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telling him im not on the pill
got myself in a bit of an awkward situation. Just wondering if anyone could maybe give a little advice?
me and this boy have been having a sort of thing for a while now, like it started off like i would always pull him if i saw him in a club. then it kind of moved on like we hung out a bit and stuff and went to a few parties together. then we slept together... but we were both pretty drunk so didnt use anything. I'm not on the pill or anything, but got the morning after pill so it was ok. we carried on hanging out and stuff and then it happened again... but i got my period the next day luckily so didnt have to use another £25 to get another pill.
The thing is now, im pretty sure he assumes im on the pill and if it happens again hes just gunn a carry on how he is. and im working myself up into such a panic as to how to tell him im not cos hes gunna get confused why i didnt say before and i dont really want him to know that i spent so much money on the morning after pill.
The thing is, i have wanted to go on the pill for ages anyway cos my periods are really irregular and heavy.
I know its so silly, like ive slept with him and im too scared to tell him something like this, but ahhh i dno. hes cool and i like him, but when we talk its more just like random things that arent important, and we just have fun. I cant imagine having this kind of serious conversation.
so yeh, anyone got any ideas how i can ask him to use a condom next time? also anyone know what to do to actually go on the pill? like do i just go to the doc and ask for it or can i just see a nurse?
Any help would be much appreciated
me and this boy have been having a sort of thing for a while now, like it started off like i would always pull him if i saw him in a club. then it kind of moved on like we hung out a bit and stuff and went to a few parties together. then we slept together... but we were both pretty drunk so didnt use anything. I'm not on the pill or anything, but got the morning after pill so it was ok. we carried on hanging out and stuff and then it happened again... but i got my period the next day luckily so didnt have to use another £25 to get another pill.
The thing is now, im pretty sure he assumes im on the pill and if it happens again hes just gunn a carry on how he is. and im working myself up into such a panic as to how to tell him im not cos hes gunna get confused why i didnt say before and i dont really want him to know that i spent so much money on the morning after pill.
The thing is, i have wanted to go on the pill for ages anyway cos my periods are really irregular and heavy.
I know its so silly, like ive slept with him and im too scared to tell him something like this, but ahhh i dno. hes cool and i like him, but when we talk its more just like random things that arent important, and we just have fun. I cant imagine having this kind of serious conversation.
so yeh, anyone got any ideas how i can ask him to use a condom next time? also anyone know what to do to actually go on the pill? like do i just go to the doc and ask for it or can i just see a nurse?
Any help would be much appreciated
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Reply 1
16
yea you make an appointment and go in most surgerys, some might be different but thats how it is in all i know.
just tell him out right. when things start heading that way take out a condom. if he says anything just say- im not on the pill
just tell him out right. when things start heading that way take out a condom. if he says anything just say- im not on the pill
Reply 2
17
Yeah - just ask him to use a condom, you don't have to say why - hopefully he won't ask you why you want him to use a condom. Even if you were on the pill, plenty of people still use condoms just for added reassurance! Plus the pill won't protect you from catching other nasties that may be passed between each other down there! 
If he asks you why he should use a condom, I wouldn't be too impressed by him - though if it's something like "How come you didn't ask me to use one the other times?" then that's more acceptable - if so then just say you were a bit too shy to ask as you didn't know him as well now, but you feel like you're getting closer and would rather just take precautions. Hopefully he'll understand
If he asks you why he should use a condom, I wouldn't be too impressed by him - though if it's something like "How come you didn't ask me to use one the other times?" then that's more acceptable - if so then just say you were a bit too shy to ask as you didn't know him as well now, but you feel like you're getting closer and would rather just take precautions. Hopefully he'll understand
Reply 3
Anonymous
I'm not on the pill or anything, but got the morning after pill so it was ok. we carried on hanging out and stuff and then it happened again... but i got my period the next day luckily so didnt have to use another £25 to get another pill.
This was the scariest bit of all. The morning after pill is for emergancies - if you'd got pregnant would you treat an abortion like a contraceptive?
If I'm honest you've been pretty stupid; you have no idea if this guy has caught anything, he could be pulling other girls like this at the same time or have done this a few times. He was also stupid for not suggesting protection, and possibly just hoping you were on the pill or something.
Just go and get the pill or use condoms.
If you can't suggest safe sex with a guy you don't really know, I suggest you don't do it.
Reply 4
15
:dito:
You should be using a condom even if you were on the pill. Imean you met the guy in a club & if you 2 slept together just like that without knowing each other whos to say hes not doing that with other girls too? the pill / morning after pill doesnt protect you from STIs.
