Is there any hope for 'us'?

I'm modifying it so that he won't know that this refers to him.)

That took me a bit by surprise and Im not sure I understand what that means . I'm so miserable, I miss him. So anyway my question is: Does that mean that there will never be an us EVER or do you think he is just possibly confused about the way he is feeling about me etc.

Without trying to be funny, if you're having to modify his sentiments beyond the point at which even he will recognise them then there is little hope for an even half-decent analysis from anyone else here.

Having said that, judging by what you've written there's a fairly good chance he might just not fancy you. Don't want to be too soul-destroying here, but it'd seem a little pointless for him to put in all that effort and then realise he's not up for a relationship.

I'm slightly playing devil's advocate; there are plenty of other possibilities. That's just the one that sprung to mind for me first.

It can mean one of two things - either he genuinely does have stuff going on and he needs time to sort through it in his mind before getting involved in a relationship. If this is the case just give him time and respect this because ultimately it will make the relationship better if one should happen to occur.

However it could also mean he doesn't like you I am afraid - He may be trying to safe your feelings and hoping you will move on. I mean I seriously hope for you it is the first one but I am afraid it is up to you being in the situation to decide which senario it is.

Sorry not to be more help

sounds as if he just needs some time and space.. and i think he, if he read this, would probably be able to figure out you are talking about him.

Some good news for you. I have been in the same position. I needed time and space to sort my own head out. Sometimes it's hard enough trying to look after yourself, without worrying about the pressures a relationship brings. I think what your man needs is space and a bit of time. Don't pressure him, just be there. You will see, as one of the posters said, the relationship will become a lot stronger with more solid foundations when you are both in the right frame of mind.
Best of luck!

I was in a similar situation. great guy but he had serious issues that meant he couldn't be a great boyfriend. I'm hope what your guy's saying is true but the best thing for you is to give him space and move on. It may still happen but by waiting around you're hurting yourself. It's a year on and I'm still waiting. Maybe one day it'll work it's self out but waiting hurts so I'm going to move on and find someone who is ready to be a great boyfriend.

Hi hun

Aww sorry to hear about that, it seems strange to me he's said it after such a short amount of time.. Men are hard creatures to work out!

Nothing we say here is going to alter your situation,thats the thing. U do need to talk to him about it to see what's going on... Keep us posted.xx