Just found out that my cousin has got cancer..

i just found out today that my cousin has got cancer.. of the lung, liver and spleen

i dont really understand whats going on, how far the process is or anything, they only found out today

i just burst into tears, i feel really guilty cos i havent seen him in a few years. i just cant believe it could happen someone of our age (hes two days older than me - 18)

hes one of the sportiest people i know, i just dont understand how it happened

im realy worried at the fact that its in three places - this means it has spread i assume, and therefore is quite far along?

i dont know whats going to happen, im just so worried..

anyone else whos been in this situation - can you offer any advice at all?

Reply 1

milly.

The same happened with my granddad, but I was far too young to appreciate it. I'm really sorry that you're going through this, I guess the best thing to do is get in touch with him, offer him your support and make the most of his life, whether he's got long left or not.

Reply 2

LiL MiSs cHeEkY

so sorry to hear the bad news
haven't been in the situo but id advice you to get in touch and just try to spend as much as time together as poss
and pray if you believe in God..i do so i'll pray for him/her
keep strong darlin

Reply 3

~Laura~

Is there someone at home that you can talk to? Maybe ask exactly what's going on? My nan had cancer but I was young and so wasn't really told anything at first. But when I was then my mum sat down and told me what was going on.
I agree that you need to make the most of whatever time you have with him, don't think about how you haven't seen him in a while, just be there for him now and then that won't matter.

Reply 4

*pink_sapphires*

It's 3 years today since my best friend died of cancer. She was 14. I know exactly what you're going through and I will PM you now to offer my support. :hugs:

Reply 5

randomgirl

Aw that is such a shame. Especially as he is so young.

Both my dad and grandad have had cancer, I know how it feels to find out a close relative is ill :frown:

I suggest you speak to your parents or a relative who knows more than you do and try and find out whatever you want to know. Are you particularly close to your cousin? Maybe visit him and show your support? Let him know that you are there to speak to if he ever needs it.

randomgirl.

Reply 6

Grey Area

Really sorry about the bad news.
The fact its spread is not encouraging, but I don't know enough to say whether or not theres a chance. Either way don't feel guilty about not seeing him recently, do go visit him. If it was me, I'd want some friendly faces around right about now.

Reply 7

Dream_Catcher

I don't know what to say to be honest.

My grandmother died two years ago with breast cancer. At first the doctors announced that she would go for treatment and have one breast removed, but by time the date was arranged. It was found that it had spread through those rods (have no idea what they are called) to her lungs and then bones. It all happened so fast and she died a month after being told she had breast cancer :eek:

I guess what I'm trying to say is that things can change so suddenly and all you can do is be there for the person who needs you. Reminisce on old times you both had and just enjoy the time you have together. It's really sad, as he's only young :frown:

Reply 8

emerley

thanks everyone, youre all so supportive

i guess the hardest thing is that he only found out today, and we have no idea what his prospects are.. hes having further tests and everything, its just the not knowing thats killing me

its also the fact that its spread so far already... i cant help but think thats a really bad sign. he felt fine untill last week, when he had to come home from uni cos he got so ill so suddenly, thats why its such a shock

ive sent him a message saying that im here for him and everything. i guess theres not much more i can for now. i might suggest going to see him with my family soon, cos i really havent seen him in ages

my parents were planning on not telling me until they knew more, it was actually my sister that told me, cos she didnt think it was right not to tell me. that upset me a bit.. i mean its bad enough being away at uni not being able to help, but to not be kept in the loop is awful. i understand that my mum didnt want to distract me from my work but still.. it hurt

Reply 9

~Laura~

With regards to your mum not telling you, she was in a really awkward situation. She probably wanted to be there with you when she told you and so didn't want to tell you whilst you were at Uni. Especially as there aren't that many details at the moment, although I do understand how you feel. The only thing you can really do is be there for him. At the moment you don't know what the prospects are so maybe try a bit of positive thinking, it's hard I know!