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    i was casually seeing a friend but I developed feelings for him and wanted to know if it could become more.

    he told me that he really liked me, that i was very sexually attractive and that he really wanted to sleep with me, and that mentally we got on very well, that i had everything going for me; i was kind, funny, intelligent, interesting, but then he said we had 'different ways of living' and that he 'saw me more as a good friend.' and 'doesn't want a serious relationship.' i accepted this and tried to move on.

    then, when I moved on with somebody else he got jealous and had a go?!?!

    he doesn't want to be with me but doesn't want me to be with someone else..

    he wants us to be fwb again but I don't want to just sleep with him, I would like to have a relationship but I know that I love him, whereas he doesn't love me or even have any feelings.

    Is there anything that I could have done? My friend thinks that I 'came on too strongly and that it put him off.' And that if i'd played it cooler it could have worked... what do others think? Thanks
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    Give him an ultimatum and if he doesn't want to commit cut him loose, he's messing you around. Pursue someone else.
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    (Original post by chocolate dildo)
    Just have a 3some
    problem solved
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    Give him an ultimatum and if he doesn't want to commit cut him loose, he's messing you around. Pursue someone else.
    Yeah, he knows how I feel about him, and he says that it's not his fault, he can't force his feelings etc.. which I know is completely true. But it's my fault for going along with the FWB. I think I just need to stop blaming myself and move on even if it's hard...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah, he knows how I feel about him, and he says that it's not his fault, he can't force his feelings etc.. which I know is completely true. But it's my fault for going along with the FWB. I think I just need to stop blaming myself and move on even if it's hard...
    He doesn't like you in that way and is just using you. Imo you should tell him it's over and move on to someone else
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    These kind of guys are pathetic. The ones who say they dont want a serious relationship or even a relationship at all and get bare jealous when you move on? Like wtf?

    Guys like that are annoying and toxic and you should just get rid.
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    Thanks for the replies! Yeah I'm kind of sad as I thought we were also good friends but yeah at the end of the day I guess he is using me, but I also went along with it and he told me he didn't want a relationship.... my friend reckons that if I completely cut him off he'll probably realise and come back to me, but I doubt it lol
 
 
 
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