i don't know whats gone wrong...

keep anonymous or delete because the person im talking about is on this website.

i met this guy online, and we talked for months and months, literally living every day together. it was so perfect. we would text each other every hour and talk through the night, waiting for each other to come online. we thought in completely the same way, and he really opened up to me. mind you we lived in different countries. then when we both got into the same university i moved to where he lived, namely the UK and we met up. it was perfect when we met up because we had been talking for over 8 months and we totally understood each other. we completed each other's sentences and so on...

then after 3 days he suddenly stopped talking to me, blocked me on msn and wont answer my messages and phone calls. i dont know whats gone wrong and why he is acting like this. i didnt get an explanation. we are on the same course and see each other every day but he ignores me. should i confront him or just forget it and move on? i feel extremely hurt because you have no idea what it was like all these months. its like we lived every day together. he is really shy by the way. i have thought that maybe it scares him how much he has opened up to me since right now he doesnt have that many friends and is extremely reserved and quiet. he told this one girl that is uncomfortable talking to girls. what should i do???

Reply 1

Seanisonfire

15

I wish i could help you, but all i can offer is empathy. I was the same with a girl just before i came to uni, although not to the same degree that you were with this guy. She found me on here and got in contact with me because we were going to be living in the same halls. We talked all day, every day online for about a month, even managed a 4 hour phone conversation. Then we finally get to uni and she prefers to act like i dont exist. It is really confusing and a bit hurtful.

If you really care for him, I'd confront him. The way hes acting, its the only way your going to get a straight answer.

Reply 2

Tyrannosaurus Cal

15

Seanisonfire's advice is spot on, in my opinion

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Seanisonfire

I wish i could help you, but all i can offer is empathy. I was the same with a girl just before i came to uni, although not to the same degree that you were with this guy. She found me on here and got in contact with me because we were going to be living in the same halls. We talked all day, every day online for about a month, even managed a 4 hour phone conversation. Then we finally get to uni and she prefers to act like i dont exist. It is really confusing and a bit hurtful.

If you really care for him, I'd confront him. The way hes acting, its the only way your going to get a straight answer.

im very sorry about how it ended up with you. im completely heart broken. before i came here he said "its good we both made it.." and i said "imagine if we had never met" to which he said "we would have met one way or another anyway" do you see how deep this went? i would go to school having had no sleep because we had been talking all night. it was so weird... you wake up and text that you're awake, making breakfast etc. so its like you're living every day together. we lasted 9 months like this. how can anything over the internet last this long? i feel so hurt. i see him every day. he sits infront of me in lectures and totally ignores me. :frown:

Reply 4

Seanisonfire

15

Anonymous

im very sorry about how it ended up with you. im completely heart broken. before i came here he said "its good we both made it.." and i said "imagine if we had never met" to which he said "we would have met one way or another anyway" do you see how deep this went? i would go to school having had no sleep because we had been talking all night. it was so weird... you wake up and text that you're awake, making breakfast etc. so its like you're living every day together. we lasted 9 months like this. how can anything over the internet last this long? i feel so hurt. i see him every day. he sits infront of me in lectures and totally ignores me. :frown:

I can understand fully. If it really hurts you this much, you must confront him. Otherwise you'll never get any answers and you'll spend ages thinking and worrying about it.

Reply 5

ßlαcksωαn

17

The guy is a jerk, I doubt he's too shy, I think he's igoring you because he's too gutless to say he's really not that into you now. People are different in real life than they are on the net.

Reply 6

The Bachelor

13

^ Either what blackswan said, or he's very, very, very, very, very, very, very awkward. (But this scenario, as you might gather, is not as likely.)

Reply 7

username85555

15

I think you should confront him

Reply 8

Angelil

19

Confront him. I feel really sorry for what's happened to you as the start of my relationship with my boyfriend was as intense as you say (we met online too but we met in the flesh after about 2 or 3 months rather than 9), so to an extent I can understand. You need answers and that's probably the only way you'll get them.

Reply 9

Helenia

20

Anonymous

im very sorry about how it ended up with you. im completely heart broken. before i came here he said "its good we both made it.." and i said "imagine if we had never met" to which he said "we would have met one way or another anyway" do you see how deep this went? i would go to school having had no sleep because we had been talking all night. it was so weird... you wake up and text that you're awake, making breakfast etc. so its like you're living every day together. we lasted 9 months like this. how can anything over the internet last this long? i feel so hurt. i see him every day. he sits infront of me in lectures and totally ignores me. :frown:

I hate to say this, but that's not love, that's an obsession/infatuation. Talking through the night is romantic and yes, very intense when you're new to it all, but it doesn't necessarily translate into love in real life. And maybe I'm just averse to texting, but letting him know you're making breakfast? Going a bit far really.

Anyway, this isn't really the point - the point is that things have changed now you have met. If he was this perfect online and has now completely changed, my guess is that he's realised it's not as perfect as he thought it would be, for whatever reason. The only way to find out is to confront him.

Reply 10

A Stranger in Moscow

12

I'm not very very very very very awkward, sometimes a little shy but not really unless under pressure, and when I meet people off the net [i have twice] I can't ever talk to them properly. I don't ignore them but I can't say more than hi.

Reply 11

randomgirl

14

Wow what an idiot that guy is.

Confront him and ask him why he is ignoring you etc.

Maybe you just weren't what he was expecting. Did he know what you looked like? Also, perhaps he is embarassed as to some people there is still a stigma attached to "meeting people online".

Regardless of what he's thinking, he is a complete idiot treating you like that. Just ask him what is wrong, at least you will get some closure that way.

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