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    (Original post by Betelgeuse-)
    Hi Markova, how did he die!?

    How old is your son now?
    Did you manage to move on and find love?

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    He was a chronic alcoholic, who suffered from BiPolar disorder, general depression, etc. I walked into his house. His mother and sister were worried about him as they had not heard from him for a few days. I let myself in with my spare key and found him lay on the top of his bed, stone cold dead. He was as cold as a piece of marble. The death certificate said "Alcohol and Drug Toxicity". That's a nice way of saying he committed suicide. My son is 20 and I briefly found love but he cheated on me with his ex.
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    (Original post by shameful_burrito)
    Sorry to hear that.

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    Yes, that's me in my profile picture in one of my costumes I wore when I was dancing in Japan for three years. [ A long time ago].!
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    (Original post by markova21)
    He was a chronic alcoholic, who suffered from BiPolar disorder, general depression, etc. I walked into his house. His mother and sister were worried about him as they had not heard from him for a few days. I let myself in with my spare key and found him lay on the top of his bed, stone cold dead. He was as cold as a piece of marble. The death certificate said "Alcohol and Drug Toxicity". That's a nice way of saying he committed suicide. My son is 20 and I briefly found love but he cheated on me with his ex.
    Ahh thats so sad. Happened to a female relative of mine not too long ago. How is your son doing, You have a good relationship with him?
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    (Original post by Joel 96)
    Were you the father? What the ****.
    I am female.
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    (Original post by ClearSky)
    Forgot about that, right.
    So her ex?
    Yes. We were going to marry but he wouldn't [ couldn't ] stop drinking. Then he hit me when I was 4 months pregnant and I left him and moved back to Manchester. Moved BACK to Northern Ireland after my mum died when my son was 2. Stupidly we got back together again. Then broke up. Then got back together, etc. Insane.
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    (Original post by Betelgeuse-)
    Ahh thats so sad. Happened to a female relative of mine not too long ago. How is your son doing, You have a good relationship with him?
    Yes, me and my son are close. He's a lovely, kind, gentle lad. Wouldn't harm a fly.
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    (Original post by markova21)
    Yes. We were going to marry but he wouldn't [ couldn't ] stop drinking. Then he hit me when I was 4 months pregnant and I left him and moved back to Manchester. Moved BACK to Northern Ireland after my mum died when my son was 2. Stupidly we got back together again. Then broke up. Then got back together, etc. Insane.
    Oh no... that sounds horrible!
    Do you still miss him?
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    So sorry to hear about this! How have you been coping these past few years? Have you found any other ways to try and get your mind off it, e.g. possibly finding new hobbies?

    No, not necessarily
    To be honest, most of the time i'm fine. Life goes on, and all that. I had stopped loving him a good few years earlier and we were no longer together. I was at times more his carer than anything. Ordering his Detox script off the doctor, booking his place in Cuan Mhuire, the local addiction centre. Cleaning up his house for him while he was away in Detox, etc. It just hits me around this date [ well tomorrow, 26th]. I never, ever go to Ballina in County Mayo, anymore. That's where he's buried and everywhere reminds me of him. THAT upsets me. He was 52.
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    (Original post by ClearSky)
    Oh no... that sounds horrible!
    Do you still miss him?
    I do sometimes. It hits me this time of year, around the anniversary of his death. It has been incredibly difficult bringing our son up alone with no -one to turn to for advice and guidance at times.
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    What was your favourite subject in school?
    French. Absolutely loved it. But sadly i've forgotten nearly all of it now.
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    (Original post by markova21)
    I've never done one of these ask me anythings before. Been on tsr practically all day today. Just trying to take my mind off things. Anyway feel free to ask me anything about him or what happened, if you want. P.S. Even though he's been on my mind, it no longer upsets me, so don't worry.
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    Ferrero rocher or Lindor?
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    (Original post by apeshit007)
    In these situations i find this question very important....
    Ferrero rocher or Lindor?
    Lindor.
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    (Original post by markova21)
    I do sometimes. It hits me this time of year, around the anniversary of his death. It has been incredibly difficult bringing our son up alone with no -one to turn to for advice and guidance at times.
    Your son must be a similar age to what I was when mine died. That must have been incredibly difficult, my mum had the rest of our family to help her cope after my dad died. Even if he doesn't always say it I m sure your son is very grateful to have you in his life.
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    (Original post by markova21)
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    YESSSSSSSSSSS! SOMEONE THAT DOES'NT SAY FERRERO!
    Respect bro, respect
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    (Original post by claireestelle)
    Your son must be a similar age to what I was when mine died. That must have been incredibly difficult, my mum had the rest of our family to help her cope after my dad died. Even if he doesn't always say it I m sure your son is very grateful to have you in his life.
    Thank you Claire. Yes, he has said he is a few times. [ Or words to that effect] ! Sean was ten. Ironically the same age as me when my dad died. And the same age as my grandfather when HIS father died.
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    (Original post by markova21)
    I do sometimes. It hits me this time of year, around the anniversary of his death. It has been incredibly difficult bringing our son up alone with no -one to turn to for advice and guidance at times.
    Did you ever date someone else after the birth of your son?
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    Did you ever date someone else after the birth of your son?
    Yes. For a few months. But unfortunately he thought it was a good idea to continue having sex with his ex at the same time. So I dumped him.
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    (Original post by apeshit007)
    YESSSSSSSSSSS! SOMEONE THAT DOES'NT SAY FERRERO!
    Respect bro, respect
    Don't really like Ferrero's that much. Granted i'd eat them if I was desperate for chocolate and there was nothing else in !! BTW, you DO know i'm female, don't you?
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    (Original post by markova21)
    Yes. For a few months. But unfortunately he thought it was a good idea to continue having sex with his ex at the same time. So I dumped him.
    Well done tho, good choice :happy2:
 
 
 
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