My 18th Dilema :/

Hiya well bascially its my 18th birthday in 4 weeks and i planned to go clubbing with some friends. Its my boyfriends birthday 3 days after mine and ive decided that i want us to go out together with both our friends because i want to celebrate with him to not just my friends, so i asked my frend (A) if she could change her day off until the next saturday but shes saying that they probably wont let her and she cant go sick because she wont get paid but to be honest, its 5 weeks away, plenty of notice and all she is doing is swapping the days and befoe shes even asked shes already bascially sayin no and its annoyin me because i feel like i have to do everything to suit my friends and i have a feeling shes going to lie to me and say that asda, where she wprks, said no. They want to my outfit, they are alreadt choosing the places where we are going because apparently there music tastes are better than mine even though its MY birthday and i said id prefer for us all to come back to mine but my firend got her own way and we are staying at hers. All i want is my boyfriend to come to because ido want my friends there but if she says she cant change her day off then im thinking that i dont want to go out with them without my boyfriend like we planned in the first place just because of there whole attitude. theyve decided everything and id rather just go out the week after with my boyfriend and his friends but what do you think?? because i do want to go out with my mates but i cant go out 2 weeks in a row due to my work situation and money too. so i have to pick basically. arghh people make things so hard

Reply 1

VickieLR

If friend 'A' cannot be bothered to see if she can get a day off, she obviously isn't too keen on celebrating with you.

As for your other friends - like you said, it is your birthday, not theirs. Do what you want, obviously. If they don't like it, stuff them, enjoy a night out with your boyfriend and his friends.

Reply 2

santogold

A) Some jobs are being that difficult. Don't blame A.
B) Ask A if she really wants to celebrate with you and then maybe call her work too?

Reply 3

RosiePosiePuddingAndPie

Ask A if she'll ask her work, because it means a lot to you to change the date (explain that bit too). If they say no, well, that's just how workplaces are sometimes.

Also, if you don't want to go to a certain place, put your foot down and tell your friends that it's YOUR birthday, and YOU want to choose. Have a mardy :p:

Although don't forget they'll be paying for themselves too, so don't be *too* mardy :redface:

As for chosing between your friends and your boyfriend... well you've got to make your own mind up there. But think of the repurcussions of whichever you choose. If you decide to go with your boyfriend and his friends the following week, then your friends might be a bit upset/p*ssed that you've ditched them. Especially since it sounds like they're all ready for it, and so to cancel on them now might be a bit annoying.

It's a tough situation to be in! :redface:

Reply 4

made_of_fail

paragraphs and punctuation: learn to use them

Reply 5

Walrus Rider

How about you don't have a birthday party, and use the time you would have spent obsessing over it to learn how to write?

Reply 6

Dave.B

made_of_fail

paragraphs and punctuation: learn to use them

ooooo dear lol..... :rolleyes:

Reply 7

candy_kiss

Last i head full stops are punctuation ..?';#[])(^%$""!+_;.
there you go DEARSSS

Reply 8

Create

Ok, well if I've understood you correctly, then the night out with your mates basically doesn't involve anything special or what you would like to do because it's _your_ 18th? If that's the case, then it would seem to me to be like any other 'night-out-with-your-mates', which in my opinion is a little disappointing for an 18th birthday celebration.

If you think that the celebration with your boyfriend will be a little more memorable as a night that's distinctive and involves your ideas on how you would like to celebrate your 18th, then I would suggest, you celebrate with him, because at the end of the day, I'm sure there have been plenty of 'nights-out-with-the-mates' and plenty more to come.

It's your 18th, and it should be special. I understand that you'd like to celebrate it with your mates too, but I think they sound a little unreasonable by just planning it around them and not you. However, I don't think friend (A) is to blame for the work problems, it can be a very tricky issue to get around in some places.

Anyhow, hope you make a decision that you're happy with, and that you have a great night.
Cxx

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