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Keep this anon...pretty please!!! I don't want my friends to see this thread (they know me on here)
Basically in my sixth form (im in year 13, male, 18), its a very group based place with friendship groups which don't talk to each other. I talk to everybody and at breaktime/lunchtime like to drift around the common room talking to everybody.
Me and my best friend from year 7 have been good friends with this group of 7 people (9 of us in total, 4 girls, 5 boys) since the beginning of year 12. Basically the problems started when two of them started dating. (my best mate and one of the girls...I actually fancied the girl but he got to her first...so meh)
She went around telling his secrets to everybody (including me). It was quite sad and I KNOW girls tell everything to their mates but she went a bit overboard.
Basically he confronted her, they had a massive argument, broke up and they stopped talking. Me and the other guys tried fixing things and we still hung out as a group.
However, back in September, at one of our 18th birthday parties, my best mate got a bit drunk and tried it on with one of the other girls. They had a little kiss thing and his ex went CRAZY.
I couldn't believe it...then his ex got revenge by printing off msn convos with him and handing them out!!
Anyways, somehow she ended up getting the rest of them on her side. I personally hated her and stopped talking to her. I advised my best friend to do the same.
Since then we haven't been part of that "group". He gets really bored in school and doesn't really get on with the people I hang around with now. (My girlfriend and her friends). So hes in a bit of a dilemma and wants to go back and hang out with them guys again because he used to enjoy their company SO MUCH. I keep telling him to keep away.
I'm doing the right thing by telling him to keep away right? I don't ever want to speak to those guys because of the fact that they completely disregarded my mate and have been very bitchy about the both of us. (Including me and I haven't even done anything!)
Basically in my sixth form (im in year 13, male, 18), its a very group based place with friendship groups which don't talk to each other. I talk to everybody and at breaktime/lunchtime like to drift around the common room talking to everybody.
Me and my best friend from year 7 have been good friends with this group of 7 people (9 of us in total, 4 girls, 5 boys) since the beginning of year 12. Basically the problems started when two of them started dating. (my best mate and one of the girls...I actually fancied the girl but he got to her first...so meh)
She went around telling his secrets to everybody (including me). It was quite sad and I KNOW girls tell everything to their mates but she went a bit overboard.
Basically he confronted her, they had a massive argument, broke up and they stopped talking. Me and the other guys tried fixing things and we still hung out as a group.
However, back in September, at one of our 18th birthday parties, my best mate got a bit drunk and tried it on with one of the other girls. They had a little kiss thing and his ex went CRAZY.
I couldn't believe it...then his ex got revenge by printing off msn convos with him and handing them out!!
Anyways, somehow she ended up getting the rest of them on her side. I personally hated her and stopped talking to her. I advised my best friend to do the same.
Since then we haven't been part of that "group". He gets really bored in school and doesn't really get on with the people I hang around with now. (My girlfriend and her friends). So hes in a bit of a dilemma and wants to go back and hang out with them guys again because he used to enjoy their company SO MUCH. I keep telling him to keep away.
I'm doing the right thing by telling him to keep away right? I don't ever want to speak to those guys because of the fact that they completely disregarded my mate and have been very bitchy about the both of us. (Including me and I haven't even done anything!)
Reply 2
Democracy
You kids need to grow up...I mean really, they're not worth your time, if they want to patch things up in an adult fashion go for it, if they're gonna resort to tactics like handing out msn convos I wouldn't bother.
Tis what I'm saying mate. I'm keeping away no matter what.
My best mate just doesn't enjoy hanging out with my group. I really do feel for him. Our old group goes out clubbing and stuff (something I'm not really into) and he wants to be a part of that. (Just an example...theres loads of other things like birthdays, our old lunchtime chats, after school...he goes the same way as them on the bus and can't sit with them. He has to put up with them laughing and getting VERY paranoid that they're talking about him).
I feel selfish.
Reply 3
Personally i think the so called "group" has run its course. There is always one in the group that likes things to go there way. Trust me when i say this, the girl who started this will end up a lot worse in the future believe me. They will see the person that she is and the "group" will try apologising for their actions.
Tell your mate not to get wound up over them and indulge himself in new friends and college work. Be patient.....thats the key!
Tell your mate not to get wound up over them and indulge himself in new friends and college work. Be patient.....thats the key!
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