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u should indict ur mom!
cuz she has the responsibility to take care of u!
oh..wait
when ur parents divorced, who owned the potence that can take care of u?
u should make sure about those laws..
and conect with the social service for helping and protecting urself!
sometimes older people think about we dont know anything
and we are just little kids forever.
but!!!!we need to grow up! study to use law to get the advantages!
especially in ur situation
try ur best!
cuz she has the responsibility to take care of u!
oh..wait
when ur parents divorced, who owned the potence that can take care of u?
u should make sure about those laws..
and conect with the social service for helping and protecting urself!
sometimes older people think about we dont know anything
and we are just little kids forever.
but!!!!we need to grow up! study to use law to get the advantages!
especially in ur situation
try ur best!
gooner1991
I absolutely LOATH my mum.
i found letters from her to my dad on how she planned on aborting me, she's been arrested numerous times for beating me up and puts on the sweet 'oh im so innocet' act when she's questioned.she continuosly tells me she hates me and i can't take it anymore.
i HATE her and the world would be a better place if she just died.she is a lying piece of ****,she's lost her job as a doctor for claiming benefits,she lies about everything and i just hate her.
i can't live with my dad coz he lives in prague and i live in london. i have a little half sister whose 7 and i love her to pieces,her dad and my mum were married but divorced a few years ago.i was originally staying with him but he's told me more than once that its wierd coz im not his child.
don't reallly know what to do.social services have offered me a council flat but they're just ****ing around now and not getting in contact. i'm counting down the days until i go to university,but i don't think i can wait till september 2009.
any suggestions??
xx
i found letters from her to my dad on how she planned on aborting me, she's been arrested numerous times for beating me up and puts on the sweet 'oh im so innocet' act when she's questioned.she continuosly tells me she hates me and i can't take it anymore.
i HATE her and the world would be a better place if she just died.she is a lying piece of ****,she's lost her job as a doctor for claiming benefits,she lies about everything and i just hate her.
i can't live with my dad coz he lives in prague and i live in london. i have a little half sister whose 7 and i love her to pieces,her dad and my mum were married but divorced a few years ago.i was originally staying with him but he's told me more than once that its wierd coz im not his child.
don't reallly know what to do.social services have offered me a council flat but they're just ****ing around now and not getting in contact. i'm counting down the days until i go to university,but i don't think i can wait till september 2009.
any suggestions??
xx
I'm really sorry to hear that, you'd expect from responsibility from a doctor. Do you have any friends or anything like that or other family members you could stay with?
Try and convince your 'dad' to let you and your little sister come live with him in Prague. New start and all that and you might be able to leave soon...explain to him what you did to us.
Eventually all birds flee the nest. Not getting on with your parents is normal, as you get older you just get in each others way.
I was going to make a thread about hating my mum, but I found this so I'll put my own problem into it, though it is not as bad as yours.
I'm a Muslim and I've made friends with four Muslim headscarf girls, one of whom wear the face veil. They are all very Islamic and it was one of their birthday parties yesterday. It was at 6:00 but I was told I couldn't go because it was dark. The party was at a halaal restauraunt aswell but my mum keeps saying things like "there are men there" and "Muslims shouldn't go to restaurants without their parents".
There is no way I could have sneaked out as she had me locked in the house. I feel this is not a religious thing but more that she is a nutcase - I think this sort of treatment is abusive - I finally have friends that I actually like but I can't go out with them!
I'm a Muslim and I've made friends with four Muslim headscarf girls, one of whom wear the face veil. They are all very Islamic and it was one of their birthday parties yesterday. It was at 6:00 but I was told I couldn't go because it was dark. The party was at a halaal restauraunt aswell but my mum keeps saying things like "there are men there" and "Muslims shouldn't go to restaurants without their parents".
There is no way I could have sneaked out as she had me locked in the house. I feel this is not a religious thing but more that she is a nutcase - I think this sort of treatment is abusive - I finally have friends that I actually like but I can't go out with them!
