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    I need help with a situation at home. I have graduated and have a job in the city. I still live with my family in a small house, and it just isn't big enough for 4 adults. My relationship with my father is strained, and he gives out to me about the smallest of things. He constantly tells me that until I move out, I am not an independent person with independent thoughts. That I am to abide by his strict rules. All in all, he wants me gone. However, my mother is Thai and very family orientated. Tradition in Thailand is you stay with your parents until they die, even after you get married and have children. The thought of me moving out is unheard of for her. I have mentioned it several times and she would get very upset, and say things like 'don't leave me all alone'. I feel trapped and all I want to do is move out and have a life of my own. I am an adult, so why am I finding it so difficult to truly be one?
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    Your finding it difficult because your parents have always been there for you, they have always supported you and looked after you. That's why it's hard for you to live independently.
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    (Original post by parrot25)
    I need help with a situation at home. I have graduated and have a job in the city. I still live with my family in a small house, and it just isn't big enough for 4 adults. My relationship with my father is strained, and he gives out to me about the smallest of things. He constantly tells me that until I move out, I am not an independent person with independent thoughts. That I am to abide by his strict rules. All in all, he wants me gone. However, my mother is Thai and very family orientated. Tradition in Thailand is you stay with your parents until they die, even after you get married and have children. The thought of me moving out is unheard of for her. I have mentioned it several times and she would get very upset, and say things like 'don't leave me all alone'. I feel trapped and all I want to do is move out and have a life of my own. I am an adult, so why am I finding it so difficult to truly be one?
    Because they are your parents. Also, they are both emotionally manipulating you. I have a question, if you stay at home, where is your life gonna take you? Are you just going tk let your parents dictate your life until they die, at which point you'll be alone in the world, not knowing who you are anymore and not having done anything except lived to make other people happy?

    Also, this sounds like a toxic household.

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