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    (Original post by Superior Femina)
    Do you just act like a retarded, backwards, chauvinistic idiotic male, or is that actually just you?

    So your justification for "males can sleep around and that's fine, but if a female does it, she's a slut and should be devalued" is that it's in the "biological make up of men" to do that. Seriously?

    Double standards. You absolute idiot.

    Well I totally expect a vile feminist like you to say that.
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    Hello,
    First up, do NOT beat yorself up for this, you were not comforatble with it and you stopped, that in itself takes courage.
    You will not be a virgin forever, and neither should you be upset about it. Its jsut the first time you do something should be a nice relaxed time, and not a stressful time.
    Does the thought of having sex scare you, and if so why? or was it that at that moment you just were not ready? If this person cares for you and you care for them, then talk to them, and see what you can both do to make it work for you.
    I am a firm believer is not just "stick it in and jiggle it about a bit". Sex and foreplay for me start a LONG time before clothes come off, maybe you need a bit more warming up.
    Plus in the long run you can both find ways to tease and please each other.
    If you are scared about having sex in any way, please speak to your doctor for a referral to mental health. No I am not saying you are in any way mad, but you may have some fear/mental block that speaking to someone about will help.
    In short so what makes you feel good, and do it in a safe, sane and consenual way.
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    (Original post by slade p)
    Yes but that's not the natural state of a man sweety
    So being asexual is not natural?
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    (Original post by loveleest)
    So being asexual is not natural?
    No it's not natural generally, people may become that for environmental reasons as they grow up, like in japan youth where many don't have a desire for sex.
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    (Original post by slade p)
    Well I totally expect a vile feminist like you to say that.
    Whether or not I'm a feminist doesn't matter, what I said was true lol. That's why you're pulling out the feminist card, because that's your default when you hear things that are true about your backwards opinions.

    You think that males can sleep around, but females can't. Males can but if females do they are sluts who should be devalued. This came out of your own mouth, fact.
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    (Original post by Superior Femina)
    Whether or not I'm a feminist doesn't matter, what I said was true lol. That's why you're pulling out the feminist card, because that's your default when you hear things that are true about your backwards opinions.

    You think that males can sleep around, but females can't. Males can but if females do they are sluts who should be devalued. This came out of your own mouth, fact.
    Listen I like casually sleeping around with women, I do not disrespect or negatively judge them for it, I'm simply saying a woman sleeping around casually will lessen her desirability with men as men will have less respect for them.
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    (Original post by slade p)
    Listen I like casually sleeping around with women, I do not disrespect or negatively judge them for it, I'm simply saying a woman sleeping around casually will lessen her desirability with men as men will have less respect for them.
    but this isnt true. Do you have any proof to back up your sexist claims? because pornstars get married pretty easy.
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    (Original post by loveleest)
    but this isnt true. Do you have any proof to back up your sexist claims? because pornstars get married pretty easy.
    Generally it's true, and it's not sexist, it's based on biology, logic and how things are in reality. Stop with your feminist assertions.
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    (Original post by slade p)
    Generally it's true, and it's not sexist, it's based on biology, logic and how things are in reality. Stop with your feminist assertions.
    It is sexist. You love sleeping around yourself but you "look down" on women that do.
    This is showing how insecure you really are and feminism has nothing to do with it.
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    (Original post by loveleest)
    It is sexist. You love sleeping around yourself but you "look down" on women that do.
    This is showing how insecure you really are and feminism has nothing to do with it.
    It has nothing to do with insecurity sweety, and as I say yes it lessens their value if they sleep around a lot, I didn't say I would not date them or sleep with them, but it's also much more likely that girls who sleep around a lot will most likely also be feminists.
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    OP - when the time is right I'm sure your chosen partner will lick you into shape. Then you will not be scared anymore.
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    (Original post by slade p)
    It has nothing to do with insecurity sweety, and as I say yes it lessens their value if they sleep around a lot, I didn't say I would not date them or sleep with them, but it's also much more likely that girls who sleep around a lot will most likely also be feminists.
    "Lessens their value" Women are not objects.
    And you keep making weird false statements, the last is not true as I am a virgin and a feminist.
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    (Original post by bones-mccoy)
    You are gross
    Do you really think I was serious? I was only joking as it is a habit of mine
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    (Original post by loveleest)
    "Lessens their value" Women are not objects.
    And you keep making weird false statements, the last is not true as I am a virgin and a feminist.
    I never said you can't be a virgin and a feminist, I said if your a girl who sleeps around with lots of guys then they are most likely to also be feminists.

