I've been with my partner for just over a year now. A lot of our friends, well pretty much all of our friends, started experimenting with drugs throughout the last year. Everyone's allowed to make their own life choices and it doesn't bother me too much, only that I worry about them getting hurt, but other than that it's fine. I did find it a bit of a shock initially as it very quickly went from what I would consider a low end drug such as pot to things that I would consider a bit extreme (although readily available I know) such as mushrooms and cocaine.
My partner jumped straight on board with the whole pot smoking thing and to be honest I really don't mind, he's not in an immediate danger to himself, he's not nasty when he's on it and he's only had it a handful of times so it's not even a regular thing so it honestly didn't bother me.
However we were with our friends a few months ago and also with some new people and the drugs started appearing, all kinds of drugs to be honest, and some of my friends started to do them and it did make me feel quite uncomfortable to be honest. Then my boyfriend started to seem really interested in the effects of cocaine and was asking lots of questions; as if he was considering it, and I just got so stressed and confused and uncomfortable that I just left and walked home around 4 in the morning by myself. My boyfriend and one other friend turned up back at home around 6am and I think they figured something was up but I was just picked up by a friend shortly after and spent the day thinking about what was making me so upset and how to sort it out.
I eventually went back home and explained to my partner that I wasn't okay with it. I was fine with him smoking pot every now and then but I wasn't fine with cocaine or anything like that really. I have had some previous back experience with those types of drugs, my father was a heavy cocaine and hallucinogenic user, and caused some massive problems, but that's another story aha. I told him bluntly that I loved him, and cared for him but if he chose to do drugs like that it would be a me or them type of situation. I figured I would give him the choice to choose. I said that I would not do what my mother had done and stay with someone who does those things. This might sound dramatic but after my childhood, I think I'll stick by it aha. He said that he wasn't going to do anything like that and never would so I left it at that.
A few months later though he started discussing mushrooms and hallucinogenic's and just said that he wants to try them and more than likely will when the opportunity arose.