Anonymous
Eventually all birds flee the nest. Not getting on with your parents is normal, as you get older you just get in each others way.
It is not normal for a parent to behave in such a way that her child feels hatred for her.
The OP is still a minor and needs support from some source until she is independent enough to live a life that does not include her mother.
First, I don't know whether there has been any intermediary counselling between the OP and her mother, or whether the fact that her mother is in denial in front of agencies is preventing this. There is nothing to stop the OP seeking emotional support that does not involve input from her mother. She will be judged 'gillick competent' and be allowed to make decisions for herself which her mother cannot override.
She could present herself at Social Services and request that temporary sanctuary is provided pending more permanent housing. If the relationship between her and mother has irretrievably broken down, then it is reasonable to expect Social Services to be more pro-active than they appear to have been. Does her school not have a pastoral support system that could assist? She could approach a trusted teacher in the first instance.
Approaching the situtation from another angle: Is the mother under extreme stress and her treatment of her daughters a symptom of that? Is the mother getting any support to rear her family?
There are three victims here; the OP, her little sister...and her mother.
Anonymous
I was going to make a thread about hating my mum, but I found this so I'll put my own problem into it, though it is not as bad as yours.
I'm a Muslim and I've made friends with four Muslim headscarf girls, one of whom wear the face veil. They are all very Islamic and it was one of their birthday parties yesterday. It was at 6:00 but I was told I couldn't go because it was dark. The party was at a halaal restauraunt aswell but my mum keeps saying things like "there are men there" and "Muslims shouldn't go to restaurants without their parents".
There is no way I could have sneaked out as she had me locked in the house. I feel this is not a religious thing but more that she is a nutcase - I think this sort of treatment is abusive - I finally have friends that I actually like but I can't go out with them!
I'm a Muslim and I've made friends with four Muslim headscarf girls, one of whom wear the face veil. They are all very Islamic and it was one of their birthday parties yesterday. It was at 6:00 but I was told I couldn't go because it was dark. The party was at a halaal restauraunt aswell but my mum keeps saying things like "there are men there" and "Muslims shouldn't go to restaurants without their parents".
There is no way I could have sneaked out as she had me locked in the house. I feel this is not a religious thing but more that she is a nutcase - I think this sort of treatment is abusive - I finally have friends that I actually like but I can't go out with them!
Well, it is a part of your religion; either respect your religion or abandon it, you can't do both. (And no, it's not 'abuse' to stop you going to a restaurant with your friends.)
gooner1991
I absolutely LOATH my mum.
i found letters from her to my dad on how she planned on aborting me, she's been arrested numerous times for beating me up and puts on the sweet 'oh im so innocet' act when she's questioned.she continuosly tells me she hates me and i can't take it anymore.
i HATE her and the world would be a better place if she just died.she is a lying piece of ****,she's lost her job as a doctor for claiming benefits,she lies about everything and i just hate her.
i can't live with my dad coz he lives in prague and i live in london. i have a little half sister whose 7 and i love her to pieces,her dad and my mum were married but divorced a few years ago.i was originally staying with him but he's told me more than once that its wierd coz im not his child.
don't reallly know what to do.social services have offered me a council flat but they're just ****ing around now and not getting in contact. i'm counting down the days until i go to university,but i don't think i can wait till september 2009.
any suggestions??
xx
i found letters from her to my dad on how she planned on aborting me, she's been arrested numerous times for beating me up and puts on the sweet 'oh im so innocet' act when she's questioned.she continuosly tells me she hates me and i can't take it anymore.
i HATE her and the world would be a better place if she just died.she is a lying piece of ****,she's lost her job as a doctor for claiming benefits,she lies about everything and i just hate her.
i can't live with my dad coz he lives in prague and i live in london. i have a little half sister whose 7 and i love her to pieces,her dad and my mum were married but divorced a few years ago.i was originally staying with him but he's told me more than once that its wierd coz im not his child.
