Someone you admire/enjoy having around

recently i've been feeling very unsure about myself, and where i fit in with my group of friends at college (i'm male, btw). please KEEP ANON because some of my friends are on here! so im trying to keep this as anonymous-sounding as possible.

i don't know if i'm likeable, if people like having me around etc. it's come after a few discussions with them, and they all seem to have different perceptions of me, and it's just odd. some of the things they say surprise me; like i dont realise i do what they say i do, and that i am the way they say i am.

so, can you describe someone you admire, or enjoy having around you in your group of friends. i just want to see what most people put, and see what i can identify with. thanks. :frown:

Reply 1

SoundDevastation

the people i enjoy having around are people i can talk to.. people i can have a laugh with, people i feel comfortable with :smile:

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

SoundDevastation

the people i enjoy having around are people i can talk to.. people i can have a laugh with, people i feel comfortable with :smile:

what is it about them that makes you feel comfortable around them? i imagine they're laid back, warm?

Reply 3

Profesh

Christ. That's a tricky one.

Reply 4

samba

Nicola. She's lovely, kind, understanding, fun, and extremely cuddly.

Reply 5

Kater Murr

Admire and like having around are two very separate things.

I like different people at different times and for different reasons.

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

I like people who are not contrived, self-regarding or pushy. Just natural people.

Reply 7

RobbieC

Different people like different things, in wide variation. Chances are if they hang out with you in the first place, something drew you together, and can be built upon even if you're very different from one another. That's the whole point of being in a college or place where you mix with new people, you get something from them and give something back.

I'd also suggest that your mild paranoia is perfectly normal and reasonable in your teenage years, particularly as a guy who like most adolescent males probably conceals all outward displays of affection et al. lest they be perceived as vulnerable.

People like people who are not afraid to be who they are, and hopefully those people are your friends you have right now. If they aren't fitting into that criteria, then it isn't you that has the problem.

Try not to worry too much now, eh!
R