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is it more to do with him or me? watch

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    there's a guy who I've been friends with for a year and a half. He's wanted to be friends with benefits, and I tried but it didn't work, as I have feelings for him whereas he doesn't have any for me.

    I accept this and we've said that nothing else will happen, and i'll try to reduce my contact to help me move on but ultimately I don't want to lose him as a friend.

    I know there's probably no point in even trying to analyse but sometimes I find him confusing; at points I've wondered if he does like me and is just afraid of having a relationship or anything.

    He speaks to me all the time; he's never not replied to messages or anything.. when I went through some workplace bullying he seemed genuinely upset for me and did his best to help me.

    whenever i have mentioned another guy or anything he's seemed a little jealous. I said that one of his friends was attractive and he said 'Yeah well anyway he has a girlfriend who he's extremely in love with.' Another time he asked if a guy i'd met was 'better-looking than him or not.'

    when he found out I'd been intimate with another guy he went ballistic at me and then admitted he was jealous..

    He gives me so many compliments on the way I look but also says what a cool person i am and how i have 'everything going for me.'

    but then he says he 'doesn't want a relationship', he 'wishes he could have affection but struggles to get attached to girls now.'

    He's told me a few times that he sees me as a friend and doesn't have feelings for me but says he has no interest in a relationship with anyone and doesn't have feelings for anyone. Then once he said that 'maybe he'd want to be with me in the future, maybe not, he didn't know.'

    My friends have told me that he's clearly only interested in sex. I know i need to move on but I find his behaviour very confusing and that he gives mixed signals. does it sound like he's just afraid of commitment and is interested to an extent, or is there nothing there at all? Thanks
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    also, he's been single for years now, and apart from me hasn't really had anything with anyone else...
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    I don't get it sorry..? lol

    But yh FOOK HIM
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