper, you don't need it to prove anything.

Just because you're in love and ready for a serious relationship doesn't mean you should do this. Yes, you're very young and so much can change in a few short years.

I know because I was engaged, for a long time. It ended and at your age, I didn't expect it to happen at all. Not in a million years, I was the happiest ever and things were perfect. But, as you move out of your teens and into your twenties and even later on you change, massively. I'm a completely different person and i'd outgrown my ex. It wasn't easy but it was for the best and I can see that very clearly now.

I'm not saying that you'll be the same, good luck to you and I hope you do stick it out if you make each other happy. BUT, calm down! No need to rush!

Reply 9

Dream_Catcher

Reply 10

Overground

I'm sure you do. But it's too young - set yourself a time limit, summat like 6 months, then re-think it then.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

Thanks for the replies.

There's no rush really. It's just something we both really want to do.

I think we both just see it as a way of bringing everything together. It's hard to explain really. It just sort of feels right, you know?

Maybe I'll bring up the idea of waiting. It's not like we're getting married so the other one doesn't 'run off' with someone else. We both believe 100% that we're in a secure relationship.

We've been together a year and a bit now.

Reply 12

pocahontis

You scary people!
i'm 17 and wouldn't get married now if you paid me

Reply 13

Vohamanah

If you love each other and really want to do this you don't need validation from us. If you've set your minds to it then go for it. there's nothing wrong with getting married young.

But as someone has already pointed out, if you are planning to be together forever anyway there's no need to rush.

Reply 14

h82think

Go for it. I think there is nothing wrong with young people getting married (I am bias being engaged at 18(am now 19))

Reply 15

dh00001

food for thought- when i was 17 maybe 18 i wanted to marry my girlfriend. i knew it was what we both wanted, i was ready for it. i looked at rings, found out her size, dreamt of how it would be done etc.
we broke up in summer.

Reply 16

Vohamanah

In response to your recent post... how about an engagement instead? You could really mark the event and have it as a new start for both of you. Get her a nice ring, have a party. Its a nice celebration of your love for each other and its less hasty than getting married.

Reply 17

Bubblebee

I was engaged for a few years, I can honestly say marrying him would have been the biggest mistake ever. You say you love her then why not wait?

Reply 18

Innuendo_anonymous

How long have you been together?

I'd still say you were too young though.

Reply 19

username47781

Woooh slow down, you two are so young. You want to live your lives a bit first before settling down. Plus your feelings could easily be different in a couple years time.

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