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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I just dont want to have abortion which means that's my only option
    Am sure there are risks to having abortion so I can understand but if you do have the child would you really want to raise it?

    There is also adoption, have you considered this?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It's mine more than his. And after that it's just a child.
    If you dont want to take the route of abortion, you could give the child away to another family once its born if you feel like you arent ready for a child. You need to get yourself referred for some counselling as well. Honestly it just takes time. Some people never get over this as from personal experience, 10 years later I am still not over it, but it does get a little easier each day. Have you reported the rapist? It might make you feel a little bit in control or better if you do as that helps a lot of victims move on from it.
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    Right basically i need counseling.
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    (Original post by Fermion.)
    If you dont want to take the route of abortion, you could give the child away to another family once its born if you feel like you arent ready for a child. You need to get yourself referred for some counselling as well. Honestly it just takes time. Some people never get over this as from personal experience, 10 years later I am still not over it, but it does get a little easier each day. Have you reported the rapist? It might make you feel a little bit in control or better if you do as that helps a lot of victims move on from it.
    Attachment? That doesn't matter rn tbh, the problem is getting through the pregnancy. IDK what i want myself

    Okay, i will get some sometimes soon. I hope

    Aw :hugs: so sorry. Did you report it?

    I've reported it a while ago. It helped (im not too sure) just feeling safer. Alot safer than seeing him everyday or having that fear...
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    (Original post by Furai)
    Am sure there are risks to having abortion so I can understand but if you do have the child would you really want to raise it?

    There is also adoption, have you considered this?
    I wouldn't mind at all, if i have the money though which i dont.

    No i wouldnt give it for adoption.
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    (Original post by Kindred)
    Talk to your GP about getting some therapy. It's understandable that an event like that could cause some significant trauma that you have some difficulty overcoming. A therapist can work through it with you and help you move past it.
    Counselling and therapy vary a lot depending on who you see, so even if you have had a negative experience before I suggest you give it another go. I also suggest therapy over counselling as counsellors mostly play a supportive listening role, while therapists can get a bit more involved with active support.
    I had counselling which I found just dragged up issues and did nothing to resolve them, but I found group therapy a lot more helpful as it offered more active support.

    I believe there are also specialised services to help people in situations where they are considering abortion etc. I'm not sure if you are actually considering an abortion yourself, but I'm sure they can help you with your situation regardless.

    There are also various helplines for sexual assault with should be able to hive your advice and help direct you to decent support.

    I'm sure there are also support groups in your area or online which you could try. I imagine this must be a very isolation situation for you and it can help a lot just to know you aren't alone and have some people to talk to who can empathise with your situation.

    Best wises and please feel free to ask any questions, have a vent etc.
    Thank you so much. Found it helpful. I didn't really know the difference between counseling and therapy because ive only had therapy in the past. I will ask for it now.

    Thanks for the offer :hugs:
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    (Original post by Fermion.)
    You'd keep your rapists child?
    I dont have the heart to abort that's why
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    (Original post by sarahyi)
    I dont have the heart to abort that's why
    I think it's the same for me :/
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    (Original post by Fermion.)
    I was just wanting to know that users opinions. I wasnt having a go at anyone either...
    Fairs. And I know you weren't. That was me jumping ahead coz I want others to consider some of the stuff they say, is all.
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    Nobody has ever gotten over anything by not thinking about it. The more you avoid something the more your brain thinks about it 🙄

    If you reported a while back, then abortion isn't an option anyway.

    I'm not sure what you want from us. There's no easy solution to recovering from rape. It takes years even without the complication of bearing a child from rape. Your best options are to seek specialist support through rape crisis centres or counselling.
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    (Original post by ~Tara~)
    Nobody has ever gotten over anything by not thinking about it. The more you avoid something the more your brain thinks about it 🙄

    If you reported a while back, then abortion isn't an option anyway.

    I'm not sure what you want from us. There's no easy solution to recovering from rape. It takes years even without the complication of bearing a child from rape. Your best options are to seek specialist support through rape crisis centres or counselling.
    Why isn't abortion an option?

    I know sorry. Going for therapy on friday hopefully.
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    The way you worded it made it seem like your pregnancy would be past the maximum number of weeks for abortion
 
 
 
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