my mum keeps saying... basically I've been cursed by something.
im 21 and she pesters me to go to uni every single day even if I don't want to.
Not gonna say what my background/ culture is because I don't want any preconceived judgement based on that.
so yh, I failed sixth form - took Physics, Maths, ICT and tech, snowball effect of depression (mainly the 2nd year)
took a year in college, good enough points to go to uni, declined offers because I wasn't interested.
Spent the next year doing a failed gap year, whilst retaking exams. But I volunteered because I couldn't get a job. Also, depressed.
Failed exams, but legit true best as I could. But went to uni the yeae later anyway. Dropped out after a week for a range of reasons, but mainly I didn't want to go.
now 21, from my volunteering exp. got a job, err decided to focus on hobbies I didn't do when I was younger, but too afraid..
So, I took a short filmmaking class. Spent ages working on a business because I'm crippled by anxiety and depressive thoughts. But I think I'm ready to launch(ish)
doing a bit of photography, and bit of film making alone.
Learnt basics of screenwriting, wrote a script , wasn't good so I'm rewriting it. learning.
Left my job working in the morning, saved money for the business, hoping I can scrape by. most of it is gone and I haven't launched yet. but optimistic.
Focused on improving my digital art skills to create art/ illustrations.
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But my mum keeps on telling me to go. we have arguments everyday, she brings up how my cousins are achieving. OK cool, but I'm thinking long term as well.
I tell her what I'm doing in parts, coz its unconventional - but I'm a failure in her eyes.
She wants me to go to uni and just to do any course so I have a degree, she also says that I don't need to do that job, just get the piece of paper. I can't...
Am I a failure? should I give in and go to uni?
I've isolated myself from my nuclear family, so I don't go to weddings etc, in part because I feel like I'm a failure but also I don't want to talk small talk and tell ppl what I'm doing - it sounds stupid. Also I feel like its counter productive saying that I've achieved something when I haven't.
Now she says I'm cursed because I'm always depressed, unhappy most of the time because I want to do things different from the norm. Every time this argument happens, it resets my mindset, my psyche and I have to motivate myself to keep going.
I'm going to leave home when I can afford to asap, but...
I just want it to stop, you no? I have no friends, I avoid social interactions because im not settled at all, I'm embarrassed by everything.
Give me your honest feedback, I'm still gonna do what I'm doing regardless.