Stress

I really can't cope with how stressed I am.

I've been like this for 2/3 years now, but now I'm at Uni it's worse. The worst thing is that it's starting to manifest itself in major health problems - migraines, insomnia, colds, heart pains and really bad eczema all over my face and body. The eczema is destroying my confidence, and means i never want to go out and expose my body. To be frank it's destroying my sex life as well. Sometimes it hurts so much I have difficulty sitting in a lecture or walking, and it's so itchy. Because it's in my scalp, dead skin is starting to come out in my hair and clothes.
(sorry about that mini rant there)

It's all cyclical as now i'm stressed about being ill, and i'm wasting time trying to medicate myself and catch up on extra sleep etc.

The thing is, I have little to be stressed about - i have good friends, family and a lovely boyfriend. It's just work, which i never seem to get done or do to the best of my ability. I'm at one of the best unis in the country and i feel pressure to keep up with everyone else on my course.

I really am desperate, and i don't know what to do about it. I don't have a very good history with doctors bearing in mind, and not even a dermatologist could help with my skin.

What should I do? I got away with doing no work at all for GCSES and AS, but it started to become evident at A Level, now I'm even more concerned.

thanks, xxx

Reply 1

Hooriya Qazal

hey,
such things to happen in life..and just giving one a word of advice is very easy rather than actually following it..but still..as far as i feel...why dont you go to a psychologist?..or talk to a good friend in great detail about it..like regarding your skin..arnt the medcines working out to be good or atleast showing some imporvement in your skin?...concentrate on your stuides well and stop being distracted by such things..if u need any help is ur A levels we're here..try to involve yourself in other activities..so that your mind is not always stressed..do something which makes you feel happy..infact PRAY...it really lightens one heart..,,

Reply 2

YAP

Anonymous

I've been like this for 2/3 years now, but now I'm at Uni it's worse. The worst thing is that it's starting to manifest itself in major health problems - migraines, insomnia, colds, heart pains and really bad eczema all over my face and body.

I really am desperate, and i don't know what to do about it. I don't have a very good history with doctors bearing in mind, and not even a dermatologist could help with my skin.

It sounds like underlying stress is causing you a lot of physical symptoms, and it's this which needs addressing. It is likely that a dermatologist couldn't help with your skin because it's your stress that needs treating: fix this, and the rest will start to fall into place.

The good news is that there's a lot that can be done to help you with this :smile:

. If you're reluctant to go and see a GP, an alternative good place to start would be the university counselling service. They can help talk you through things and manage your stress.

Just out of interest, have you ever talked to your GP about your stress problem, even in passing?

The thing is, I have little to be stressed about - i have good friends, family and a lovely boyfriend.

Guilt is quite common in these settings - the sense that you should be able to stop all the bad feelings because you think you don't have cause to be stressed. But, it's not your fault, you aren't choosing to be stressed - otherwise you'd choose not to be, right? Good friends and family are an asset in this situation - talk to them, let them know what you're going through :smile: