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Female non-virgins....questions please

Was wondering, the guy who you lost your virginity to, how long had you known him for/how long were you together and what made you decide to lose it to him? Did any of you lose it despite religious convictions?

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Reply 1

jointhedots

I was 16, I'd known him for about six weeks and we'd been together for a month, we were together for a year and a half. I just liked him! I trusted him and we got on well and I felt comfortable with him. And if I'm honest, I just wanted to get it out the way.

Reply 2

hippieglitter

I was 17, i'd been with him for 4 months when i lost it to him and we went out for a further 14 months after that. I chose to lose it to him fora mixture of reasons, a few probably stupid and selfish and others not, but the main one being was at the time i loved him.

Reply 3

Ashley0

I was 15 years old. Lost it to my boyfriend of over 2 years and we're still together. I didn't wait long, but in all fairness...we're still going strong so I know I lost it to the right person :smile:

Reply 4

dani_88

I had just turned 17. We'd been together about 4 weeks. We stayed together for 2 and a half years in total. I just felt really comfortable with him, it wasn't planned but it just felt right. No regrets.

Reply 5

thebarmaidsmiles

Week before my 16th birthday. Had been with the guy 6 months (first bf) but to be fair it was more of a two-best-friends kind of thing. Pointless regretting it but it was pretty crap and wish I'd waited. He persuaded me by telling me he wasn't a virgin though which turned out to be a porky pie. Tsk.

Reply 6

Dream_Catcher

I was 15, I was his sisters best friend and had known him about 3 years. Had liked him for ages then when we finally got together I waited 3 weeks. I just knew I loved him * I'd waited long enough!!* We're still together, are engaged and planning for the future.

Reply 7

hull chic

I was 19 and lost it to a guy I'd known for 1 week and then was in a casual relationship with for 2 months. I don't regret it as such but I do wish I'd waited until I'd met my current boyf when it would have meant so much more.

Reply 8

Ariadne

Probably not the story you want to hear, but:

Lost it age 18 to a guy I'd been seeing for 2 months - I considered it a relationship, although with hindsight he clearly didn't! He apparently has a 'virgin fetish', and makes a point of sleeping with virgins and then gets bored: he dumped me the next day and I haven't seen him since. I don't regret losing it, I do regret who I lost it to, if that makes any sense.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

Waiting is not always the best thing. I have been with my bf for 4 years and are both virgins.

In hindsight I wish we'd lost it a lot earlier, as now the pressures of having sex after waiting so long is awful :frown:

Reply 10

natsing

I was older than I should have been, I barely knew the guy and never saw him again. It was necessary to get me over the complete fear I had about guys and sex at the time, and I have no regrets, I wouldn't have had the courage to meet my fiance without it!

Reply 11

China Doll

I was 17, and i'd been with him for two/three weeks seems rushed but we automatically connected we were both virgins and its what we both wanted and im still with him now. i don't regret it in the slightest.

not againt my religion as im undecided but i can say if ythe religion is for a person themselves then they should do what they want, if it's for the parents then go ahead, not everyone beleives in the same rules.

Reply 12

Anonymous #2

I was just gone 19, had known him about 6 weeks, had been going out for 1 week. He pressured me into it quite a lot, so I decided to wait a while til we did it again, then he dumped me for being 'too innocent'. He was a dick.

I don't regret losing it, but I do regret the circumstances.

Reply 13

Anonymous #3

We had known each other on the internet for two and a half years, and it was the third time we had met in person.

Reply 14

Angelil

Haha, interesting situation here.

I met my boyfriend online in November 2004. In December 2004 we both admitted that we had feelings for one another. On New Year's Day 2005 he invited me to come and visit him in Paris (where he was studying at the time). In February 2005 I went, and I did lose my virginity to him that weekend (not on a whim - we did discuss it quite thoroughly before I went). So depending on your perspective, I'd either known him for 1 day or for 4 months, and been with him for either 2 months or 1 day.

I decided I wanted to lose it to him because I felt something for him that I'd never felt for anyone before. When I met him in real life that only made me even more sure. I've never had any regrets about doing that. We're still together.

He's never really had much religious conviction but while I believed in God at the time, my inclination towards Christianity was on a rapid downward spiral. My take on it was that if there is a God, then he's unlikely to mind too much about two people who are in a loving relationship.

We were both virgins. I was 18 (almost 19). He was 23.

Reply 15

squeak

I was 15, had known my boyfriend for around 7 months, and had been dating him for 6 when i had sex with him. i was with him for 2 years after that. i have no regrets about it. it was perfect. and i'm not religious -so that didn't come into it.

Reply 16

Lizbut

I lost it to a prick who gave the excuse "I feel like I'm stealing your innocence" AFTER HE'D ACTUALLY STOLEN IT. He is a complete ^%*$£ and I hate him. He is well known around these parts for being a ****, he tries to pass himself off as a photographer and in total, he's an ignorant, arrogant sadact with no real friends. I was labelled by his ex as "a poor and naive girl", which now I see is true, I wasn't thinking straight clearly.

Oh, he's 23 by the way, and has never had a girlfriend older than 20 :smile:

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He is disgusting. I was somewhat drunk at the time and he took advantage, telling me that he could see us being together for a long time etc. People talk about him a lot as he takes pictures for the local bands, and during sex he actually said "You're ******* a celebrity, I hope you know that".

He is vile.

Reply 17

Symph

Lost it when I was (and still am) 17. I had been with my boyfriend technically for a few months though he was away for one and a half of them. Although I was the virgin (he's been around) it was actually me who initiated it, I know it was because I felt ready but I suspect alcohol helped speed up the process as well. We're still together now so I must have done something right!

Reply 18

SoundDevastation

Angelil

I met my boyfriend online in November 2004. In December 2004 we both admitted that we had feelings for one another. On New Year's Day 2005 he invited me to come and visit him in Paris (where he was studying at the time). In February 2005 I went, and I did lose my virginity to him that weekend (not on a whim - we did discuss it quite thoroughly before I went). So depending on your perspective, I'd either known him for 1 day or for 4 months, and been with him for either 2 months or 1 day.

I met my boyfriend online too... in December 2004.

We ended up going to uni together a year later (a mere coincindence, although we had feeling for each other and had discussed going out). We slept together after having actually been together at uni a week (both 18, both virgins). We were sober... been together 2 1/2 years now :smile:

Reply 19

Segat1

He was a boyfriend I'd been with for about 6 months, and tbh I just wanted to lose the ****ign v plates and see what the fuss was about. I was 16 btw and was leaving for my exchange OS in about 2 days time so I figured may as well. Halfway through, his mother knocked on the door and said there was a phone call for him. He repluies "not....now....mum" and then I got the giggles. We'd talked a lot about it beforehand and stuff.