Still a Virgin in your Twenties? Some Advice...

I'm 25 but looking for the right woman all these women seem like hoes where I live not trying to get a disease is hard here

I am virgin and I think if man 25+ is virgin so probably he is ugly or very unattractive? Maybe if virgin need sex he should consider prostitute. But my situation is very bad because i need love, reliable partner which i can live and we can have deep relationship. This is for me more important than sex only. And this i cant buy it.

If you're feeling that you lack confidence, so you never try and initiate sex, remember that confidence can be feigned, just like everything else, there is serious truth in, "fake it till you make it"; I was always lacking in confidence when I was younger, but I thought, " **** it, what's the worst that can happen? Rejection? I don't know this person anyway, so nothing would be lost".

It's like sport climbing, the idea of the fall, is worse than the fall itself. Don't be afraid of rejection, it means almost nothing, in most cases.

Even if you think you're ugly as sin, I know 2 girls who are absolutely gorgeous, that are 20-odd virgins - they lack confidence.

Even if you really are ugly as sin, uglier people than you have gotten laid; confidence makes up for looks (I'm a testament to that).

I think that age doesn`t matter, I know a 35-y girl and she is vergin, but doesn`t care

If it bothers you that much, get on AdultWork.com and be done with it!

hurts if shes dry (sorry to sound vulgar) this is why foreplay is important. she needs to be turned on enough to get a bit wet down there and then she needs to be relaxed and he needs to go slowly. if he forces it in when shes not wet then naturally it will hurt bad.

Very true - with a few other things to keep in mind. I'm going to add to this because I kept hearing this before I did it the first time (at age 22 - which I thought was late at the time [which even two years later seems laughable]) and it creates the impression that if everything is "done right" then it won't hurt. Then when it wasn't exactly like that I felt like there must be something wrong with me.

In my case, and my boyfriend was very very very attentive, it still hurt despite lots of foreplay and him being sweet and considerate. It felt like exactly what it was - very thin, very sensitive flesh tearing. And maybe it was just me being an idiot but I was under the impression that it would hurt the one time (or even just briefly at the beginning of penetration) and then we would immediately start having amazing sex...The truth is, it hurt like the first 5 times we had sex. And the general discomfort lasted longer than that. Maybe that's partly because my bf is well-endowed (sorry there's so much about writing all of this out that's cringe-worthy) but i think it also just takes time to ... adjust a little to it all?

But practice definitely makes perfect.

And don't fret about not having lost your V-card by the "right" age. It's awesome with the right person and in the right mood but if you're not feeling the magic then it's just two people bumping uglies.

"Flesh tearing"??? that don't sound good at all, i have such a low pain tolerance. In fact that has made me not want to lose it...

It will almost always hurt first time because a lot of people need their hymen breaking (if not done so already).

A lot of the time it is down to the man thrusting too hard because he is eager. If you have someone who knows what they are doing then it shouldn't hurt.

i knew the first time would be uncomfortable but reading that...

thought i was ready but now my readiness has gone back a couple steps lol