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really that important?

I'm seeing someone at the moment who I really like and feel comfortable with.

We havn't taken it further yet but he keeps saying things like 'I can't wait to have you in your undies' etc (it's not as creepy/pervy as that sounds lol!) but the thing is he has this image in his head that my body is amazing underneath my clothes so he has really built up loads of anticipation

however, my body is far from amazing, in fact I don't like it at all and i'm terrified it won't meet his high expectations :frown:

To make matters worse, i'm a virgin and he isn't, and I know for a fact that his ex has a fantastic body.

Am I worrying over nothing? Is it really that imporatnt when it comes down to it? I'm starting to obsess over this cos i'm so worried i'll be a dissapointment.

Reply 1

Helenia

Are you worrying over nothing? Probably. Men are a LOT less critical of women's bodies than women themselves - especially when it comes to your own! He's clearly keen to get you naked, and so unless you're hiding a whale-load of blubber under some serious corsettage, it's unlikely he'll run away screaming. It's not hard to get an idea of what someone will look like naked if you see them in fairly tight clothes, so he'll probably know what to expect mostly. So on that front, I'd say try not to worry, especially about comparing yourself with his ex - he's with you for a reason and that's more than just your body (I'd hope).

However, the fact that you feel uncomfortable about what he's saying might be an issue. I'd mention to him that you feel insecure when he says things like that (and yes it does sound creepy!)

Reply 2

milly.

So what if his ex had a great body? There's a reason why he's with you and not her, if the 'fantastic body' meant so much to him I'm sure thing's would be different.

Don't do anything you don't want to, as cliched as that sounds.

:smile:

Edit: Owww Helenia beat me to it :frown:

Reply 3

The Strangest Quark

Anonymous

Am I worrying over nothing?

Yes. Men like naked ladies. And as long as you've not got six nipples, or a tail tucked down your trouser leg, then he's not going to be unpleasantly surprised by you with no clothes on (and even if you do, it might not bother him).

Now go forth, and try to see yourself as positively as he does :smile:

Reply 4

JC.

^ I wouldnt complain about 6 nipples! :biggrin:

OK... seriously... Yes, you proberbly are worrying over nothing.
Its not like christmas presents. i.e when you find out whats inside the wrapper there is an anticlimax. Actually its the reverse, you get to unwrap the paper another day! :biggrin:

EVERY girl I have been out with has had on one level or another, a complex about how they look. "Im ugly" and so on and so forth... They havent been.

All girls are lovely. :smile:

... especially the naked variety. :biggrin:

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