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    Due to the fact I seem to have difficulty keeping long-term close relationships, and even when I try to be social it does not seem to last for a long time (though I am not introverted - it's complicated) and I somehow wind up on my own, what do you suggest? What can I do? I don't want to spend life on my own but also do not want to get too dependent on others ...
    It's so strange, sometimes I will get embarrassed seeing a good friend again even though we saw each other many times before. And may not know what to talk about or to say. It is all very strange.
    I so want to practice or be taught any skills I may be lacking, I don't know how or where though. Or be told how I am going wrong.
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    Due to the fact I seem to have difficulty keeping long-term close relationships, and even when I try to be social it does not seem to last for a long time (though I am not introverted - it's complicated) and I somehow wind up on my own, what do you suggest? What can I do? I don't want to spend life on my own but also do not want to get too dependent on others ...
    It's so strange, sometimes I will get embarrassed seeing a good friend again even though we saw each other many times before. And may not know what to talk about or to say. It is all very strange.
    I so want to practice or be taught any skills I may be lacking, I don't know how or where though. Or be told how I am going wrong.
    You say you are not introverted but some things you said sound like it. How would you describe yourself?


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    Cut the bs, you regret not speaking when you don't but you love the feeling of not having to break through that comfort zone. I describe your situation like one who can not wake up because the comfort is too much and well, this is how it is for you when you do not have to speak.
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    You say you are not introverted but some things you said sound like it. How would you describe yourself?


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    I want lots of company and fun but I seem to have a blockage, too ... or maybe something about me is wrong.
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    I want lots of company and fun but I seem to have a blockage, too ... or maybe something about me is wrong.
    I think you're probably overthinking it, do what feels right, if you want to hang out with friends, do it, if you feel right to stay home and see a movie, do it. Don't try to force yourself to socialize it's not the mood you are into. I think sometimes people feel like they have to be something their not to be like everyone else, and no, sometimes it's just okay to not feel good around some people. So if you don't feel right with that friend you referred to, why don't you try to do other activities and meet new people?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Due to the fact I seem to have difficulty keeping long-term close relationships, and even when I try to be social it does not seem to last for a long time (though I am not introverted - it's complicated) and I somehow wind up on my own, what do you suggest? What can I do? I don't want to spend life on my own but also do not want to get too dependent on others ...
    It's so strange, sometimes I will get embarrassed seeing a good friend again even though we saw each other many times before. And may not know what to talk about or to say. It is all very strange.
    I so want to practice or be taught any skills I may be lacking, I don't know how or where though. Or be told how I am going wrong.
    Just say whatever is on your mind and you will get a convo started. The trick is normally just to TALK A LOT OF SH1T, in the good way
 
 
 
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