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Dating, how does it work here?
Ok someone just told me that UK dating is very different from dating in the US (which I'm used to) and that people here don't "see" more than one person at a time. Is this also true of the initial stages of dating which means if a guy is asking me out, he's not asking anyone else out? Or can you date multiple people?
Also that there isn't that talk where you become exclusive officially. That if you've been on four or five dates with someone, you're exclusive until you call it off?
Is dating a formal thing here (dinner, movie etc) or more casual?
I'm confused!
Also that there isn't that talk where you become exclusive officially. That if you've been on four or five dates with someone, you're exclusive until you call it off?
Is dating a formal thing here (dinner, movie etc) or more casual?
I'm confused!
Reply 1
Erm.. I think it probably differs from person to person to be honest. Like if youre only 'seeing' someone, then that doesnt mean youre exclusive so you can, theoretically, take out other people.
Some relationships do start with 'the talk', or just a plain question, like 'Will you go out with me?' (oh by the way, that usually means become an item rather than just go on a date, if you get asked on a date its usually 'wanna do something sometime, or go for a drink, let me take you out etc') but i know some people would be offended if a guy asked them on a date and then found out that he was also taking out someone else. So I think it really differs, but we're quite laid back too i would imagine, for me until you're officially an item, then youre still single. Unless you agree to not see other people.... Is this helping?
Tho some people, when they start seeing someone, after a few dates like you mentioned do sort of just slip into being an item, and kinda just bypass the whole doing 'the talk' thing.
Also the date thing is different too, I prefer to just go for a drink or something when im on a date, or go to the cinema, i dont really want to be taken for a meal. But i suppose it differs with your age too. Young adults probably prefer to be more casual, whereas older women would probably prefer to be wined and dined? Tho I wouldnt really know that for sure, as im one of the former
Hope this has helped, it is quite complicated here, but thats only coz theres so much variation in how people feel about dating. Most people are quite laid back when it comes to it I would imagine. I would think once you've had a few dates with someone and its going well, you might wanna stop seeing anyone else..gives a good impression, you know
Some relationships do start with 'the talk', or just a plain question, like 'Will you go out with me?' (oh by the way, that usually means become an item rather than just go on a date, if you get asked on a date its usually 'wanna do something sometime, or go for a drink, let me take you out etc') but i know some people would be offended if a guy asked them on a date and then found out that he was also taking out someone else. So I think it really differs, but we're quite laid back too i would imagine, for me until you're officially an item, then youre still single. Unless you agree to not see other people.... Is this helping?
Tho some people, when they start seeing someone, after a few dates like you mentioned do sort of just slip into being an item, and kinda just bypass the whole doing 'the talk' thing.
Also the date thing is different too, I prefer to just go for a drink or something when im on a date, or go to the cinema, i dont really want to be taken for a meal. But i suppose it differs with your age too. Young adults probably prefer to be more casual, whereas older women would probably prefer to be wined and dined? Tho I wouldnt really know that for sure, as im one of the former
Hope this has helped, it is quite complicated here, but thats only coz theres so much variation in how people feel about dating. Most people are quite laid back when it comes to it I would imagine. I would think once you've had a few dates with someone and its going well, you might wanna stop seeing anyone else..gives a good impression, you know
Reply 2
you date more than one person at a time???!
Reply 3
I remember watchin Sabrina the teenage witch and she was dating like 10 people and i was thinking Sabrina you ho!
Reply 4
i suppose n the very early stages of just going out for a drink with someone you might not be official and going for a similiar night with someone else is not really cheating it is however very undesireable i would think.
i think "dating" is very unformal over hear actually i.e a drink , go see a movie, grab a bite to eat are all eacceptable means of an arrangement.
where is'nt really important, its just getting it arranged that matters.
i think "dating" is very unformal over hear actually i.e a drink , go see a movie, grab a bite to eat are all eacceptable means of an arrangement.
where is'nt really important, its just getting it arranged that matters.
Reply 5
16
God, I find it hard enough to find one person I want to see, let alone two or three.
I have a "date" tonight (TBH He's just coming over for supper) and I think we'll have the talk about being a couple. It's just nice to do. And then you know where you are.
I have a "date" tonight (TBH He's just coming over for supper) and I think we'll have the talk about being a couple. It's just nice to do. And then you know where you are.
Reply 6
I think it very much depends on how old you are, so I can only really speak for my age group (I'm 18).
As I understand it, "dating someone" over here is "going out with someone". Doing something very casually with someone (like going for a drink) probably wouldn't count as "going out" with them, but most people I know jump straight to the "Will you go out with me?" bit, rather than waiting.
There is no way you would "go out" with more than one person at a time, and even meeting up casually with more than one person would seem iffy, because if you get to that stage it generally implies that the two of you are looking to "go out" with each other. It would be a bit weird if there was someone else in the picture.
As I understand it, "dating someone" over here is "going out with someone". Doing something very casually with someone (like going for a drink) probably wouldn't count as "going out" with them, but most people I know jump straight to the "Will you go out with me?" bit, rather than waiting.
There is no way you would "go out" with more than one person at a time, and even meeting up casually with more than one person would seem iffy, because if you get to that stage it generally implies that the two of you are looking to "go out" with each other. It would be a bit weird if there was someone else in the picture.
Reply 7
Jadeite
Ok someone just told me that UK dating is very different from dating in the US (which I'm used to) and that people here don't "see" more than one person at a time. Is this also true of the initial stages of dating which means if a guy is asking me out, he's not asking anyone else out? Or can you date multiple people?
Also that there isn't that talk where you become exclusive officially. That if you've been on four or five dates with someone, you're exclusive until you call it off?
Is dating a formal thing here (dinner, movie etc) or more casual?
I'm confused!
Also that there isn't that talk where you become exclusive officially. That if you've been on four or five dates with someone, you're exclusive until you call it off?
Is dating a formal thing here (dinner, movie etc) or more casual?
I'm confused!
Over here we don't like to date. Instead, girls will brave our hypothermia-inducing climate in the tiniest of outfits, will knock back enough vodka-based drinks to lower their (already scanty) inhibitions enough to put out.
Much simpler when you think about it.
Welcome to Liverp... the UK!
Reply 8
16
Sehnsucht
Over here we don't like to date. Instead, girls will brave our hypothermia-inducing climate in the tiniest of outfits, will knock back enough vodka-based drinks to lower their (already scanty) inhibitions enough to put out.
Much simpler when you think about it.
Welcome to Liverp... the UK!
Much simpler when you think about it.
Welcome to Liverp... the UK!
LOL hey, were not ALL like that thankyou!
Op: As everyone's said it varies, when i'm 'seeing someone' i take that as casual and therefore i am technically allowed to see other people. But if we are an official item, i.e we've had 'the chat' then that's it, no more seeing other people/fooling around
Most poeple (genralisation here we go) don't take being cheated on very lightly either especially if you admit to it on TSR.. Beware
Reply 9
in the UK, the younger generation do not tend to have bfs or gfs as often as before
dating sites and social sites like myspace means there is always somebody better out there.
dating sites and social sites like myspace means there is always somebody better out there.
Reply 10
Jadeite
[is it true that...] people here don't "see" more than one person at a time.
So that's why extremists refer to America as being full of infidels!
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