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20 years old, lonely, single and I have no friends.

Hi,

I just wanted to post my situation to see if anyone was in the same position as me as I know that I am not a 'normal' 20 year old girl. I have no friends and I mean that literally. I stay in every weekend in fact I have never been on a night out. guys have never showed any interest in me and i haven't been kissed. I don't think I am ugly nor am I a 10 but somewhere in between. I don't have anxiety issues or anything like that. So whats the problem?

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CGSW
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do you go to uni/have hobbies? Maybe a change of city/move away would help get you out of this rut, a change of scenery always helps.
Original post by whats_the_point
Hi,

I just wanted to post my situation to see if anyone was in the same position as me as I know that I am not a 'normal' 20 year old girl. I have no friends and I mean that literally. I stay in every weekend in fact I have never been on a night out. guys have never showed any interest in me and i haven't been kissed. I don't think I am ugly nor am I a 10 but somewhere in between. I don't have anxiety issues or anything like that. So whats the problem?


Did you apply yourself really hard in school and thus got cut off from a social life that way? Are you at university? If so then wait till you get your future job. All of my teachers say that when your older your friends are your colleges, so don't worry. :smile:
Original post by whats_the_point
Hi,

I just wanted to post my situation to see if anyone was in the same position as me as I know that I am not a 'normal' 20 year old girl. I have no friends and I mean that literally. I stay in every weekend in fact I have never been on a night out. guys have never showed any interest in me and i haven't been kissed. I don't think I am ugly nor am I a 10 but somewhere in between. I don't have anxiety issues or anything like that. So whats the problem?


What's the problem? That you don't have a bf, or that you don't go out?
What is your personality like? What are you interests?
Original post by whats_the_point
Hi,

I just wanted to post my situation to see if anyone was in the same position as me as I know that I am not a 'normal' 20 year old girl. I have no friends and I mean that literally. I stay in every weekend in fact I have never been on a night out. guys have never showed any interest in me and i haven't been kissed. I don't think I am ugly nor am I a 10 but somewhere in between. I don't have anxiety issues or anything like that. So whats the problem?


My post wont make you feel better and neither do I have the answer to your question but just wanted to say reading your post does make me feel better. I turned 20 a couple months ago and I too am lonely, live with my mum, got no friends, never go on night out or been to parties or anything. I will be starting university next year so I'm hoping that will change things a little for me but I still feel like my life will never be normal as most kids would be 17/18 whereas I would be 21. So reading your post makes me feel a little better (no offence to you!) because I know I'm not the only one out there who's 20 and a totaly virgin at everything.
Original post by transient life
My post wont make you feel better and neither do I have the answer to your question but just wanted to say reading your post does make me feel better. I turned 20 a couple months ago and I too am lonely, live with my mum, got no friends, never go on night out or been to parties or anything. I will be starting university next year so I'm hoping that will change things a little for me but I still feel like my life will never be normal as most kids would be 17/18 whereas I would be 21. So reading your post makes me feel a little better (no offence to you!) because I know I'm not the only one out there who's 20 and a totaly virgin at everything.


your reply made me realise that at least other people have the same problem so thank you
Original post by whats_the_point
your reply made me realise that at least other people have the same problem so thank you


no thank you for creating the post. honestly i dont think i had a conversation with someone in so long that i cant express my feelings even though ive been lurking on here thinking about creating a thread and letting it all out. if you ever feel like you need to talk to someone feel free to pm me :smile:
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Original post by whats_the_point
Hi,

I just wanted to post my situation to see if anyone was in the same position as me as I know that I am not a 'normal' 20 year old girl. I have no friends and I mean that literally. I stay in every weekend in fact I have never been on a night out. guys have never showed any interest in me and i haven't been kissed. I don't think I am ugly nor am I a 10 but somewhere in between. I don't have anxiety issues or anything like that. So whats the problem?


Original post by transient life
My post wont make you feel better and neither do I have the answer to your question but just wanted to say reading your post does make me feel better. I turned 20 a couple months ago and I too am lonely, live with my mum, got no friends, never go on night out or been to parties or anything. I will be starting university next year so I'm hoping that will change things a little for me but I still feel like my life will never be normal as most kids would be 17/18 whereas I would be 21. So reading your post makes me feel a little better (no offence to you!) because I know I'm not the only one out there who's 20 and a totaly virgin at everything.