You should be using a condom even if you were on the pill. Imean you met the guy in a club & if you 2 slept together just like that without knowing each other whos to say hes not doing that with other girls too? the pill / morning after pill doesnt protect you from STIs.
Reply 5
Just go on the pill, it's the easiest option.
What you do is:
1) Go up to the reception desk in your doctors surgery and ask to make an appointment with the doctor. If it's a uni health center they'll probably like you to see a nurse.
2) At your appointment say "Hi I've come in for some contraception please."
3) You are given your prescription.
Then BINGO. You won't have to use the morning after pill on any more unborn love children.
But do that as soon as you can (tomorrow) because there'll be a lag in making the appointment and seeing then nurse, then again between seeing the nurse and getting the prescription, and you can't take the pill immediately because you need to take at the right point in your mentral cycle etc etc etc. These things can take time. Although your sex partnet can use this time to get himself checked out for STDs so it's not all bad.
Lol.. this thought entered my head when i was reading too.
What you do is:
1) Go up to the reception desk in your doctors surgery and ask to make an appointment with the doctor. If it's a uni health center they'll probably like you to see a nurse.
2) At your appointment say "Hi I've come in for some contraception please."
3) You are given your prescription.
Then BINGO. You won't have to use the morning after pill on any more unborn love children.
But do that as soon as you can (tomorrow) because there'll be a lag in making the appointment and seeing then nurse, then again between seeing the nurse and getting the prescription, and you can't take the pill immediately because you need to take at the right point in your mentral cycle etc etc etc. These things can take time. Although your sex partnet can use this time to get himself checked out for STDs so it's not all bad.
This was the scariest bit of all. The morning after pill is for emergancies - if you'd got pregnant would you treat an abortion like a contraceptive?
Lol.. this thought entered my head when i was reading too.
Reply 6
11
So go on the pill.
In the meantime if you don't want to admit the truth, and pretend you were always on it, you could say that you got out of sync with your prespriction with switching doctors or something and there's a sort of gap in your cycle (confuse him with menstruation vocab) and you have to use condoms for a bit until you can start a new packet.
Also, get an STD test, that unprotected sex was very very daft.
(Anyway, you should totally have made him pay for half that morning after pill, that's the standard etiquette imo).
In the meantime if you don't want to admit the truth, and pretend you were always on it, you could say that you got out of sync with your prespriction with switching doctors or something and there's a sort of gap in your cycle (confuse him with menstruation vocab) and you have to use condoms for a bit until you can start a new packet.
Also, get an STD test, that unprotected sex was very very daft.
(Anyway, you should totally have made him pay for half that morning after pill, that's the standard etiquette imo).
Reply 7
I would start being truthful if I were you, the Morning after piil is not to be abused. Least as the others said, go on the pill or make him use a condom.
Reply 8
Anonymous
so yeh, anyone got any ideas how i can ask him to use a condom next time? also anyone know what to do to actually go on the pill? like do i just go to the doc and ask for it or can i just see a nurse?
so yeh, anyone got any ideas how i can ask him to use a condom next time? also anyone know what to do to actually go on the pill? like do i just go to the doc and ask for it or can i just see a nurse?
Dont ask him, tell him & if you cant quite manage to say that, you really shouldnt be sleeping with anyone.
Its already been explained about how to go on the pill so ill skip that, but contemplating sleeping with him again should be the last of your worries at the minute.
You had unprotected sex with someone that you dont really know. You should go and get an STI test before even contemplating sleeping with him again protected or not. There are far worse things to catch than babies.
Reply 9
18
You do realise the morning after pill will stop working if you keep taking it as often as you are.
Reply 10
11
Rock Fan
I would start being truthful if I were you, the Morning after piil is not to be abused.
Exactly, besides, you can only use it once a cycle.
Reply 11
tbh you dont sound mature enough to even be having sex if you dot know the simplest things. You didnt learn form your first mistake either which is rather worrying BUT i suggest you make an appointment with your doctor, say you want to go on the pill theyll take your blood pressure, weight etc then will prescirbe you some for 3 months. you then use the prescription again as its a repeat. Also, if you think that asking a guy to use a condom makes you look stupid, it doesnt, its being right and its silly not to atm tbh.
Reply 12
Zoecb
(Anyway, you should totally have made him pay for half that morning after pill, that's the standard etiquette imo).
But why? She was the one who didn't tell him. How was he supposed to know?
