How to tell him ''fudge off'' nicely...

arghh, i dont know i got into this mess, my mate recently has been having some girl troubles and he's been pouring his heart out to me, asking for advice. It was kinda funny at first, seeing as how I'm probably the last person to confide in.

Anyways i gave him advice and told him what i think of the situation and stuff, but now its just getting irritating! I got my own stuff to deal and frankly i think he's being a immature brat (obviously i didnt tell him that).

It's not like i dont care about him, because he's a mate and stuff but there's a limit to how much he can pour his soul out to me, im male and there's some stuff he shouldnt be telling me!(nothing sexual thank god, just guy stuff that im uncomfortable discussing)

I've given him all the friendly advise i can think off and its just getting annoying, he says I'm the only one out of circle of friends he can talk to about his problems. So i feel kind of guilty feeling like this, I want him to help himself and i just dont know how i can go about doing that without there being some kind of fallout between us since i wasn't there to help him in his lowest moments.

sorry about this long post

Reply 1

figureeight

Its always going to be difficult, and I know what you mean, I've been in much the same position, although there were a few other people also relying on me - the way I tried to do it was to gently sway the conversation, if you think it's going that way, talk about something random - "giraffes are *******ing amazing aren't they?". Ok maybe not that weird, but you get my drift. Just try and sway the conversation so that he's less inclined to talk about it and his mind is taken off stuff.

Hope it all goes well :smile:

Best of luck.

-event.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

yeh ive been saying totally random stuff in some of our conversationg but he just doesn't catch on

Reply 3

figureeight

So he continuously talks about whatever problems hes having? Maybe you should tell him that youre just under a lot of pressure right now, that might also work.