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I was asleep in the morning, and my boyfriend was on his phone, I then 2 hours later went on his phone to use his safari browser, to search up a private nursery as I had an interview with them. When i clicked on the browser the first thing that came up was porn hub. He then noticed and snatched his phone out of my hand, I did not say anything or cry I just looked at him blankly.. he then refused to give me his phone, so I said to him if he doesnt hand the phone over, it is going back to the shop, when he gave me it back, i looked closer and the history had been cleared and it was on iphone private browser... He then cried and felt guilty for looking at it, as it was his grandmas birthday i dropped it as i didnt want to make a scene. 2 hours later, I asked him why did you watch it and he said because they scream, so i asked him did you get turned on which he replied yes to and he used it to jack himself off .. my heart is shattered, i feel all my emotions are blocked and I dont know what to do anymore, I know i love him still and weve been together just over a year . but now hes at work and im just wondering to myself whether he is on another website looking at it since i blocked the first one off his phone.. i just dont know what to say or do
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Watching porn while in a relationship isn't a big deal or weird. I'm pretty sure most people do it. If it bothers you that much just have an open discussion with him.
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Wtf... is your problem.
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Aye, its very common to watch porn, even in a relationship or even when you are married. But if you do have an issue with it, just bring it up with him.
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Aye, its very common to watch porn, even in a relationship or even when you are married. But if you do have an issue with it, just bring it up with him.
I agree with this, it's normal to watch porn whilst in a relationship it's only weird when you bring it up.

By the sound of it he enjoys the more vocal videos so if you're really feeling it next time the two of you are bumping bellies, don't be afraid to make some noise.
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Wtf did i just read. Who the fk are you to judge him. Every male does it even when in a relationship. You treat him like a little child saying "if you don't give it back I'm taking it back to the shops".


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I was asleep in the morning, and my boyfriend was on his phone, I then 2 hours later went on his phone to use his safari browser, to search up a private nursery as I had an interview with them. When i clicked on the browser the first thing that came up was porn hub. He then noticed and snatched his phone out of my hand, I did not say anything or cry I just looked at him blankly.. he then refused to give me his phone, so I said to him if he doesnt hand the phone over, it is going back to the shop, when he gave me it back, i looked closer and the history had been cleared and it was on iphone private browser... He then cried and felt guilty for looking at it, as it was his grandmas birthday i dropped it as i didnt want to make a scene. 2 hours later, I asked him why did you watch it and he said because they scream, so i asked him did you get turned on which he replied yes to and he used it to jack himself off .. my heart is shattered, i feel all my emotions are blocked and I dont know what to do anymore, I know i love him still and weve been together just over a year . but now hes at work and im just wondering to myself whether he is on another website looking at it since i blocked the first one off his phone.. i just dont know what to say or do
start watching porn yourself and masturbate over it
that way it wont be such a big deal to you


also i wouldnt have high expectations of any man tbh, they won't stop doing whatever they want to do.
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It doesn't mean he is not in love with you. Guys masturbate to porn all the time. Is no biggie. My bf does it too. I was really bothered at first, but after awhile, I got over it. Nowadays, he speaks openly about it and is funny to me now. Let your bf masturbate in peace. There's nothing wrong with it
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I was asleep in the morning, and my boyfriend was on his phone, I then 2 hours later went on his phone to use his safari browser, to search up a private nursery as I had an interview with them. When i clicked on the browser the first thing that came up was porn hub. He then noticed and snatched his phone out of my hand, I did not say anything or cry I just looked at him blankly.. he then refused to give me his phone, so I said to him if he doesnt hand the phone over, it is going back to the shop, when he gave me it back, i looked closer and the history had been cleared and it was on iphone private browser... He then cried and felt guilty for looking at it, as it was his grandmas birthday i dropped it as i didnt want to make a scene. 2 hours later, I asked him why did you watch it and he said because they scream, so i asked him did you get turned on which he replied yes to and he used it to jack himself off .. my heart is shattered, i feel all my emotions are blocked and I dont know what to do anymore, I know i love him still and weve been together just over a year . but now hes at work and im just wondering to myself whether he is on another website looking at it since i blocked the first one off his phone.. i just dont know what to say or do
let the man do his business in peace
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Why does it matter to you if your boyfriend watches porn? That's very normal.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I was asleep in the morning, and my boyfriend was on his phone, I then 2 hours later went on his phone to use his safari browser, to search up a private nursery as I had an interview with them. When i clicked on the browser the first thing that came up was porn hub. He then noticed and snatched his phone out of my hand, I did not say anything or cry I just looked at him blankly.. he then refused to give me his phone, so I said to him if he doesnt hand the phone over, it is going back to the shop, when he gave me it back, i looked closer and the history had been cleared and it was on iphone private browser... He then cried and felt guilty for looking at it, as it was his grandmas birthday i dropped it as i didnt want to make a scene. 2 hours later, I asked him why did you watch it and he said because they scream, so i asked him did you get turned on which he replied yes to and he used it to jack himself off .. my heart is shattered, i feel all my emotions are blocked and I dont know what to do anymore, I know i love him still and weve been together just over a year . but now hes at work and im just wondering to myself whether he is on another website looking at it since i blocked the first one off his phone.. i just dont know what to say or do
  1. Guys watch porn. So so women. Deal with it.
  2. You should be looking for things on your pwn phone, not his.
  3. Who the **** do you think you are blocking a person from accessing a particular site on a device that belongs to someone else?

