Im Pakistani girl and I'm gonna be entering year 13 in September and I need some help or tips to convince my parents to send me to a uni away from home if need be.
So far the units I like is UCL, Warwick , Nottingham and uni of Birmingham. I live in Birmingham and want to study computer science.
I really would love to go to UCL and if not then Warwick. I know Warwick is far but I won't move out for it but London is far and my mom doesn't understand that some UNIs are just better than others in many aspects but she says that if need be she will happily send me to UCL but she doesn't sound sure or happy when she says it. I guess I'm asking for tips to convince her properly.
I know that it's hard in my 'culture' also all my cousins or family members have not gone to uni or have gone to a uni closely that I would definitely not want to go to.
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I'm a Pakistani, and can understand where your coming from. I think you should sit with your mum and tell her how ambitious you are. Tell her the reasons why don't want to go to a specific university e.g. the atmosphere is bad (exaggerate a little if needs be). Ask her why she doesn't want you to go and let her know you will never let her down and to let her trust you as you are old and mature enough to make decisions for yourself now. I hope she listens, good luck!
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- 15-07-2017 20:40
If you like in Birmingham it would actually be possible for you to commute to Warwick
New Street to Coventry is only 20 minutes and there are constant buses going to Warwick uni from Coventry station
You could try convince your mum to let you live in halls first year, then commute for the rest. -
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- 15-07-2017 21:37
Find a positive female role model from a similar background to yours and show your mum how proud of you she will be when you do the same.
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- 15-07-2017 21:45
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try and find a uni where youre able to travel to by train/car and come home easily- maybe an hour away?
my parents didnt want me to, but with research and persuasion they let me
it makes you independant, learn the value of money, they need to know that they can trust you, learn how to live in the real world with being dependent on anyone.
living out has made me more liberal, and i really think the experience is worth it, these uni Uni wont come back
having female friends of the same religion will help, your parents will be reassured too, flatmates etc are part of the uni life experience- you cant really chose them!
PM me if you need any advice- i had to spend 2 hours persuading mine to let me stay out! -
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(Original post by AlishaS786)
I'm a Pakistani, and can understand where your coming from. I think you should sit with your mum and tell her how ambitious you are. Tell her the reasons why don't want to go to a specific university e.g. the atmosphere is bad (exaggerate a little if needs be). Ask her why she doesn't want you to go and let her know you will never let her down and to let her trust you as you are old and mature enough to make decisions for yourself now. I hope she listens, good luck! -
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- 16-07-2017 13:43
(Original post by Strawberry68)
If you like in Birmingham it would actually be possible for you to commute to Warwick
New Street to Coventry is only 20 minutes and there are constant buses going to Warwick uni from Coventry station
You could try convince your mum to let you live in halls first year, then commute for the rest. -
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- 16-07-2017 13:48
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(Original post by CleverSquirrel)
my area of expertise here
try and find a uni where youre able to travel to by train/car and come home easily- maybe an hour away?
my parents didnt want me to, but with research and persuasion they let me
it makes you independant, learn the value of money, they need to know that they can trust you, learn how to live in the real world with being dependent on anyone.
living out has made me more liberal, and i really think the experience is worth it, these uni Uni wont come back
having female friends of the same religion will help, your parents will be reassured too, flatmates etc are part of the uni life experience- you cant really chose them!
PM me if you need any advice- i had to spend 2 hours persuading mine to let me stay out!
Did u move out then? And what uni did u go to, -
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- 16-07-2017 18:44
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Thank you this was really helpful. Yes my top units I want to go is UCL or Warwick, Warwick is just there either if I don't get into UCL or if my mom won't let me go. I have a lot of friends of the same religion and some of the same background but my mom isn't really involved in my life as much for example I have to go places and do stuff for myself, my mom doesn't understand the whole uni thing so I go to open days with my friends and stuff but she says I can move out but she doesn't seem happy when she says it.
Did u move out then? And what uni did u go to,
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- 16-07-2017 18:50
(Original post by Minionez)
Im Pakistani girl and I'm gonna be entering year 13 in September and I need some help or tips to convince my parents to send me to a uni away from home if need be.
So far the units I like is UCL, Warwick , Nottingham and uni of Birmingham. I live in Birmingham and want to study computer science.
I really would love to go to UCL and if not then Warwick. I know Warwick is far but I won't move out for it but London is far and my mom doesn't understand that some UNIs are just better than others in many aspects but she says that if need be she will happily send me to UCL but she doesn't sound sure or happy when she says it. I guess I'm asking for tips to convince her properly.
I know that it's hard in my 'culture' also all my cousins or family members have not gone to uni or have gone to a uni closely that I would definitely not want to go to.
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