Councilling - embarassed

Thats stupid and selfish of you to say or sook over. Think about what it must be like for people with real problem to go and spill to a counselor.
You're just lazy. Simple as that and very arrogant by the sounds.
/bitch.

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blackswan

Thats stupid and selfish of you to say or sook over. Think about what it must be like for people with real problem to go and spill to a counselor.
You're just lazy. Simple as that and very arrogant by the sounds.
/bitch.

Sorry for coming across that way. IF you really want to know why I got into this rut it is basically because this is actually the FIRST time in my life I have had a lot of female attention. So as it is new to me, and I have never had it before I got distracted - like badly. What would you do if for example your in bed and girls phone you early hours in the morning asking you to go over to theirs - I know it would be sensible to say no and just go to your lectures. But, when you have never had it before - it is a nice feeling of actually being wanted for the first time of your life. Same when girls ask you over for dinner etc, the sensible choice would be to study my degree (...that is why I am here) but again it is all new to me and I gave into temptation.

So yeah thats how I became addicted to partying, because at the moment I feel as though that is the only way I am going to get girls interested in me - if I am out there and meet them. For two years I had none of this actually I remember I used to crave for getting opportunities like this - now I am getting them, I kinda don't want it to stop...In the process I have developed a reputation for being that "really cool guy", so I just think that if I get caught I may get that loser rep I had for like two years here at university. But yeah it has got to a point where my degree is on the line and it has got to stop - willing to give it all up to save it. So sorry for coming across as an arrogant jerk.

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Anonymous

Sorry for coming across that way. IF you really want to know why I got into this rut it is basically because this is actually the FIRST time in my life I have had a lot of female attention. So as it is new to me, and I have never had it before I got distracted - like badly. What would you do if for example your in bed and girls phone you early hours in the morning asking you to go over to theirs - I know it would be sensible to say no and just go to your lectures. But, when you have never had it before - it is a nice feeling of actually being wanted for the first time of your life. Same when girls ask you over for dinner etc, the sensible choice would be to study my degree (...that is why I am here) but again it is all new to me and I gave into temptation.

So yeah thats how I became addicted to partying, because at the moment I feel as though that is the only way I am going to get girls interested in me - if I am out there and meet them. For two years I had none of this actually I remember I used to crave for getting opportunities like this - now I am getting them, I kinda don't want it to stop...In the process I have developed a reputation for being that "really cool guy", so I just think that if I get caught I may get that loser rep I had for like two years here at university. But yeah it has got to a point where my degree is on the line and it has got to stop - willing to give it all up to save it. So sorry for coming across as an arrogant jerk.

hmm lol
Was that little spiel suppose to change one's view about you? Because I think it made it worse. :p:

Now all I'm hearing is for the first time in your life you're getting laid, and think the attention is better than doing any work. What a joke.

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blackswan

hmm lol
Was that little spiel suppose to change one's view about you? Because I think it made it worse. :p:

Now all I'm hearing is for the first time in your life you're getting laid, and think the attention is better than doing any work. What a joke.

Yeah well thats what sex can do to a man (or more to the point, anything pleasureable in life - just look at the "I want to get laid thread in this very forum"). Besides its like anything pleasureble in life, once you get it once - you want it more..

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OP

...and just to add, it is quite obvious I am not gods gift to women otherwise it would be easy for me to get laid or have female attention to begin with...I have to work for it - otherwise I get unnoticed.

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Rutter knows best!

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Anonymous

...and just to add, it is quite obvious I am not gods gift to women otherwise it would be easy for me to get laid or have female attention to begin with...I have to work for it - otherwise I get unnoticed.

defeats the purpose.

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Anonymous

Yeah well thats what sex can do to a man (or more to the point, anything pleasureable in life - just look at the "I want to get laid thread in this very forum"). Besides its like anything pleasureble in life, once you get it once - you want it more..

You're sounding selfish. You sounded like sex is the most important thing in life. And that is you didnt have a female 'available' you'd make one available!

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blackswan

You're sounding selfish. You sounded like sex is the most important thing in life. And that is you didnt have a female 'available' you'd make one available!

I actually want a stable relationship , unfortunantly I was **** in bed with the first one. So the girl I shagged buggered off - well it was my first time. The other girls, understandably I was pretty nervous with in terms of making the move after that experience, in case they would bugger off too....so I didn't do anything with them with the exception of having a few dates. This ended up with them sticking me in the friends zone as a result. It is frustrating. With other girls I am just 'fling material' (if I meet them on a night out...expected eh?? Though I see a lot of these girls during the day around university or have them on facebook). So yeah, I just hope that eventually I meet a girl that just appreciates me for who I am where attraction is mutual, and is persistant by actually wanting to hang out with me constantly - only one girl has ever acted this way with me and that was two years ago. I miss her for that - def would have been gf material (she isn't here anymore unfotunantly)

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Ok im liking you a tiny bit more now.

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blackswan

Ok im liking you a tiny bit more now.

Yeah well I am not a knob, besides I don't think I could become a proper player given though I am still so sexually inexperienced. I just put an act on - so that I give the impression to girls that I am not desperate or needy - which from experience is a complete turn off as you come across as insecure rather then CONFIDENT :smile:

But yeah, as you can imagine 20 odd years of nothing, then bang all this happens...You realise there is more to life then your degree. Your degree (although very important in the long term) cannot teach you about love or relationships - you can only learn this by experiencing it and I can imagine that it can be a wonderful thing to experience; it is nice enough feeling being wanted let alone that. :smile:

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Lauren-silk

i think you need to slow down...how long is your course? if this is your last year you may need to clam down on the going out and sacrifice a few nights to spend in, getting some extra sleep or catching up on that extra work because at the end of the day your friends maythink it's not cool to stay in and not get drunk or whatever (my boyfriend is getting the smae from his mates) but if you get a better degree than them at the end of uni, how chuffed are you going to feel that you put that extra work in.
as to going to see the counsellor, do it because maybe they can help you sort out a study program or something where you can organise your time during the day to work and the evenings to go out so you can still go out
Lauren

Reply 14

rococo00

Don't worry what others think of you, so what if they see you?
Just go. I hope this helps. Good Luck!

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Eien

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Even Tony Soprano needed a counsellor, and he was part of the Mafia! :p:

Seriously though, it proves a point, anyone can see a counsellor, you don't need to be a social recluse who has severe mental illness to see one.

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Eien

Even Tony Soprano needed a counsellor, and he was part of the Mafia! :p:

Seriously though, it proves a point, anyone can see a counsellor, you don't need to be a social recluse who has severe mental illness to see one.

I went, erm don't really know what to think fo the whole experience - I left with more questions then answers. She just listened to me and thats it. There is something so nerve racking about telling a complete stranger your problems.

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guitargirl03

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I've been to the counsellor a few times whilst at uni, today being one of those times. A counselling environment is usually very private and unless one of your friends is having counselling at the same time as you, I doubt anyone will even know you've been, unless you tell them. If you're in desperate need of help, worrying about what other people think shouldn't really be a factor getting in the way.

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