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Pattern??

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Recently I have noticed that my closest friends always seem to be the same sort of people. They are always more popular than me, seem more well liked than me, people find them more attractive, if we have similar ideas then they will be the ones who do something about it or go for it whereas ill sit back and wait and then think its too late becasue they have already done it. Then after a couple of years we drift apart and I find a new friend like this. I always seem to have one closest friend who is like this and we are kind of like a two for the period of time that we are friends.

This isnt one of those threads where I lack confidence or whatever. Im generally confident, more so with people I know as I am a little shy if I dont know people. I know other people like me for me. And I know people do think I am pretty. I just think that I keep putting myself in positions where I am jealous of my closest friend. And wish people liked me like they liked my friend and at times it can get me down.

Has anyone felt like this and knows why I do this to myself, keep putting myself in this position, or how to get out of it? Any advice is much appreciated.

Reply 1

dont compare yourself or feel you need to be in competition.
if people like you already then why worry about it