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    So basically, I am always last to get picked, nobody calls/texts me, people don't ask for my opinions. I always tend to follow people around, never leading conversations or inputting much. I WANT TO BREAK THIS CYCLE, I have had enough. Help me!
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    They don't need to ask you, share it anyway and they'll be forced to listen to you and maybe they'll be interested
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    Nothing wrong with being the awkward one, but if u wanna change it then change ur attitude, start the conversations, participate in conversations, initiatate parties and social gatherings? Idk really because I am pretty much an awkward person in general.
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    Do something that gives you confidence and maybe expands your social circle - start doing sports/join sport clubs, Toastmasters, debate club, do what you enjoy and are good at, volunteer.
    It is a good question, really.
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    So basically, I am always last to get picked, nobody calls/texts me, people don't ask for my opinions. I always tend to follow people around, never leading conversations or inputting much. I WANT TO BREAK THIS CYCLE, I have had enough. Help me!
    I used to be like that. Then I stopped socialising completely. Problem solved.

    You could take a less drastic approach and cut down socialising to only with a few close friends at a time. Why do you want to constantly embarrass and degrade yourself and be below others all the time by trying to socialise with large groups when you can have meaningful interactions with, and be on the same level as, a couple of genuine friends?
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    Less talking, more thinking

    Honestly though, I used to be the inept one in my group.

    I got a job at McDonalds and at all that changed
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    Be more confident... put ur opinion in first. Joke around.. have a laugh... jokes and banter
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    Less talking, more thinking

    Honestly though, I used to be the inept one in my group.

    I got a job at McDonalds and at all that changed
    Omg,,,there's hope for me. Can you expand as to how it changed you pls?
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    (Original post by PhilDanthropist)
    Be more confident... put ur opinion in first. Joke around.. have a laugh... jokes and banter
    (Original post by BTAnonymous)
    Less talking, more thinking

    Honestly though, I used to be the inept one in my group.

    I got a job at McDonalds and at all that changed
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I used to be like that. Then I stopped socialising completely. Problem solved.

    You could take a less drastic approach and cut down socialising to only with a few close friends at a time. Why do you want to constantly embarrass and degrade yourself and be below others all the time by trying to socialise with large groups when you can have meaningful interactions with, and be on the same level as, a couple of genuine friends?
    (Original post by AQuestion1)
    Do something that gives you confidence and maybe expands your social circle - start doing sports/join sport clubs, Toastmasters, debate club, do what you enjoy and are good at, volunteer.
    It is a good question, really.
    (Original post by AKB2000)
    Nothing wrong with being the awkward one, but if u wanna change it then change ur attitude, start the conversations, participate in conversations, initiatate parties and social gatherings? Idk really because I am pretty much an awkward person in general.
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So basically, I am always last to get picked, nobody calls/texts me, people don't ask for my opinions. I always tend to follow people around, never leading conversations or inputting much. I WANT TO BREAK THIS CYCLE, I have had enough. Help me!
    Thanks for all your answers-some really solid points i can take away BUT.......I've never had any friends LITERALLY..
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    I think you should find an evening group or social club to join, you might find people you gel with better than your current friendship group and you also might develop more confidence and directness.


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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks for all your answers-some really solid points i can take away BUT.......I've never had any friends LITERALLY..
    I can be ur friend
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So basically, I am always last to get picked, nobody calls/texts me, people don't ask for my opinions. I always tend to follow people around, never leading conversations or inputting much. I WANT TO BREAK THIS CYCLE, I have had enough. Help me!
    If it's really a massive problem and you want to hang out with that group badly enough, then change your appearance, the way you talk and make friends with the person everyone respects. Thats how you do it.
    I wont recommend it, stay true to yourself but if you're desperate then yeah.
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    (Original post by BTAnonymous)
    Less talking, more thinking

    Honestly though, I used to be the inept one in my group.

    I got a job at McDonalds and at all that changed
    Wait hold up, hold up...So working at Mcdonalds will make you more social and confident?

    I always had the idea it would have the opposite effect. Who knew.
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    (Original post by Balmain SS17)
    Wait hold up, hold up...So working at Mcdonalds will make you more social and confident?

    I always had the idea it would have the opposite effect. Who knew.
    It worked for me. Obviously won't work for everyone...

    Why did you think that it would have the opposite effect?
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    (Original post by BTAnonymous)
    It worked for me. Obviously won't work for everyone...

    Why did you think that it would have the opposite effect?
    I think that's cool.

    Just the idea of standing on my feet all day putting chips in a fryer would probably make me feel dejected and bored.

    But different strokes for different folks I guess.

    Although I worked in a barbers once, and I was on my feet all day washing hair and sweeping and I loved it.

    So I might actually enjoy it.
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    (Original post by Balmain SS17)
    I think that's cool.

    Just the idea of standing on my feet all day putting chips in a fryer would probably make me feel dejected and bored.

    But different strokes for different folks I guess.

    Although I worked in a barbers once, and I was on my feet all day washing hair and sweeping and I loved it.

    So I might actually enjoy it.
    Funny thing is, I like going on fries because it's actually pretty difficult to keep up with demand by yourself so it's pretty hectic which I like: no boring, slow paced environment.

    I thought I'd hate the job but it actually passes by really quickly because there's always something to do. My colleagues don't seem to agree though lmao so I'm still the strange kid in the group.

    Only bad thing is that the customers the store attracts.... Erwgh. Get a lot of chavs here so it can be annoying, especially when it's busy.
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    (Original post by BTAnonymous)
    Funny thing is, I like going on fries because it's actually pretty difficult to keep up with demand by yourself so it's pretty hectic which I like: no boring, slow paced environment.

    I thought I'd hate the job but it actually passes by really quickly because there's always something to do. My colleagues don't seem to agree though lmao so I'm still the strange kid in the group.

    Only bad thing is that the customers the store attracts.... Erwgh. Get a lot of chavs here so it can be annoying, especially when it's busy.
    Sounds pretty good.

    That's unfortunate, but I would imagine chavs would usually be attracted by fast food restaurants.

    I also hear Nandos has a great working environment!
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    It’s all about the friends you pick, sometimes one or 2 people can ruin the entire mood. Sometimes I’m really talky and socialable other times I like to be a little quite but I’ve noticed I have better conversations when I don’t try and socialise
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    (Original post by Balmain SS17)
    Sounds pretty good.

    That's unfortunate, but I would imagine chavs would usually be attracted by fast food restaurants.

    I also hear Nandos has a great working environment!
    I was looking at restaurant waitering when looking but a lot required some form of experience in a customer service. So I looked at maccies hoping to gain basic customer service skills which has worked
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    Every group needs an awkward friend. Otherwise the very fabric of our reality would collapse into an endless void.
 
 
 
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