Why is it I?

I'm at college and I just never make friends, I don't know whether it's down to me being fussy, I mean I am a bit socially awkward but not to the point where I'm a complete turn off. I've shy, anyways I always seem to get on with people fine, but it never seems to go further than the classroom. Also, it's not as if other people have been going out with people in the same class so it's like nothing against me I don't think. I haven't particularly liked anyone, well 1 or 2 people that I've met and I just can't seem to fit in somewhere, somehow. Christmas is coming soon and I'm always hearing party this party that and just as usual I'll probably miss out for no specific reason, I never get asked out to parties, I never even hear about them in all fairness, like I said I get on with people fine but I just find it hard to gel with them outside the clasroom, it's like they all go off to their different avenues. I wish I knew what I was doing wrong! :s-smilie:

Reply 1

lifeispie

6

FM08

I'm at college and I just never make friends, I don't know whether it's down to me being fussy, I mean I am a bit socially awkward but not to the point where I'm a complete turn off. I've shy, anyways I always seem to get on with people fine, but it never seems to go further than the classroom. Also, it's not as if other people have been going out with people in the same class so it's like nothing against me I don't think. I haven't particularly liked anyone, well 1 or 2 people that I've met and I just can't seem to fit in somewhere, somehow. Christmas is coming soon and I'm always hearing party this party that and just as usual I'll probably miss out for no specific reason, I never get asked out to parties, I never even hear about them in all fairness, like I said I get on with people fine but I just find it hard to gel with them outside the clasroom, it's like they all go off to their different avenues. I wish I knew what I was doing wrong! :s-smilie:

im at college and i havent hung out with my class friends outside the classroom, besides living too far apart we never really thought about it. I think you should try and speak up for yourself more, interact in classroom activities that involve group work more. never know you may make a friend for life.

Reply 2

dhutch

17

Crash one of the afore mentioned partys, get smashed off you face, and vomit over the most attractive girl in the room, and take it from there?

No, serously i dont know, ive always been fairly shy, thoughout 6th form i never went to anyones private party or house. However thoughout second year i had a reasonable smattering of freinds i could talk to in the common room, and share lifts to the monthly 6th form socials.
- You can start by trying to work out who you might be, or want to be, freinds with. Listen and join into convosations in and around the classroom and im sure you will find atlease someone who shares some interests with you. And then just talk to them about that stuff, work from there?

I spent a fair bit of time, certainly in the first year, just sitting within a group of people who i would have like to have been freinds with, saying nothing.
- Litterally for an hour through a free perod, i would say nothing to anyone. Silly bastard. But thats shyness for you. Doesnt work with hot girls that trick eather.

I went to the 6th form of a local school, becuase my school didnt have a 6th form. But that did mean that i was the only one in the whole year who didnt know someone. There was just me, five people from a-another school. And then 200 who had all basicaly known each other from year severn. DOH!!

Daniel

Reply 3

Vohamanah

16

I was the only person from my school that went to the local College. At first it was horrible. I didn't know anyone and I'm very quiet, which didn't help! I fell in with a couple who sat behind me in psychology. They weren't the type of people I'd usually hang out with, but they were friendly and happy to go to lunch with me and things like that. Eventually I met someone I knew :smile:

Some girl who I worked with for a month or two and who had just moved to the area. Lucky for me she was a right loudmouth and wouldn't let me shy away from going out and having fun. I've sort of lost touch with all of them now, but it was my loud friend that really made my time at College bearable.

So I guess I would say talk to people you have classes with, ask what they are doing that day and so on. I know its tough, I always have trouble meeting new people.

Reply 4

dhutch

17

Yeah well it was a little bit simualar to that for me, in that there was one bloke that lived in our village (know one else lived within half an hour of us)that had been going there for years and was also fairly 'popular'.

I didnt really talk to him at all tbh as we where very diffrent, but his mum and mine where freinds, and she ended up giving the pair of us lifts said socials. Which was how i got there, and got to know more people better.
- Also the presents of alcohol made it easyer as well, not in excess, but i deffonatly feel more selfconfidence after a pint or two, and that does actaully help.

Daniel

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