Reply 13
Anonymous
got myself in a bit of an awkward situation. Just wondering if anyone could maybe give a little advice?
me and this boy have been having a sort of thing for a while now, like it started off like i would always pull him if i saw him in a club. then it kind of moved on like we hung out a bit and stuff and went to a few parties together. then we slept together... but we were both pretty drunk so didnt use anything. I'm not on the pill or anything, but got the morning after pill so it was ok. we carried on hanging out and stuff and then it happened again... but i got my period the next day luckily so didnt have to use another £25 to get another pill.
The thing is now, im pretty sure he assumes im on the pill and if it happens again hes just gunn a carry on how he is. and im working myself up into such a panic as to how to tell him im not cos hes gunna get confused why i didnt say before and i dont really want him to know that i spent so much money on the morning after pill.
The thing is, i have wanted to go on the pill for ages anyway cos my periods are really irregular and heavy.
I know its so silly, like ive slept with him and im too scared to tell him something like this, but ahhh i dno. hes cool and i like him, but when we talk its more just like random things that arent important, and we just have fun. I cant imagine having this kind of serious conversation.
so yeh, anyone got any ideas how i can ask him to use a condom next time? also anyone know what to do to actually go on the pill? like do i just go to the doc and ask for it or can i just see a nurse?
Any help would be much appreciated
me and this boy have been having a sort of thing for a while now, like it started off like i would always pull him if i saw him in a club. then it kind of moved on like we hung out a bit and stuff and went to a few parties together. then we slept together... but we were both pretty drunk so didnt use anything. I'm not on the pill or anything, but got the morning after pill so it was ok. we carried on hanging out and stuff and then it happened again... but i got my period the next day luckily so didnt have to use another £25 to get another pill.
The thing is now, im pretty sure he assumes im on the pill and if it happens again hes just gunn a carry on how he is. and im working myself up into such a panic as to how to tell him im not cos hes gunna get confused why i didnt say before and i dont really want him to know that i spent so much money on the morning after pill.
The thing is, i have wanted to go on the pill for ages anyway cos my periods are really irregular and heavy.
I know its so silly, like ive slept with him and im too scared to tell him something like this, but ahhh i dno. hes cool and i like him, but when we talk its more just like random things that arent important, and we just have fun. I cant imagine having this kind of serious conversation.
so yeh, anyone got any ideas how i can ask him to use a condom next time? also anyone know what to do to actually go on the pill? like do i just go to the doc and ask for it or can i just see a nurse?
Any help would be much appreciated
1) Go to your GP.
2) Ask to go on the pill, and get a free pregnancy test while you're there.
3) Ask for a full STD screening.
If you sleep with this guy again:
1) Ask him to use a condom.
2) Ask him to get tested for STDs as well.
If you can't do all these things, you're not mature enough to be having sex.
Reply 14
Just tell him to use a condom. The last time I slept with someone, he wasn't keen on using a condom but I am scared ****less if I don't use one. He was like "Oh, do I have to?" and I said "YES!!" and afterwards he was glad I made him use one. It's your responsibility as well. If he's not keen on sleeping with you without one then maybe he's not worth sleeping with.
Reply 15
Apricot Fairy
If you can't do all these things, you're not mature enough to be having sex.
ditto - OP your being very careless and stupid - and if you end up with something like syphillis you will really be sorry.
Get to a GP or a family planning clinic
Reply 16
Zoecb
So go on the pill.
In the meantime if you don't want to admit the truth, and pretend you were always on it, you could say that you got out of sync with your prespriction with switching doctors or something and there's a sort of gap in your cycle (confuse him with menstruation vocab) and you have to use condoms for a bit until you can start a new packet.
Also, get an STD test, that unprotected sex was very very daft.
(Anyway, you should totally have made him pay for half that morning after pill, that's the standard etiquette imo).
In the meantime if you don't want to admit the truth, and pretend you were always on it, you could say that you got out of sync with your prespriction with switching doctors or something and there's a sort of gap in your cycle (confuse him with menstruation vocab) and you have to use condoms for a bit until you can start a new packet.
Also, get an STD test, that unprotected sex was very very daft.
(Anyway, you should totally have made him pay for half that morning after pill, that's the standard etiquette imo).
I love how we're relating ettiquette to the niceties of unprotected sex with someone you don't really know
Reply 17
11
hotfuzz
But why? She was the one who didn't tell him. How was he supposed to know?
In my opinion, he should have checked.
But you do have a point I suppose. It was primarily the OP's stupidity.
Reply 18
11
sweetfloss
I love how we're relating ettiquette to the niceties of unprotected sex with someone you don't really know
Casual sex has more need for etiquette than most other kinds...
Reply 19
Well it's just common sense really to use some sort of protection when having sex regardless in a relationship or casual etc or least getting tested. Unless of course you want a baby nine months down the road or an STD.
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