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deja vu...what shall i do
one of my best mates has asked me out and i do not want to go out with him...but this happened before with another mate (not best mate though) and ever since i turned him down things weren't the same and we drifted apart...i really dont want the same thing to happen this mate...he's too special to lose
What shall i do!!!
Any advice appreciated
(I actually posted this before if your thinking what the hell but it kept saying invalid link or something)
What shall i do!!!
Any advice appreciated
(I actually posted this before if your thinking what the hell but it kept saying invalid link or something)
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Reply 1
If you don't want to lose your mate you need to tell him that when you turn him down (gently!). He may need some cooling off time to get over you but tell him how much you value his friendship and hopefully he will want to keep it
if you dont like him as more than a friend then definitely dont go out with him! it might be that its in your other friends character to just react badly, maybe this guy wont? just explain nicely that you're not interested like that, but you really appreciate him as a friend. (say what you said to us - that hes too special to lose) theres not much more you can do, things might be awkward at first but i'm sure they would settle down 
Reply 3
or.......shall i just pretend it never happened...or is that just arrogant?
Reply 5
yeh lol thats teh word ignorant
why can't mates just stay as mates!!!!! grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
why can't mates just stay as mates!!!!! grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Reply 6
but if you were to turn him down what would you say...not to hurt his feelings and make things back to normal...do you think i should say its because our frienship is too close or i'm just not ready or something...
Why not give it a try? Like one date and you might fall for him.
If not, you HAVE to just tell him bluntly or nicely. Just say something like "I'm sorry, but I don't want to loose you as a friend. I want to strengthen our friendship and i'm worried that what you want might destroy it" (lol. thats pretty good **** comming from me lol)
I see your Asian, and if your muslim (I am lol). Throw in some Islam .. something like "I see you as a brother" "You know it's against Islam" lol It's what I do sometimes lol.
Also on a completely random note, if you say your thread title slowly ... it sort of rhymes lol.
If not, you HAVE to just tell him bluntly or nicely. Just say something like "I'm sorry, but I don't want to loose you as a friend. I want to strengthen our friendship and i'm worried that what you want might destroy it" (lol. thats pretty good **** comming from me lol)
I see your Asian, and if your muslim (I am lol). Throw in some Islam .. something like "I see you as a brother" "You know it's against Islam" lol It's what I do sometimes lol.
Also on a completely random note, if you say your thread title slowly ... it sort of rhymes lol.
Reply 8
e-lover
Why not give it a try? Like one date and you might fall for him.
If not, you HAVE to just tell him bluntly or nicely. Just say something like "I'm sorry, but I don't want to loose you as a friend. I want to strengthen our friendship and i'm worried that what you want might destroy it" (lol. thats pretty good **** comming from me lol)
I see your Asian, and if your muslim (I am lol). Throw in some Islam .. something like "I see you as a brother" "You know it's against Islam" lol It's what I do sometimes lol.
Also on a completely random note, if you say your thread title slowly ... it sort of rhymes lol.
If not, you HAVE to just tell him bluntly or nicely. Just say something like "I'm sorry, but I don't want to loose you as a friend. I want to strengthen our friendship and i'm worried that what you want might destroy it" (lol. thats pretty good **** comming from me lol)
I see your Asian, and if your muslim (I am lol). Throw in some Islam .. something like "I see you as a brother" "You know it's against Islam" lol It's what I do sometimes lol.
Also on a completely random note, if you say your thread title slowly ... it sort of rhymes lol.
hahaha lol oh yeh! wow i can ryhme
good idea about the muslim thing!!!!!! clever you..i might try that one if i defanatley decide not too
Reply 9
Just be honest, if you don't want to go out with him, tell him. Think he'd least rather you be honest.
Reply 10
Ever thought that he is best mates with you BECAUSE he likes you? :|
Reply 11
huh? sorry i didn/t quite understand that?
LiL MiSs cHeEkY
hahaha lol oh yeh! wow i can ryhme
good idea about the muslim thing!!!!!! clever you..i might try that one if i defanatley decide not too
good idea about the muslim thing!!!!!! clever you..i might try that one if i defanatley decide not too
Give it one date. What's he like? I went out with my best friend once and we got on really well and then when it all ended, we were adult about it and we were fine after a while.
Give it one date, if not then just let him down nicely.
Also, I see you live in Birmingham! I live in Dudley (kinda north of Birmingham). Hey brummie!
Symph
Do you mean ignorant? I don't think he would appreciate you blatantly ignoring his advances. Just tell him you're flattered but you don't see your relationship going in that direction, I guess his reaction depends on how much he likes you..
Oh no, and girls, stop using that word "flattered" please. It's such a kick in the balls.
Reply 14
e-lover
Give it one date. What's he like? I went out with my best friend once and we got on really well and then when it all ended, we were adult about it and we were fine after a while.
Give it one date, if not then just let him down nicely.
Also, I see you live in Birmingham! I live in Dudley (kinda north of Birmingham). Hey brummie!
Give it one date, if not then just let him down nicely.
Also, I see you live in Birmingham! I live in Dudley (kinda north of Birmingham). Hey brummie!
lol...hey er woteva you call ppl from dudley
so r u normal with your old best mate now then? liek totally back to normal
Reply 15
LiL MiSs cHeEkY
huh? sorry i didn/t quite understand that?
Maybe you and him were only best friends because he had a crush on you.
And also, it doesn't matter how you let him down, because at the end of the day he is still let down and he will still have feeling for you that he can't help. From my experience when this situation happens, it has usually lead to the end of the friendship.
Reply 16
LiL MiSs cHeEkY
lol...hey er woteva you call ppl from dudley
so r u normal with your old best mate now then? liek totally back to normal
so r u normal with your old best mate now then? liek totally back to normal
As a fellow brummie, I have to say that is appalling english.
Reply 17
coldplasma
Maybe you and him were only best friends because he had a crush on you.
And also, it doesn't matter how you let him down, because at the end of the day he is still let down and he will still have feeling for you that he can't help. From my experience when this situation happens, it has usually lead to the end of the friendship.
And also, it doesn't matter how you let him down, because at the end of the day he is still let down and he will still have feeling for you that he can't help. From my experience when this situation happens, it has usually lead to the end of the friendship.
nah, we've been best mates since little, when i was fat and a tomboy lol
and don't say that....i can't lose him
why does this always happen to me!! i've already lost a mate because of thisReply 18
Rock Fan
As a fellow brummie, I have to say that is appalling english.
oh gosh sorry! I'm so used to typing like that i find it difficult to stop!
LiL MiSs cHeEkY
nah, we've been best mates since little, when i was fat and a tomboy lol
and don't say that....i can't lose him why does this always happen to me!! i've already lost a mate because of this
and don't say that....i can't lose him
why does this always happen to me!! i've already lost a mate because of thisYou need to turn him off. Let him catch you chaving at your bum, or picking your nose and wiping it on the curtains.
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