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Telling a girl you like her...

I'm (completely) inexperienced when it comes to these matters, so bear with me...

Basically, there's a girl I've liked for some time now. We talk regularly enough, but I dont know if se likes me back (I suppose, if anything, she may but who knows lol). However, I really feel I ought to actually do something about it...

So should I just get it out in the open and tell her I like her? Problem though, is that if she doesn't like me back, would it make any interaction awkward and embarassing?

advice appreciated :redface:

Reply 1

dh00001

16

try some flirting, drop a few subtle hints. test the waters a little and see if she plays back :smile:

Reply 2

TheBhramaBull

Lol the way me and my girlfriend got together, pissed at a party, was as follows:

I walk up to her at the party, put on a completely serious face, take her hand and in a very serious voice I say "I need to talk to you", she was scared she thought she'd done something wrong! I took her into the living room and said "I really..." then she just grabbed me and kissed me. I was going to say "I really like you" but she interrupted. So you never know you might not have to tell her.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

dh00001

try some flirting, drop a few subtle hints. test the waters a little and see if she plays back :smile:

lol, I'll be honest with you - I wouldnt have a clue how to do that...or even steer a conversation in that direction..

and bhramabull - we may not all be as lucky as you!

Reply 4

TheBhramaBull

Ye I know but my advice if you really do like her, pluck up the courage to do it, alcohol should help, then just get it other and done with. You've got nothing to lose. In hindsight I wouldn't say "I need to talk to you" and then say "I really like you", there's probably better ways to do it. Good luck though.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

TheBhramaBull

Ye I know but my advice if you really do like her, pluck up the courage to do it, alcohol should help, then just get it other and done with. You've got nothing to lose. In hindsight I wouldn't say "I need to talk to you" and then say "I really like you", there's probably better ways to do it. Good luck though.

But I do dont I? Because if the feeling's not mutual, things would become quite awkward.

Reply 6

TheBhramaBull

she'll still probably want to be good friends

Reply 7

Tyler Durden

17

Anonymous

But I do dont I? Because if the feeling's not mutual, things would become quite awkward.

Yeah. True. But to be honest, even if you barely knew this girl you would find another reason not to ask her out. What if she laughs at me? What if she ignores me and just walks off when I am asking her to go on a date? What if she embarrasses me in front of all my mates? It's human nature to be scared about this kind of thing. But it's well worth overcoming this side of your nature...

It doesn't sound as though you're best friends forever anyway. Don't do it out of the blue; flirt with her, tease her and read her responses and you can be 95% sure of her reply before you've even asked.

Reply 8

TKnightrider

TheBhramaBull

Lol the way me and my girlfriend got together, pissed at a party, was as follows:

I walk up to her at the party, put on a completely serious face, take her hand and in a very serious voice I say "I need to talk to you", she was scared she thought she'd done something wrong! I took her into the living room and said "I really..." then she just grabbed me and kissed me. I was going to say "I really like you" but she interrupted. So you never know you might not have to tell her.

Thats brilliant!!!! Well im in the same situation i like this girl and need to something and fast. I might just go for it!!

Reply 9

Jonah Ramone

19

Anonymous

So should I just get it out in the open and tell her I like her? Problem though, is that if she doesn't like me back, would it make any interaction awkward and embarassing?

advice appreciated :redface:

It only becomes awkward if you (by which I mean you and she) make it awkward. It shouldn't be too difficult to maintain a friendship with a girl who knows you like her.

Reply 10

Bedshaped

14

Kiss her

OR

"Hey, I'm going to be honest with you. I've started to like you recently and I think we should start dating." << Not in those words, just be confident.

Reply 11

dramapyxie

As a girl, I can safely tell you that you really should just straight out tell her. Even if she doesn't like you in that way, she will be flattered that you feel that way and it shouldn't become awkward.

Reply 12

ImperceptibleNinja

13

If that wasn't anonymous, I could have repped that :biggrin:

Not that it's a tactic I would tend to condone.

Anyway, back to the point. OP, if you don't tell her, do you think you'd move on, or do you think you'd stay where you're at just now? If it's the latter, then maybe it's better to tell her, and then you can both get used to that idea. If she's interested as well, then Yay!, but if not, at least she'll know where you're at, and if she's a good friend, then she won't say 'Ok, friendship ended.'. If I was the girl, I think I'd probably rather know (even if I didn't return the feelings), so that I could guide the friendship constructively. Things might be a wee bit awkward for a wee while, but not devestatingy so.

Reply 13

flamingo

1

i'd say just tell her how you feel, because generally us girls just wait for you to do that.

if she doesn't feel the same i doubt it would be alkawd if you're friends, it will probably help you get over it once you've told her.

Reply 14

Bedshaped

14

Anonymous

Stare at her with your mouth open and rub your crotch

Do this as a joke, she'll love it :wink:

Unless shes stuck up, in which case you shouldn't fancy her anyways.

(this is a jokey post)

Reply 15

Serendipity*

1

Just be straight with her.
In fact, I'm having the same problem as you - I really like this guy and I have an inkling he may like me back...but what can we do. I'm too shy, life's tough! :redface:

Reply 16

Anonymous #2

14

I am a girl, and the best way a guy has approached me is via his friends, which is sweet because I respected that and he is to ask me out any time soon, however I would want to be his friend rathar than straight away relationship. Its important to get to know the guy before anything, but bleh maybe its me, if she did say no , it doesnt mean it would be awkard maybe she wasnt ready and would prefer to get to know you. all the best !

Reply 17

_So_

I'd tell her too. She might be interested but doesn't want to make the first move. If not and she isn't, well, yes, it may be awkward for a while but if you are friends you should be able to get over it. If you don't say anything you'll probably regret it.

Reply 18

Tagit

12

See how she reacts to you when your together. Its often quite obvious if the person likes you. If not go with friends and see if they think she likes you. If she doesn't like you in that way its no loss as you can still be great mates and avoid the chance of an awkward aftermath.

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