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    I have just returned from my semester abroad and my 'boyfriend' has been acting off with me and has called off our relationship.
    He says it's because I do not sleep at his house enough, and he does not believe I ever will. I get where he is coming from but it just seems quite a crap reason to end our relationship, I have even said that I would stay at his house after my semester abroad had finished. He says I am not loving enough because I hate PDA, but I cannot change this.
    I don't know what to do. He says he still loves me but he can't see it working out, however I definitely could if we both put in more time and effort into our relationship. I have only been home for three weeks.
    I don't know what to do/say to him to make him see differently. Help
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    He sounds like he's giving you every excuse in the book to break up

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    But he says he is still in love with me, and when he came to visit me abroad we had an amazing week together. I am so confused
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have just returned from my semester abroad and my 'boyfriend' has been acting off with me and has called off our relationship.
    He says it's because I do not sleep at his house enough, and he does not believe I ever will. I get where he is coming from but it just seems quite a crap reason to end our relationship, I have even said that I would stay at his house after my semester abroad had finished. He says I am not loving enough because I hate PDA, but I cannot change this.
    I don't know what to do. He says he still loves me but he can't see it working out, however I definitely could if we both put in more time and effort into our relationship. I have only been home for three weeks.
    I don't know what to do/say to him to make him see differently. Help
    If he doesn't believe the relationship is advancing, unless you want it to i can't see much changing. After five years together has much changed since you got together at all?
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    If he doesn't believe the relationship is advancing, unless you want it to i can't see much changing. After five years together has much changed since you got together at all?
    We get on fine most of the time, I do not understand why he is being so difficult with me. I did not stay at his house during Christmas when I came home for a few weeks because I was spending time with my family, but I still seen him every day and even went away for a weekend. I just do not want to throw our relationship away about something so trivial.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    We get on fine most of the time, I do not understand why he is being so difficult with me. I did not stay at his house during Christmas when I came home for a few weeks because I was spending time with my family, but I still seen him every day and even went away for a weekend. I just do not want to throw our relationship away about something so trivial.
    I think perhaps it isn't trivial to them, he wants to spend more time with you and perhaps he feels like you don't want to. Maybe he wants a lot more than just occasionally staying at each others places especially after five years? Either way it seems you both aren't in the same place so perhaps a clean break is what you need.
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    (Original post by claireestelle)
    I think perhaps it isn't trivial to them, he wants to spend more time with you and perhaps he feels like you don't want to. Maybe he wants a lot more than just occasionally staying at each others places especially after five years? Either way it seems you both aren't in the same place so perhaps a clean break is what you need.
    But I have told him that I would do this so it would work and improve our relationship. I can't get him to listen to me.
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    But I have told him that I would do this so it would work and improve our relationship. I can't get him to listen to me.
    If not much has changed between you two in five years I can understand why it would be difficult for him to accept what you are saying. It might not do any good, but maybe you could try and have a very serious conversation along the lines of, i imagine after uni we would live together, in five years x and in ten years x, show you're serious about having a proper future together. And if you get nowhere with that, then you know you don't want the same things and that staying separated is the best thing for you both.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have just returned from my semester abroad and my 'boyfriend' has been acting off with me and has called off our relationship.
    He says it's because I do not sleep at his house enough, and he does not believe I ever will. I get where he is coming from but it just seems quite a crap reason to end our relationship, I have even said that I would stay at his house after my semester abroad had finished. He says I am not loving enough because I hate PDA, but I cannot change this.
    I don't know what to do. He says he still loves me but he can't see it working out, however I definitely could if we both put in more time and effort into our relationship. I have only been home for three weeks.
    I don't know what to do/say to him to make him see differently. Help
    Sounds like he wants you to move in with him or maybe something else is going on. You should talk to him


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