Never will understand women!!!

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Reply 20

Reevesy

silverbolt

dont forget beer and cars/bikes/things that make lots of noise

We're usually thinking about one of those 4

Also don't forget sleep.

Back on topic: Yeah, I would say she wants you to ask her again :smile:

what is there to lose? You will find out the truth.

Reply 21

kjstar

hey i myself think you should ask her out again make it proper thow this time...not a drunken thing shes probably worried it was only because u wer drunk last time and she want to see how seruious about it u are....which isnt a bd thing. Maybe after youve done it propewrly it will be abit clearer about things. Also she maybe was hanging around u abit more to give you the chance to ask hger agin properly and to see whether you was being serious about it.

were quite confusing but you know u love us anyway lol :P

Reply 22

Eien

I never get this "never understand men/women" business - there are certain people I may not understand, but that is regardless of gender, I think the fact that the romantic idea that men and women are different and do not understand each other causes a person to see what they are taught to see rather than thinking independently - not that I'm trying to criticise, it is just the way we are brought up.
Back on topic - it may be confusing since you interpreted her as initially "subtly rejecting you" - but perhaps this wasn't the case and she was in fact shy, and actually likes you? Or perhaps she likes you quite a lot but not in "that" way?

Reply 23

Reevesy

I understand the don't understand men/women stuff as people find it hard to look at people from the inside out instead of looking at who they are on the outside and judging. I have a problem where I judge straight away but it's not always a bad thing. My mates call me Trisha to take the piss at times as they always speak to me on relationship stuff (sort of why im here).

But yeah, I was drunk a few months back and got really close to a girl and shes not sure if it could work because of the age difference (3 years) and the distance (60miles) but I go there every weekend with friends. But the main thing is we mostly saw eachother when we were drunk. So we are starting to speak when we are sober as she wants to see how we are together. We have become so close and she says she doesn't like people asking her out when drunk and I should ask her when sober as drunk lads have a sort of "rep" (not me :P). Many girls think- Lads + Beer = Want sex (so do anything to get it) So yeah, ask her out sober, take her out on a sort of date, go get something to eat, talk - casually bring in the drunken question and tell her you would love to give it a go and see where you stand.

Good luck, let us know how it all goes :smile:

Reply 24

Stace-is-Ace

There are probably many girls reading that original problem thinking that it's just like something they'd do!

I know I do anyway - sometimes it's hard to know whether you like a guy as a friend or you want something more. I think the problem with girls is that sometimes we're willing to settle for something we don't really want just because we want all that cute, romantic stuff but deep down we know we're never going to be attracted to the guy...

So I've found anyway...the "treat 'em mean" approach seems to work on me...only not too mean!

One way you'll know if she really likes you or not is if you say something about how you'd like to go out with someone who isn't her...check out her reaction! If she's genuinely positive about it then she probably doesn't want you for herself. If there's any hint of jealousy at all...I say go for it!

Good luck!

:biggrin:

Reply 25

Anonymous #1

Okay, thanks a lot for all your help. It's great to get some anonymous support!

Anyway, I unintentionally did the "show attention to a different girl", trick that one poster suggested, and it seems to work. I got a text off her after our night out kinda giving out to me about it. I'm going to ask her out tonight, any last minute tips or ideas? Please, I don't want to mess up again!

Reply 26

suek

Be sincere and sober, and make sure she knows that you are just wanting to spend time with HER, don't give her any reason to question it.

For what it's worth, it sounds like she didn't take you seriously first time around; that's why she's been joking about it because she was trying to give you the opportunity to say "well... I meant it!"

good luck :smile:

Reply 27

Anonymous #1

Thanks everyone for your help.

Just for my final update, I asked her out again. This time I was sober, and she said yes. Let's see how it goes now!