Boyfriends ahhh

Hi guys,
i dont really want to waste your time with my problems, but i would be really grateful for any advice.

My situation is that I've been with my boyfriend (my ex's m8) for 2 months and he knows how far i went with my ex and is preasuring me to do 'stuff' for him, thing is i don't really like him i still like my ex and i'm only with his mate to make him regret leaving me. also i still want to keep in touch with my ex and this is a great for me to do that, i think in time i could love my boyfriend but i'm not sure, i know im not going to get back with ex though as he doesn't like me.

what do you think i should do

Reply 1

Lofty

13

Leave him?

Reply 2

Ice_Queen

17

Split up with your 'boyfriend'. What kind of trusting and worthwhile relationship is that?

Reply 3

randomgirl

14

You need to end this relationship. You are stringing this guy a long, it's better to end things sooner rather than later.

Reply 4

Mr Poopie Pants

What a bitch!

Reply 5

FadedJade

15

Trying to make someone else jealous is not a good reason to go out with someone, it will only hurt them in the end. (I know this from experience, it wasn't clever and people just ended up upset which doesnt get anyone anywhere.)

Reply 6

Meep!

9

Anonymous

i don't really like him i still like my ex and i'm only with his mate to make him regret leaving me.

That's just plain nasty. Does your boyfriend know this?

I think you should leave him. And then do some serious growing up.

Reply 7

Jono310

8

Anonymous

thing is i don't really like him

then you shouldnt be with him, end of.

Anonymous

i still like my ex and i'm only with his mate to make him regret leaving me.

possibly the worst plan ever concieved by anyone.

Anonymous

i know im not going to get back with ex though as he doesn't like me.

Er, if he doesnt like you he isnt going to regret leaving you!!

Seriously hun, this is a horrific thing to do to someone! you have to end it, but dont say you never liked him, or you will crush him, and its you that should feel bad, not him, so finish it before either of you gets really hurt.

Reply 8

Sunshine =]

Woah - slow down! Sounds like you've got yourself into a bit of a tangle.

First off - don't do anything that you don't want to.

And second - is revenge really the right way to go? Dealing with ex's is often complicated, but there must be a better way of keeping in touch with him than getting with his best friend. Obviously, no-one here knows the in's and out's of either relationship, and can't tell you exactly what to do, but it seems a bit like you've got really mixed up and have made a few rash decisions. Maybe it's worth sitting down and having a good sort out of your own head, decide what it is that you really want. Make your current boyfriend aware that you're uncomfortable with what he's asking you to do. But please don't string him along, that's a bit unfair. If you're only with him for the sake of revenge, then it's not fair. It'll only nd in tears if you carry on like this.

Maybe this is the perfect time for you to decide exactly what it is that you want.

Reply 9

randdom

20

This situation doesn't seem ideal for anyone involved. You were obviously hurt by your ex but getting together with his best friend isn't going to help anything. You have already said that you don't think that there is any chance of you two getting back together, so all that dating his friend is doing is keeping him in your life and prolonging the pain that you are in. It isn't a good idea for you and your best bet is to just end it now and take time to mend your broken heart.

It might be a good idea to have a think about the effect that this might have on your current boyfriend. How do you think he would feel if he knew that the only reason that you are dating him is because you are still hung up on your ex? If he falls in love with you this has the potential to really hurt him and if/when he finds out think of the damage that this could do to their friendship.

The best option for all of you is to end it civilly now before anyone get hurt.

Reply 10

73337

18

You're a bitch. Grow up, you're being pathetic.

Reply 11

namtlade

RedsNotDead

What a bitch!

Agreed. You've been with his friend for 2 months just to try and get back at your ex? You're a total bitch.

Reply 12

Guvnor

15

What a weirdo,so your just trying to get back at your ex. That is totally obssesive and pathetic, don't blame him for breaking up with you.Get a life.

Reply 13

Somewhat Damaged

Stop being a dick messing your current boyfriend around. Even if he is pressuring you.

Heh.
I dislike people who do things like that. Disgusting.

Reply 14

Spudder

2

I was in a relationship like that, it ****ing hurts.

Reply 15

Fairy.Dust.Forever

It's not worth tricking yourself for. The possibility of loving someone isn't worth giving your time and energy to. End it. Face up to the fact that your ex isn't interested and stop giving us girls a bad name. It's really easy to fall into this calculating bitchy web of deceit and lies.... but it's really not worth it. You'll hurt your 'boyfriend' and there's no way he deserves that! He must care about you and you're stringing him along! You'll hurt yourself in the process... not to mention the laughing stock your ex probably thinks you are. Have some self respect. Get out... NOW!

Reply 16

Basil Hallward

10

Do you not think that maybe your ex dislikes you because you're with his friend?

Reply 17

suicidal_dream

1

GAH.

This always ends in tears.

Seriously, grow up and accept that your ex doesnt want you back.
Leave your boyf cos you're only gonna hurt him and he doesnt deserve it!