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    I'm a shy insecure guy, but I have always tried to push myself out of my comfort zone and do scary things to improve myself. I have played guitar at 3 concerts in front of hundreds, I have done 2 speeches both in front of thousands, gone to parties, travelled on my own etc. Yet every time I try another scary thing, or indeed do the same thing again, I always get really nervous again! Is this natural or is there a way to relax more?

    Even if you've done something ten times over it's natural to still be nervous beforehand, but it's great that you're putting yourself out there like you are. The only advice I can really think of here is the cliche things that you might be doing already, but just in case they help:
    1. Breathing techniques: a few deep breaths always help me when I'm feeling nervous
    2. Pep talks: Rationalising to yourself why you're nervous and reassuring yourself that you're capable of doing sometihng is a really good way to improve self-confidence
    3. Music: This might not work for everyone but I have a playlist on my phone full of music that makes me feel confident. I listen to it before things like job interviews and things like that, and it helps me to feel better in myself. If you get nervous travelling, having a playlist full of relaxing music you can listen to while you're travelling is a good way of tuning out your surroundings.

    Hope these help!
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