doubts

met girl few days ago in a club, and went on date the other day. Things accelerating very fast though since the club, and the date, and I was giving off very strong signs I feel same way that she does (very into me). Not sure when I am away from her, how attracted I am to her, and would need time to decide. I love her personality though. How do you slow things down a lot that you don't want to rush into things and see how things go without it being obvious? She pretty much thinks we've started a relationship..
cheers

Reply 1

mollymustard

Well it sounds like you've led the girl on a bit.
Don't over text and try not to act over-keen.
You have two ways you can play it:
1) Take time out and dont see her for a few days so you have time to reflect on it a bit. Will you ever be able to fancy her? Is she nice? Is she a laugh? When you dont meet up with her do you feel the urge to talk to her/call her?
OR
2) Get to know her for her personality. Meet up with her (a bit as you don't want to come on too strong) and start seeing her for more than her looks.
Theres a good chance that if you get to know her better, you will start to be more attracted to her. There must have been something originally otherwise you wouldnt have met up with her for that date.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

I feel so bad though, as when I'm with her I had a really good time, and thought I really fancied her, and led her on so much, and she's soo into me.
But haven't missed her since our date, which can't be a good sign.
Can I say to her that I want to see her a few more times before committing to a relationship so as not to hurt her. How would I say it without sounding bad? I really want to like her though in that way, as she is really nice. any tips?

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

like can i say i'd like to get to know her as a friend before moving onto any relationship, or have I left it a bit late for that to be a possibility?

Reply 4

username47781

I think you have rushed it far too much, maybe you wasn't looking for the same thing as she was. You could possibly just slow down a bit and figure out if you really want a relationship with this girl, or if you are sure you don't want one, least be honest and let her go before anything else happens. It will hurt her though as there is no easy way of doing it. But rather that than leading her on anymore.