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    The last guy I liked messed me up, I very much liked him to the point I'd want to say I loved him but held back. In the beginning he was the one that was attentive and want to call and so on but as I developed feelings he ended up airing me and not talking to me for days before even sending a message, I tried a lot because I really liked him. Regardless I got hurt and it HURTTTTTTTTT. Also the first guy I let my guards down for. This was over a year ago and I find that once a guy shows some interest in me and I start to develop feelings, I try to get out of the conversation or find ways to make it boring so he'll leave. BUT THIS MAKES NO SENSE IF I LIKE THE GUY. What do I do and why do I do this
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I got hurt and it HURTTTTTTTTT.
    No, really?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The last guy I liked messed me up, I very much liked him to the point I'd want to say I loved him but held back. In the beginning he was the one that was attentive and want to call and so on but as I developed feelings he ended up airing me and not talking to me for days before even sending a message, I tried a lot because I really liked him. Regardless I got hurt and it HURTTTTTTTTT. Also the first guy I let my guards down for. This was over a year ago and I find that once a guy shows some interest in me and I start to develop feelings, I try to get out of the conversation or find ways to make it boring so he'll leave. BUT THIS MAKES NO SENSE IF I LIKE THE GUY. What do I do and why do I do this
    I don't know.

    But if you know you're doing it, why don't you stop doing it?

    Unless you're bipolar or something
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    (Original post by shameful_burrito)
    No, really?
    yeah like a *****
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    (Original post by SGHD26716)
    I don't know.

    But if you know you're doing it, why don't you stop doing it?

    Unless you're bipolar or something
    I've tried doing that but it's like a voice in my head is saying it's not worth it and I'm scared he's going to do me wrong like the last guy
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've tried doing that but it's like a voice in my head is saying it's not worth it and I'm scared he's going to do me wrong like the last guy
    Next time, ignore that voice.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The last guy I liked messed me up, I very much liked him to the point I'd want to say I loved him but held back. In the beginning he was the one that was attentive and want to call and so on but as I developed feelings he ended up airing me and not talking to me for days before even sending a message, I tried a lot because I really liked him. Regardless I got hurt and it HURTTTTTTTTT. Also the first guy I let my guards down for. This was over a year ago and I find that once a guy shows some interest in me and I start to develop feelings, I try to get out of the conversation or find ways to make it boring so he'll leave. BUT THIS MAKES NO SENSE IF I LIKE THE GUY. What do I do and why do I do this
    What makes no sense is why didn't you put a question mark at the end. WHY? WHY WOULD YOU DO SUCH A THING?
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    Trust issues.
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    (Original post by CallMeSosa)
    Trust issues.
    I think you might be right, sadly.
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    If you like him, try speaking to him more instead. Don't push him away and establish trust in the friendship before you do anything else.
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    If you like him, try speaking to him more instead and ignore the voice in your head. Try to establish trust in your friendship before anything else.
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    Update:

    The guy that broke my heart messaged me, do i air him or give him a chance?!
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    Did you meet in person or was this online?
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    How bad did it hurt?
    bad or really bad?
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    (Original post by em211997)
    Did you meet in person or was this online?
    in person
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    How bad did it hurt?
    bad or really bad?
    Really bad, made me hate men for a longgg time
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    What did he message you? It might be time to draft a loooong reply... or just ignore him forever.
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    (Original post by shawn_o1)
    What did he message you? It might be time to draft a loooong reply... or just ignore him forever.
    After I told him he was toying with my feelings and that I no longer wanted to be more than friends I completely cut him out my life. He would pop up if I posted something to say I looked nice and stuff but I gave dead replies, but he popped up again asking me how I am and stuff and a lot more questions but mainly saying he's going through bad times. It doesn't feel right to ignore but at the same time I dont want to catch feelings for him again.
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    Well, if you have no interest in helping him out, it would be best to tell him no matter how it hurts.
 
 
 
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