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    I'm a shy insecure guy, but I have always tried to push myself out of my comfort zone and do scary things to improve myself. I have played guitar at 3 concerts in front of hundreds, I have done 2 speeches both in front of thousands, gone to parties, travelled on my own etc. Yet every time I try another scary thing, or indeed do the same thing again, I always get really nervous again! Is this natural or is there a way to relax more?
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    Even if you've done something ten times over it's natural to still be nervous beforehand, but it's great that you're putting yourself out there like you are. The only advice I can really think of here is the cliche things that you might be doing already, but just in case they help:
    1. Breathing techniques: a few deep breaths always help me when I'm feeling nervous
    2. Pep talks: Rationalising to yourself why you're nervous and reassuring yourself that you're capable of doing sometihng is a really good way to improve self-confidence
    3. Music: This might not work for everyone but I have a playlist on my phone full of music that makes me feel confident. I listen to it before things like job interviews and things like that, and it helps me to feel better in myself. If you get nervous travelling, having a playlist full of relaxing music you can listen to while you're travelling is a good way of tuning out your surroundings.

    Hope these help!
 
 
 
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