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Drunken past haunting me?

Is this normal? I'm in second year of university and I feel like my drunken past is haunting me. Every time I think of what I was up to in college and random things that I have done when drunk I get what can only be described as mental anguish. When observing other people they seem to take it very well and have an 'oh well! it happens!' attitude wheras I just cannot take it and feel disgraced.

Anyone else the same?

Please don't de-anon thanks.

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

In the first year you can get away with a lot in terms of drunken behaviour (heaven knows, in my first term I've started to get a somewhat roguish reputation from my antics). But if you persist beyond that, you may get the sort of reputation you don't want to be defined by. In truth, I think people actually rather like those sorts of characters. But in all honesty, most people forget that kind of behaviour long after you still remember it. It's all part of the fun. Trust me, people are usually harder on themselves than their peers are on them with regards to these things. Just don't risk being "the drunk guy", because if you're not careful, it's all that people will associate with you. Just focus on participating in activities around the university, so that people get a broader picture of what you're like. By the end of your time there, your drunken antics will be more a case of "remember that time when you..." than "Hey, aren't you the guy who..." In other words, rather than defining you, those episodes will be amusing footnotes in your past.

Reply 2

Brinny

2

Try not to dwell on it. Everyone has done something at one time or another that they regret, but it's in the past and there's nothing to do about it. I'm not saying forget about whatever happened, because that's impossible; rather, just try to move on. It can only get better with time :smile:

Reply 3

fabulous_darling

15

You really don't need to worry about drunken antics. I've had my fair share of, well, humiliating intoxicated experiences which many people have witnessed. I used to torment myself so much, but then I realised that no one actually cares! There's one certain horrific drunken moment which used to make me shudder everytime I thought of it, but then I mentioned it to my friend, but it turned out she'd completely forgotten about it and didn't judge me at all. When I'd reminded her about it we both ended up laughing about it, because it really didn't matter in the whole grand scheme of things (and it was pretty funny).

Reply 4

qubog

12

Anonymous

Is this normal? I'm in second year of university and I feel like my drunken past is haunting me. Every time I think of what I was up to in college and random things that I have done when drunk I get what can only be described as mental anguish. When observing other people they seem to take it very well and have an 'oh well! it happens!' attitude wheras I just cannot take it and feel disgraced.

Anyone else the same?

Please don't de-anon thanks.

Are you the guy who posted a couple of months ago saying he got drunk and attacked some paramedics, then tried to punch his mum? :s-smilie:

I feel a bit **** when I wake up remembering things I did the night before and the odd time I get a bit embarrassed remembering what i've done. Especially when my mates bring up drunken stories and sing "shame, shame, i know your name" at me. But its ok..it's just a bit of fun. Everyone else was probably as drunk as you when you did those silly things and hardly noticed. It's all ok :biggrin:

Reply 5

Anonymous #3

90% of the time when i have done drunken things I regret it soooo much the next day. I just hope that what people on this thread are saying is true and people forget more easily than you do! :p:

Reply 6

qubog

12

It is totally true anon 3. How often do you wake up remembering something that one of your friends has done? Hardly ever. You just wake up and focus on your own shame lol

Reply 7

spartakist

14

It's just 'The Fear', everyone gets it, although some more than others...

Reply 8

Chumbaniya

17

It's natural to worry a bit about what you've been up to if you were drunk and can't remember it, and a lot of the time people end up doing things they're not too proud of. But you need to realise that there are plenty of people in the same situation and they're not going to be hard on you for what you've done, so there's no need to be hard on yourself for it.

Quite early on this term I disgraced myself due to drink and I felt really awful about it since I'd never done anything like that before, but people were understanding about it (and thoroughly amused, for the most part), and since then I've seen plenty of people do similar things and I can very much sympathise with them and don't make a big deal of it. No one else is going to make a big deal of it if you don't.

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dumbdunc

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