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    I can't get over being raped I dont know what to do. Advice? Anything that helps?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I dont know what to do. Advice? Anything that helps?
    counselling? I've heard from many people around me it helps although this can be quite costly maybe talk to your GP in hope they'd refer you to a specialist
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    That's really helpful.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I dont know what to do. Advice? Anything that helps?
    Have you spoken to your family about it?
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    Have you spoken to your family about it?
    Yh and they just want me to have abortion and problem will be 'solved' but...i guess they are supporting me as well
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    (Original post by lmaooome)
    counselling? I've heard from many people around me it helps although this can be quite costly maybe talk to your GP in hope they'd refer you to a specialist
    I got referred by my GP but then things didn't go, i never go back to it
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    Yh and they just want me to have abortion and problem will be 'solved' but...i guess they are supporting me as well
    So is the main problem the fact that you will be unable to support the child?
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    So is the main problem the fact that you will be unable to support the child?
    They've said that, i dont agree. They think it's so easy. I dont want abortion but...yeah that is the problem. Im quite young as well.
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    Sorry im not making sense
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    I can't get over being raped I dont know what to do. Advice? Anything that helps?
    Moved to the mental health forum for you I've also changed the thread title and added a trigger warning so others aren't triggered.

    I'm really sorry you've had to go through such an awful thing, I'm not in the best place to offer advice but it's certainly something you don't need to just 'get over'

    It might be worth going back to your GP too and really considering following counselling when you feel ready to face it :console:
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    They've said that, i dont agree. They think it's so easy. I dont want abortion but...yeah that is the problem. Im quite young as well.
    Do you want to have the child?
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    Think carefully about the options you have you don't want to end up regretting any decision you make. Personally, I'd keep it and if I know I don't necessarily have the funds to bring the child up properly, then there's fostering or even adoption. Hope that helped 😃
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    (Original post by Deyesy)
    Moved to the mental health forum for you I've also changed the thread title and added a trigger warning so others aren't triggered.

    I'm really sorry you've had to go through such an awful thing, I'm not in the best place to offer advice but it's certainly something you don't need to just 'get over'

    It might be worth going back to your GP too and really considering following counselling when you feel ready to face it :console:
    Thanks.
    I don't even kmow what i'm looking for, probably made countless thread and get the same answers, it's as if i want someone to say something that will magically solce everything and that's not gonna happen. Tired of it all.
    Health is not too good either so when i got referred to a specialist i couldnt go to it. Waiting to get better and it's gonna take a long time. Wish i could forget everything or go back so it never happened. So tired honestly im expecting things to happen kn their own, making these pointless thread and sitting there sobbing like....like its gonna be ok.
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    Without knowing the circumstances of whether you reported the rape or not will depend on how you approach possible counselling.
    And I'm not just referring to professional help. Talking to anyone is counselling of sorts and that would be my first bit of advice, there are plenty of organisations that have been set up to offer support and if close friends and family members are not a route you wish to use or can approach I would advise you to get guidance from your GP or reach out to one of the organisations directly.

    The first step is always the hardest but please don't suffer in silence. If you have reported it or not I'm not nor should anyone else be judgemental or telling you to report it, that was and always will be your decision. Seek out help and use it, unfortunately there are plenty of people of both sexes who are or have been in the same position as you and will help you heal some of your wounds and help you to heal yourself.
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    (Original post by sarahyi)
    Think carefully about the options you have you don't want to end up regretting any decision you make. Personally, I'd keep it and if I know I don't necessarily have the funds to bring the child up properly, then there's fostering or even adoption. Hope that helped 😃
    You'd keep your rapists child?
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    (Original post by Fermion.)
    You'd keep your rapists child?
    Everyone labels the child as "rapists child" forgetting that the mother can still form an attachment with the child. It's unfair to brand the child with "rapists child" and unfair on the mother, who might actually want to keep the child, no matter the circumstances that brought it upon her.
    Please be considerate in the wording, hope you don't feel like I'm having a go at you, but many people ise these forums and you can't know the affect these words can have.
    Some will be okay keeping the child, some wont. Honestly it's up to the individual, personally myself would keep "my child" if I could.
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    I can't get over being raped I dont know what to do. Advice? Anything that helps?
    Talk to your GP about getting some therapy. It's understandable that an event like that could cause some significant trauma that you have some difficulty overcoming. A therapist can work through it with you and help you move past it.
    Counselling and therapy vary a lot depending on who you see, so even if you have had a negative experience before I suggest you give it another go. I also suggest therapy over counselling as counsellors mostly play a supportive listening role, while therapists can get a bit more involved with active support.
    I had counselling which I found just dragged up issues and did nothing to resolve them, but I found group therapy a lot more helpful as it offered more active support.

    I believe there are also specialised services to help people in situations where they are considering abortion etc. I'm not sure if you are actually considering an abortion yourself, but I'm sure they can help you with your situation regardless.

    There are also various helplines for sexual assault with should be able to hive your advice and help direct you to decent support.

    I'm sure there are also support groups in your area or online which you could try. I imagine this must be a very isolation situation for you and it can help a lot just to know you aren't alone and have some people to talk to who can empathise with your situation.

    Best wises and please feel free to ask any questions, have a vent etc.
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    (Original post by Furai)
    Do you want to have the child?
    I just dont want to have abortion which means that's my only option
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    (Original post by starfab)
    Everyone labels the child as "rapists child" forgetting that the mother can still form an attachment with the child. It's unfair to brand the child with "rapists child" and unfair on the mother, who might actually want to keep the child, no matter the circumstances that brought it upon her.
    Please be considerate in the wording, hope you don't feel like I'm having a go at you, but many people ise these forums and you can't know the affect these words can have.
    Some will be okay keeping the child, some wont. Honestly it's up to the individual, personally myself would keep "my child" if I could.
    I was just wanting to know that users opinions. I wasnt having a go at anyone either...
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    You'd keep your rapists child?
    It's mine more than his. And after that it's just a child.
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