just after some advice (mental health related)

Hey people. im after some advice on what to do, as im torn..

Basically i live in Nottingham with my boyfriend and friends. i have a job, i have uni, i run a record label.

However something along the line went wrong this year.. im now suffering from clinical depression, anxiety and semi-insomnia (i stay awake about 20 hours at a time). Ive suspended my uni year, and ive come to Norwich to spend time with my parents, who are understanding and look after me.

Im on medication (antidepressants), which is masking, rather than solving the problem. I know they're not the answer though and that i need time, support and therapy to get any chance of recovering. I also know that Norwich is the better place to do this.. as ive got my parents looking after me, and im away from the stresses that come with my life in Nottingham.

BUT... i like my job, and i dont want to lose it. I also want to carry on the record label.. its the only thing in my life with any meaning. I love my boyfriend, yet ive left him alone to do all the label-related work aswell as dealing with his own uni-related stress and deadlines. I feel SO guilty for leaving him with all the work... and i am SO worried about losing my job, which is obviously not helping on the anxiety-front.

so what do i do.. try and forget my job and boyfriend and conentrate on myself? or go back to work and the label and try and get help alongside the stress of normal life?

i know this hardly life or death, but id really appreciate any advice :smile:

Reply 1

generalebriety

Would your boyfriend not be able to be as supportive as your parents if you went back to Nottingham?

Reply 2

SoundDevastation

no... he's at uni full time (3rd year) and is stressing out over that.. he's also doing the record label and if i was there i would need to help him (as me being there would stop him from doing as much work as he could otherwise). My mum on the other hand, only works mornings.. she'd be able to take me to the doctors or whatever. she also buys me food... and we (my bf and i) have very little money, hence the need for the job.

Reply 3

YAP

I agree with you that support and therapy are key to your recovery, have you been referred for any sort of therapy?.

If your medication isn't achieving an adequate response, and you've tried it for at least a couple of months, kick up a fuss. Different medication works best for different people, and they can switch you onto something else to try that, or add something to your existing medication. What are you on right now, one of the first-line anti-depressants indicated for anxiety? (an SSRI such as citalopram/escitalopram, fluoxetine or paroxetine)

Reply 4

Angelil

Have you spoken to your employers?
If they're at all supportive then they should understand - is there any chance they could take on a temp to do your job until you're fully recovered? That way, you won't have to worry about being able to return to it when you're better.

Same goes for the record label. Encourage your boyfriend to delegate. Find some people who can help him look after it until you're in a position to look after it yourself again.

You really need to do these things, otherwise you will just worry about them and worrying will only hinder your recovery.

Reply 5

ticklepink

im sure your boyfriend is feeling for you and supporst your decision to get away for a while you are right you need to concentrate on yourself for a while and if you boyfriend is right for you then he will be there when your feeling yourself again you should be able to take time off work to recover with full pay so you shouldnt worry bout that if your doctor has given you a sick note that should cover you nd they cant sack you. so you should relax foget about everthing and concentrate on getting well.

Reply 6

SoundDevastation

cheers guys.. ive tried to sort out therapy but it take sooo long on the NHS, its going to be weeks before im even assesed. Im seeing a different doctor on friday... who im going to pester.

also going to phone work.. i dont like phoning work :frown:

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