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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    no thanks I'm straight, you're disgusting.
    Don't flatter yourself.Nobody finds ignorance and fanatical belief in fairy tales attractive.
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    (Original post by OxFossil)
    There is a support organisation/charity for LGBTQ Muslims but I'm not sure how active it is. The website here does have useful material on Islam and sexuality, including something aimed at parents, though.
    (Original post by Sammylou40)
    I am Christian not Muslim but the same rule applies

    Let him who is without sin cast the first stone
    We are all sinners. None perfect. Leave the judgement to God
    You have my support
    Thank you both so much for your support xX

    I think for now I will keep it to myself until I go to university maybe, I mean I don't have a bf or anything at the moment anyway. It's so awkward though because my brothers talk about girls and stuff and I'm just sitting there thinking about boys
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    (Original post by I_R_FURRY!)
    Thank you both so much for your support xX

    I think for now I will keep it to myself until I go to university maybe, I mean I don't have a bf or anything at the moment anyway. It's so awkward though because my brothers talk about girls and stuff and I'm just sitting there thinking about boys
    Sure. You're doing the best you can in a really difficult situation. Don't beat yourself up about it; and be reassured that there are plenty of people out in the big wide world who will support you when the time feels right for you.
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    (Original post by I_R_FURRY!)
    Thanks for your replies. My fear though is that even when I am at university I am not independent because as soon as I leave if I don't have a graduate job instantly I'll have to go life back at my parents and I hope to have a boyfriend by then. At least when I am at university I can live my life how I want to though which is comforting.



    You are saying I cannot be a Muslim because I sin? I believe in Allah and the prophet Muhammad pbuh that makes me a Muslim.
    Well I am not really an expert in this, yes you can be Muslim if you are gay...I think
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    (Original post by John10101)
    your gay
    Classic.
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    (Original post by anosmianAcrimony)
    Classic.
    Just a tad bit out of context but thats alright
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    there are people out there who quit porn and turned straight, and you're here telling me I'm ignorant. Do some research then speak, retard.
    You are ignorant.There are many brutal oppressive society's in the middle East where porn is not a common thing and the death penalty is enforced for being gay.If being gay is a consequence of porn then why are there still gay people in those societies? If you can simply turn straight then why didn't anyone do that when the Nazis were rounding people up in concentration camps and setting dogs on them?If being straight is as simple as not looking at porn then why are there animals like bonobos that display bisexuality and homosexuality? I suppose thats down to chimps looking at porn too? You are ignorant and that becomes clearer with every word you speak.Its you who should do some research.And FYI islam.com does not count neither do Christian websites.
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    why did OP get banned?
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    (Original post by s4b3rt00th)
    why did OP get banned?
    Probably a dupe

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    (Original post by Robby2312)
    You are ignorant.There are many brutal oppressive society's in the middle East where porn is not a common thing and the death penalty is enforced for being gay.If being gay is a consequence of porn then why are there still gay people in those societies? If you can simply turn straight then why didn't anyone do that when the Nazis were rounding people up in concentration camps and setting dogs on them?If being straight is as simple as not looking at porn then why are there animals like bonobos that display bisexuality and homosexuality? I suppose thats down to chimps looking at porn too? You are ignorant and that becomes clearer with every word you speak.Its you who should do some research.And FYI islam.com does not count neither do Christian websites.
    what world are you living in? porn is everywhere and every single guy wanks multiple times a week mate. Nobody claimed being gay is a consequence of porn all I said was there are guys who quit porn and masturbation and turned straight. Nofap/noporn is a new phenomenon so how can you ask me about nazis and the concentration camps rofl. It's a new concept and clearly you're the ignorant one here so do me a favour and don't quote me again.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    what world are you living in? porn is everywhere and every single guy wanks multiple times a week mate. Nobody claimed being gay is a consequence of porn all I said was there are guys who quit porn and masturbation and turned straight. Nofap/noporn is a new phenomenon so how can you ask me about nazis and the concentration camps rofl. It's a new concept and clearly you're the ignorant one here so do me a favour and don't quote me again.
    Any sources to prove your claims or are we supposed to take your word for it?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    what world are you living in? porn is everywhere and every single guy wanks multiple times a week mate. Nobody claimed being gay is a consequence of porn all I said was there are guys who quit porn and masturbation and turned straight. Nofap/noporn is a new phenomenon so how can you ask me about nazis and the concentration camps rofl. It's a new concept and clearly you're the ignorant one here so do me a favour and don't quote me again.
    I'll quote you if I want to.You are the one linking being gay to porn and saying that if men stopped looking at porn they would become straight.There is absolutely no evidence for that.Porn is everywhere now yes but historically it was not.You still had gay people then.You are just spouting rubbish.Porn has nothing to do with being gay.
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    (Original post by s4b3rt00th)
    Any sources to prove your claims or are we supposed to take your word for it?
    you can find testimonials on r/nofap
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    (Original post by Robby2312)
    I'll quote you if I want to.You are the one linking being gay to porn and saying that if men stopped looking at porn they would become straight.There is absolutely no evidence for that.Porn is everywhere now yes but historically it was not.You still had gay people then.You are just spouting rubbish.Porn has nothing to do with being gay.
    I have come to the conclusion you aren't ignorant but you are illiterate. Goodbye
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    you can find testimonials on r/nofap
    I'm on nofap and have been following that sub-reddit for some time now. I haven't come across a single testimnoial from there.

    Why don't you actually show some evidence for your claims? Let me guess: you can't find any.
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    (Original post by s4b3rt00th)
    I'm on nofap and have been following that sub-reddit for some time now. I haven't come across a single testimnoial from there.

    Why don't you actually show some evidence for your claims? Let me guess: you can't find any.
    why don't you google it yourself???
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    why don't you google it yourself???
    I have but I can't find any, hence why I'm asking you because you've apparently found some.
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    I can't even begin to imagine your situation, but I think you should wait a couple of years until you're 18 and then if you have the means to support yourself or friends that could help you with that, come out then. That way you have a plan b if your family reject you. Leaving your family behind would be tough, but if they aren't gonna make you feel loved or safe then it isn't worth staying.
 
 
 
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