don't reallly know what to do.social services have offered me a council flat but they're just ****ing around now and not getting in contact. i'm counting down the days until i go to university,but i don't think i can wait till september 2009.
any suggestions??
xx
That's fairly ****ty, but I think for the sake of your sister (if your mum treats her anything like how she treats you) you should stay; learn to put up with your mum. Not expecting to like her is a good start. I never got on with my parents when I lived with them; in the end I just stopped hoping that one day we'd get on (which just can't happen), and I stopped being upset when we didn't. Just accept that she will do ****ty things and you'll be less upset when it happens; most importantly, though, keep your sister safe.
It is not a part of my religion to not be able to go to a restaurant at 6:00 - I'm a really strict Muslim.
Anonymous
It is not a part of my religion to not be able to go to a restaurant at 6:00 - I'm a really strict Muslim.
Why does your mum think it is, then?
generalebriety
Why does your mum think it is, then?
Because she's mental and is afraid to give me too much freedom incase I turn out like my sister.
Hang on in there and take social services up on their offer if they get their arse into gear. I've heard Shelter can be helpful too to a range of people in need of housing advice. If you stay it may affect your grades and you don't want that.
1982 Lawyer
If you stay it may affect your grades and you don't want that.
LMAO. Typical TSR.
1982 Lawyer
Hang on in there and take social services up on their offer if they get their arse into gear. I've heard Shelter can be helpful too to a range of people in need of housing advice. If you stay it may affect your grades and you don't want that.
funny you say that actually,she was fuming with me because of my gcse results,i got 1 A*,6 As 1 B and 2 Cs..i was quite proud considering all the crap she was putting me through,however,medusa was not amused. she said that the Bs and Cs were unacceptable.hmm lets rewind to year 10 shall we..whoo threw a mug at my leg,made me have 14 stitches and stay with a friend meaning that i couldn't get my coursework from home??
gooner1991
funny you say that actually,she was fuming with me because of my gcse results,i got 1 A*,6 As 1 B and 2 Cs..i was quite proud considering all the crap she was putting me through,however,medusa was not amused. she said that the Bs and Cs were unacceptable.hmm lets rewind to year 10 shall we..whoo threw a mug at my leg,made me have 14 stitches and stay with a friend meaning that i couldn't get my coursework from home??
Has your relationship with your mother markedly deteriorated in the last 2/3 years, or has it always been a hateful relationship?
I think what the Anonymus Muslim girl means is that her parents are stricter than most muslim parents (which is really saying something) and that she wants a little more freedom.
Unfortunately there's really nothing you can do about that and I'm not going to advise you to "just sit down and talk to them", because it sounds like subtle tactics are unlikely to work.
Just deal with it until University.
Unfortunately there's really nothing you can do about that and I'm not going to advise you to "just sit down and talk to them", because it sounds like subtle tactics are unlikely to work.
Just deal with it until University.
yawn
Has your relationship with your mother markedly deteriorated in the last 2/3 years, or has it always been a hateful relationship?
its just worsened over the past couple of years really.xx
gooner1991
its just worsened over the past couple of years really.xx
That's a shame. If clashes are going to occur, this is the time that they will. You are going through the upheaval of teen development and your mother might be going through her own upheaval of approaching menopause.
An explosive mix between mother and daughter!
It might be best to let things ride, keep as calm as you possibly can and then move out and move on. You could even find that when you have both come through the worst of these age development stages, you actually find yourselves starting to like each other again.
Anonymous
Because she's mental and is afraid to give me too much freedom incase I turn out like my sister.
She's only looking out for you. How does that make her mental?
And to the OP, I think you should stay with a friend or something.
I mean like isn't there any relative or someone close to you whom you trust alot that you can stay with?
Most importantly, your sister needs you, so you should do everything to keep her safe. So if you were to stay at a friends or relatives house, then you could take her with you.
Hmm or you can just wait until you get to uni and move out.
And hopefully after some time, this hatred will turn into love?
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