Methinks you need to grow the hell up.
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Why does it matter to you if your boyfriend watches porn? That's very normal.
it's apparently normal but should it be?
all it means is that clearly one woman/their partner isn't enough for men.

(Original post by Tootles)
  1. Guys watch porn. So so women. Deal with it.
  2. You should be looking for things on your pwn phone, not his.
  3. Who the **** do you think you are blocking a person from accessing a particular site on a device that belongs to someone else?


Methinks you need to grow the hell up.
your second point is ****, you should be able to use your partners phone without worry, its not like she was looking through his phone or messages she was just on the browser and came across it...

i agree with the third point, blocking something means he's just gonna go somewhere else to find what he wants and you shouldn't have to control your partner like that
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(Original post by vybzkartel)
your second point is ****, you should be able to use your partners phone without worry, its not like she was looking through his phone or messages she was just on the browser and came across it...

i agree with the third point, blocking something means he's just gonna go somewhere else to find what he wants and you shouldn't have to control your partner like that
Hell nope. When I was engaged I expected the woman I was with to use her own phone and not mine. She was the same. There are some things you don't share, and sharing a device like that is like sharing a toothbrush.

Also I'm not sure about your choice of words - 'shouldn't have to control your partner' ... erm, "have to?" Are you ****ting me? OP's boyfriend isn't a badly-behaved Staffie that needs inappropriate behaviour trained out of him.
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Why does it matter to you if your boyfriend watches porn? That's very normal.
Because OP is insecure.
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Get over it, virtually all guys watch porn, it's not a serious issue.
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Hell nope. When I was engaged I expected the woman I was with to use her own phone and not mine. She was the same. There are some things you don't share, and sharing a device like that is like sharing a toothbrush.

Also I'm not sure about your choice of words - 'shouldn't have to control your partner' ... erm, "have to?" Are you ****ting me? OP's boyfriend isn't a badly-behaved Staffie that needs inappropriate behaviour trained out of him.
obviously you're expected to use your own phone, but most people would agree *not* letting your partner use your phone is dodgy as in what are you hiding?

it's not like sharing a toothbrush because that's hygiene related? plus if you make out and do oral with each other I don't see why occasionally sharing a toothbrush would be an issue either tbh.

yes I mean "have to" - if your partner is doing things that upset you you shouldn't feel the need to control anyone by taking their things away like that - don't see what else you want me to explain lol?
not saying he's badly behaved, it's more about OP controlling traits they don't like, you decided to take that one the wrong way yourself.

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Because OP is insecure.
...I think she's just unaware that sex does not equal love to men.
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it's apparently normal but should it be?
all it means is that clearly one woman/their partner isn't enough for men.
Hahaha. Are you serious? Your logic is ********. My bf can fap all he wants. But the end of the day, he knows where he can get that bomb ass puss xD.
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You sound a little bit controlling, he hasn't cheated on you or anything. I can see why it would hurt initially but I don't think it's really a big deal in the grand scheme of things
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I think you'll probably have a hard time finding a boyfriend who doesn't watch porn, although there are some out there. Even if they aren't watching porn, guys aren't always going to be thinking about their girlfriends while masturbating either. If it really bothers you, you'll have to let him know how you feel and see what he says. Maybe you can make some kind of deal and have a lot of sex with him instead of him looking at anything.
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