    Feminism is a self serving movement to give women more priviledges and specifically advance women's position in the fields that they desire while also having invalid views, accusations and narratives about men because of their anti male mentality and agenda which is why feminism is a scourge to society. Men are being blatantly disadvantaged by feminist policies in the name of women's right or supposed equality.
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    (Original post by slade p)
    I never said you can't be a virgin and a feminist, I said if your a girl who sleeps around with lots of guys then they are most likely to also be feminists.

    Feminism is a self serving movement to give women more priviledges and specifically advance women's position in the fields that they desire while also having invalid views, accusations and narratives about men because of their anti male mentality and agenda which is why feminism is a scourge to society. Men are being blatantly disadvantaged by feminist policies in the name of women's right or supposed equality.
    Any statistics to prove this nonsense?
    I find it so funny when people say things like this. Feminists have cared more about men now then ever before.
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    (Original post by loveleest)
    Any statistics to prove this nonsense?
    I find it so funny when people say things like this. Feminists have cared more about men now then ever before.
    That's absolute nonsense.
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    (Original post by slade p)
    It has nothing to do with insecurity sweety, and as I say yes it lessens their value if they sleep around a lot, I didn't say I would not date them or sleep with them, but it's also much more likely that girls who sleep around a lot will most likely also be feminists.
    Apparently, you've never heard the old saying "better to have people think you're a moron than open your mouth and prove it."

    Seriously, if you had any awareness of what an undereducated imbecile you sound like, you'd end up crying into the stack of Razzles you stole from your dad to make yourself feel like a big man rather than a little boy with a tiny penis.

    We get it, you're a virgin with self-confidence issues. I can get you the number for a good therapist if you'd like?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've been seeing this girl and she tried to initiate sex with me. I was fine at first but then when she tried to take my clothes off I panicked and told her to stop. I was close to having a panic attack. I don't know what to do. I'm 20 and I don't want to be a virgin forever but when it comes to actually having sex I can't do it. I feel like I'm doing something wrong and ashamed of myself when I try to do it. How do I get past this?

    sure someone has said this before (i dont read every comment-deal with it). Just ask to take it slow. Sounds like you probably rushed it a bit (or your partner did)-thats never a great way to to "lose your virginity".

    Or maybe if you feel weird showing your body (ok i read SOME comments and saw that), spend time together-in private-and try taking some clothes off slowly and just spending time around her, see if that eases your mind. Hopefully your partner, whoever they are, isn't angry at you for shutting them down like that, is a bit understanding and will try and make you feel more comfortable by telling you how beautiful you are or something.

    Oh and you hopefully dont need to be told this, but you are under no obligation to be rushed into something like that if you dont want to. Im guessing they also dont want to make you have a panic attack too, no one wants to deal with that because how tf do they help you? If they aren't willing to be patient while you deal with these thoughts, they don't damn well deserve you.
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    (Original post by Kandiman)
    Apparently, you've never heard the old saying "better to have people think you're a moron than open your mouth and prove it."

    Seriously, if you had any awareness of what an undereducated imbecile you sound like, you'd end up crying into the stack of Razzles you stole from your dad to make yourself feel like a big man rather than a little boy with a tiny penis.

    We get it, you're a virgin with self-confidence issues. I can get you the number for a good therapist if you'd like?

    Lmao at your assertions which you are just assuming because you're so butthurt and so is throwing tantrums like a woman, you also sound like an absolute idiot and a feminist yielding simp.
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    (Original post by slade p)
    That's absolute nonsense.
    Feminsits have address masculinity and mental health in males than ever before.
 
 
 
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