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Friend posted my stuff online

I gave this guy I socialise with my contact details on a scrap of paper. I just wanted to go out for drinks.

I knew him since his 1st year and thought we got on well. By his third year I had trusted him to the point I gave him my contact details.

The very next day he posted my note with address on line with a comment suggesting I wanted anal sex with him.

He says it was banter but I feel it's pretty outrageous. Should I lighten up and see it as a joke? it doesnt seem funny to me.

I am not gay or bi and only gave out contact details as I thought we were friends.

While he did remove the posts he has never apologised saying "it was a joke". Somehow don't think he'd like it if done to him.
(edited 6 years ago)
He sounds like a prick
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Original post by HatfieldGuy
I gave this guy I socialise with my contact details on a scrap of paper. I just wanted to go out for drinks.
He posted my note with address on line with a comment suggesting I wanted anal sex with him.
He says it was banter but I feel it's pretty outrageous. Should I lighten up and see it as a joke? it foesnt seem funny to me.


Don't really a friend, is he?

Do something and then claim it's 'banter'

Give out his number on grinder or something.
It doesn't sound funny to me, and I take it doesn't sound funny to you. So don't take it lightly .
That's not funny, and no, you shouldn't lighten up at all. He's clearly no friend if he's done this. Try and make him take it down, and if he doesn't, I'd say put contacting authorities as your priorities. Your contact details are now out in the open for everyone to see. If that's not dangerous, I don't know what is.
That's not funny. I assume he wouldn't be happy if it was the other way around?
Doesn't sound like a joke to me. Tell him to take it down or else you will tell the police. I wouldn't socialise with him anymore after that.
Those are the type of people you don't need in your life.
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People like that are trouble.
Agree with the other posters if he's causing you to feel uncomfortable now he's probably only going to get worse. That's the banter you have between each other, not posting it to other people knowing it'll embarrass you. I'd feel the same way as you do for sure.
He's jeopardised your security. Not a friend at all and you definitely shouldn't feel you ought to take it lightly. It isn't banter at all. What he did was malicious.
Original post by PerhapsPhysio
He's jeopardised your security. Not a friend at all and you definitely shouldn't feel you ought to take it lightly. It isn't banter at all. What he did was malicious.


Totally agree with malicious. What if OP WAS gay and coming on to him? What if he struggled with his sexuality and asking people out? OP doesn't really give much context but if it was OP that gave him his details without request that guy was totally insensitive.
Original post by HatfieldGuy
I gave this guy I socialise with my contact details on a scrap of paper. I just wanted to go out for drinks.
He posted my note with address on line with a comment suggesting I wanted anal sex with him.
He says it was banter but I feel it's pretty outrageous. Should I lighten up and see it as a joke? it foesnt seem funny to me.


That is not a joke
Original post by august11
Totally agree with malicious. What if OP WAS gay and coming on to him? What if he struggled with his sexuality and asking people out? OP doesn't really give much context but if it was OP that gave him his details without request that guy was totally insensitive.


I am not gay. Even if he thought I was gay what he did could be classed as homophobic and nasty.
Original post by HatfieldGuy
I am not gay. Even if he thought I was gay what he did could be classed as homophobic and nasty.


Reread my comment lol, that's exactly what I said. I said what if OP WAS gay? Implying you're not but what if lol... And that's what I mean, he's not considered that when he's posted what he's posted.
I wouldn't take it as a joke, and if you didn't find it funny either. Then you should definately make it known, to this person. As this person might have had different friends in the past, which he might have had found this funny; but they need to realise not everyone would take this lightly.
Original post by august11
Reread my comment lol, that's exactly what I said. I said what if OP WAS gay? Implying you're not but what if lol... And that's what I mean, he's not considered that when he's posted what he's posted.


ok
He is a (rhymes with punt)


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I don't know why someone would do that. Data breaches are the most single threatening thing ever, I had a relative tell someone random about my stuff before and they got a punch/slap on the head, he's done it twice since and both times came home with black eyes, but if I could imagine anything worse it would horrendous what would happen to them. I wouldn't take it.
(edited 6 years ago)
Thanks for the replies folks. All 14 of you - the jury are saying the same thing.

1 It was normal to not see this as a joke.
2. He would not have liked it if someone did this to him
3. It was malicious.

This epidode messed with my head.

If anyone does something like this to me again my re-action would be very different.
I think people would be angry rather than upset.

He re-tweeted the Pope saying you should threat people with dignity and respect and someone saying it is not selfish to do want you like doing. Well, it can be if you hurt others.
(edited 6 years ago)

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