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    At the beginning of April , I was having a conversation with a friend of mine about something I was upset about. She said that if anything she does upsets me, to message her that day, so during the middle of may (few days before exams) I messeged her that I was upset and didn't know what to do about our friendship anymore, she was annoyed and basically implied that she didn't want to be friends with me.

    We haven't spoken since, I really miss her and want to be friends but I don't know what to do about it.
    Should I message her and what should I say?
    Should I ignore it or wait for her to come to me?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    At the beginning of April , I was having a conversation with a friend of mine about something I was upset about. She said that if anything she does upsets me, to message her that day, so during the middle of may (few days before exams) I messeged her that I was upset and didn't know what to do about our friendship anymore, she was annoyed and basically implied that she didn't want to be friends with me.

    We haven't spoken since, I really miss her and want to be friends but I don't know what to do about it.
    Should I message her and what should I say?
    Should I ignore it or wait for her to come to me?
    Well, did you have a valid reason to be upset with her or were you having a whinge?
    To say "I don't know what to do about our friendship" would imply to me that any friendship was potentially over. I don't take to threats very well so would probably sack it off.
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    (Original post by Friffinghell)
    Well, did you have a valid reason to be upset with her or were you having a whinge?
    To say "I don't know what to do about our friendship" would imply to me that any friendship was potentially over. I don't take to threats very well so would probably sack it off.
    I had spoken to her about it many times over the course of 5 months, and nothing had changed when she said it would, which is why I told her that I didn't know if I should walk away from our friendship so I don't think I was wrong to say that.

    I always thought she didn't want to be my friend as she said she did want to be friends but still never invited me anywhere or spoke to me at school apart from in lessons. I don't know if she doesn't want to be friends at all or whether she wants me to initiate conversation again
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    I had spoken to her about it many times over the course of 5 months, and nothing had changed when she said it would, which is why I told her that I didn't know if I should walk away from our friendship so I don't think I was wrong to say that.

    I always thought she didn't want to be my friend as she said she did want to be friends but still never invited me anywhere or spoke to me at school apart from in lessons. I don't know if she doesn't want to be friends at all or whether she wants me to initiate conversation again
    If there's been no attempted contact I would assume that she's not interested.
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    (Original post by Friffinghell)
    If there's been no attempted contact I would assume that she's not interested.
    You would think but we didn't talk for like a month before our last talk about this because she was waiting for me to come to her
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    Well why did you say that? Seems a bit random and almost hostile to say something out of the blue?
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    Well why did you say that? Seems a bit random and almost hostile to say something out of the blue?
    She told me she wasn't going to meet up with anyone (even me) before exams but then did it twice with another friend of hers. She keeps telling me what she thinks I want to hear and then can't even stick to it, she knows I get really upset when she does that which is why I said that to her
 
 
 
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