For some reason I find the female loner fascinating.

I always wonder how it is even possible for girls to end up in this position.

But you both have my sympathy.
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Maybe you should go out more, perhaps join clubs and societies?

What is your personality like?

You could try online dating, speed dating, joining clubs based on interests, meeting people through education, going out more and being more approachable. Also join meet up groups online. Get yourself out there.

I'll be your friend and if you need to talk, feel free to PM me :smile:.
I've been there and have felt the same way. It's only temporary :smile: if I were you, I'd go to meet-ups if you have many of them in your area. Just talk to people and come out of your shell a bit. Join a club (sports, arts or whatever you like) and go! Force yourself even if you don't feel like it.

I am huuuuugely introverted but feel great when I've socialised so if you're like me, you must push yourself a bit.

As for lads, you're only 20 and you will meet them. Believe me!
I am 18 in a few months and am in a similar situation, although, I do have anxiety.
Original post by stefano865
For some reason I find the female loner fascinating.

I always wonder how it is even possible for girls to end up in this position.

But you both have my sympathy.


Thank you. I can't speak for the other poster but for me it is life events and 3+ year long battle with depression and the person I've become as a result of all that. It's not that I am not a social or person or can't hold conversations, it's also not that people don't want to be my friend or date me. Things just happen and it is how it is you know?
Original post by transient life
Thank you. I can't speak for the other poster but for me it is life events and 3+ year long battle with depression and the person I've become as a result of all that. It's not that I am not a social or person or can't hold conversations, it's also not that people don't want to be my friend or date me. Things just happen and it is how it is you know?




I can very much relate to this.
Original post by stefano865
I can very much relate to this.


I don't mean to be nosy but mind if ask in what way? Sorry it's just nice knowing you're not the only one who went through certain things in life. You could PM me if you like but I also understand if you don't want to talk about it :smile:.
Original post by transient life
I don't mean to be nosy but mind if ask in what way? Sorry it's just nice knowing you're not the only one who went through certain things in life. You could PM me if you like but I also understand if you don't want to talk about it :smile:.



If you're interested in chatting then pm me. :wink:

Makes sense to do it privately.
Original post by queenofswords
What is your personality like? What are you interests?



I'm not outgoing and full of energy but at the same time I'm not a bore. I don't like staying in and I will often go out just to get out of the house
Original post by transient life
My post wont make you feel better and neither do I have the answer to your question but just wanted to say reading your post does make me feel better. I turned 20 a couple months ago and I too am lonely, live with my mum, got no friends, never go on night out or been to parties or anything. I will be starting university next year so I'm hoping that will change things a little for me but I still feel like my life will never be normal as most kids would be 17/18 whereas I would be 21. So reading your post makes me feel a little better (no offence to you!) because I know I'm not the only one out there who's 20 and a totaly virgin at everything.


I've never related to something so much.. I'm turning 20 in August and it just reminds me of how I have no friends to celebrate with! I literally only talk to my mum and hoping to start uni in '18.. I'll be like a baby opening their eyes for the first time lmao didn't think there was anyone else feeling the same!
Original post by Izziekins
I've never related to something so much.. I'm turning 20 in August and it just reminds me of how I have no friends to celebrate with! I literally only talk to my mum and hoping to start uni in '18.. I'll be like a baby opening their eyes for the first time lmao didn't think there was anyone else feeling the same!


Thanks for posting! People like us do exist haha. what do you hope to study at uni and which units are you looking into? :smile:
Original post by Izziekins
I've never related to something so much.. I'm turning 20 in August and it just reminds me of how I have no friends to celebrate with! I literally only talk to my mum and hoping to start uni in '18.. I'll be like a baby opening their eyes for the first time lmao didn't think there was anyone else feeling the same!


The only people I talk to are my immediate family which is fine but I miss having a friend to share secrets with or text and I turn 21 soon and have no one to celebrate with which is really sad

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