Councelling

I had an introductory session with a councellor on tuesday but im really not used to trusting people and found it really difficult.
Its like i have all this stuff going aroung my head but as soon as i go and try to talk about it my mind goes blank if you know what i mean.

Any advice???

Reply 1

dh00001

well it will be hard, stick at it and things will come :smile:

Reply 2

kimzotic

If you find it hard to talk, maybe you could write some things down before you go to your next session then show this to the counsellor & use this as a basis to talk about things.

Reply 3

fake plastic love

Start talking about more general things that are bothering you, and hopefully you'll open up more as you go on. :smile:

Reply 4

hannah_dru

Its natural for everyone to find the first few counselling sessions odd anyway as you've only just met the person, yet are pouring out emotional stuff to them.

Reply 5

Helenia

Keep going with it and you'll become more used to it. And it's counselling.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Thanks for the advice guys
and yer sorry my spelling is appalling :smile:

Reply 7

drac

you could always write like a mini diary of how you feel, with the intention of showing it the councillor. so youd have your feelings as they are there, but as its being shown youd have control, then maybe the councillor could read it and ask about it.. gaining trust and comfort?
dno seemed a good idea when it popped into my head

Reply 8

Nally

They're all really great ideas, also you could talk to the counsellor about how you feel when you're sitting in the counselling room - are you scared? apprehensive? etc... If you start off small and then eventually as you build a therapeutic relationship between yourself and your counsellor, as trust starts to build up you'll find yourself opening up more. The counsellor will work at your pace so don't feel you have to rush anything.

Reply 9

jointhedots

Anonymous

Its like i have all this stuff going aroung my head but as soon as i go and try to talk about it my mind goes blank if you know what i mean.

Counsellers are trained to help you talk. If you're having trouble getting the words out, your counseller should be asking questions to help you. If they aren't (some people prefer the less intrusive approach) then you could see about changing to someone who'll prompt you a bit more...Or tell your existing one that that's the case and see if it changes.

What Nally said ^^ about talking about how you feel about the actual counselling is a really good idea too :smile: