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    So I have rules for my bf like no smoking, drinking, drugs, going out with friends etc and i think that hes been breaking them cos he doesnt live near me so i dont know what hes up to and I've caught him out by looking on his social media that hes been out with his friends and drinking, I also know that he smokes (he said that he gave up when we first starting dating and that was nearly 2 years ago) but hes smelt of it and he had **** in his back pack and even smoked in my house once when i went out cos it smelt of it when i came home, now I also think that hes been smoking weed cos he used to and his brother and his cousin do and hes always with them and they send him stuff about weed on facebook but if i ever accuse him of any of this he just denys it unless theres proof like when i saw him sending messages about hanging out with his friends what do u think i should do about this??
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    (Original post by 3381882)
    So I have rules for my bf like no smoking, drinking, drugs, going out with friends etc
    what do u think i should do about this??
    You should stop controlling him.

    He should be able to hang out with his own friends without your permission.
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    It seems like he's in jail more than anything.
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    i dont like his friends cos there bad influences thats why i dont want him hanging out with them!!
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    (Original post by 3381882)
    So I have rules for my bf like no smoking, drinking, drugs, going out with friends etc and i think that hes been breaking them cos he doesnt live near me so i dont know what hes up to and I've caught him out by looking on his social media that hes been out with his friends and drinking, I also know that he smokes (he said that he gave up when we first starting dating and that was nearly 2 years ago) but hes smelt of it and he had **** in his back pack and even smoked in my house once when i went out cos it smelt of it when i came home, now I also think that hes been smoking weed cos he used to and his brother and his cousin do and hes always with them and they send him stuff about weed on facebook but if i ever accuse him of any of this he just denys it unless theres proof like when i saw him sending messages about hanging out with his friends what do u think i should do about this??
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    I can't tell you what you should do, but I can tell you what I think he should do: Dump your controlling a.ss.
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    What a **** troll
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    (Original post by 3381882)
    So I have rules for my bf like no smoking, drinking, drugs, going out with friends etc and i think that hes been breaking them cos he doesnt live near me so i dont know what hes up to and I've caught him out by looking on his social media that hes been out with his friends and drinking, I also know that he smokes (he said that he gave up when we first starting dating and that was nearly 2 years ago) but hes smelt of it and he had **** in his back pack and even smoked in my house once when i went out cos it smelt of it when i came home, now I also think that hes been smoking weed cos he used to and his brother and his cousin do and hes always with them and they send him stuff about weed on facebook but if i ever accuse him of any of this he just denys it unless theres proof like when i saw him sending messages about hanging out with his friends what do u think i should do about this??
    You should decide how important your rules are to you?
    Evaluate what evidence you have [ make sure its good enough for you to be absolutely sure] and if satisfied then decide if you want to stay or leave. I think you have little chance of getting a change of habit from him so accept him as he is or do not. Simple as that.

    Theres no point wasting energy on it stay or leave, then just do it.
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    How terrible for you. Dump him. Set him free. He'll thank you for it.
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    What a **** troll
    are you kidding? this is top quality bait compared to some of the other threads i've read today.
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    If this is clickbait, congratulations, you drew a crowd I guess.

    If not, you're his girlfriend, not his jailer. He had his friends before you, what makes you think he'll listen to you over them? Hopefully he dumps your insecure ass, lol.
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    (Original post by qasim_96)
    It seems like he's in jail more than anything.
    You'd have more freedom than this poor guy does in jail.
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    (Original post by 3381882)
    i dont like his friends cos there bad influences thats why i dont want him hanging out with them!!
    It's not your decision who he hangs around with.
    I'm surprised he's not dumped you tbh.
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    Lol you are pathetic controlling your boyfriend as if you own him. He can do what he wants. Dump him because he deserves better.
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    Lol.
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    You sound more like his mother than his gf!
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    I sincerely hope he chooses his mates over you
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    You sound controlling. The drugs and smoking I do understand; (I don't like them either) but telling who he can't hang around with? Are you his mother?
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    You honestly don't see how toxic this is? Let me tell you, you're lucky you still have a boyfriend.

    What a joke.
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    (Original post by UWS)
    You should stop controlling him.

    He should be able to hang out with his own friends without your permission.
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    You sound controlling. The drugs and smoking I do understand; (I don't like them either) but telling who he can't hang around with? Are you his mother?
    Why only an issue with the friends bit? Friends can be far more damaging than drugs, she said they're a bad influence, seems just as reasonable.
 
 
 
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